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    Hi i was walking around last night and this guy grabs me to give him a dance. He was sitting with a new girl. She watched as I gave him two dances. Then he asked her if she wanted a dance from me she said " No. I really do not like getting dances." He went to get a drink and I polietly said " Ya know I know you might not like getting dances but it really helps the girl out. Even if you don't think the girl is cute or whatever. It is a fast way to make friends and afterwards I could of turn to him and say " now I want a dance !" That way we could of both made money" She really didn't have anything to say. I said it really sweet and non intimadating. I just said it for further referance I really wasnt trying to get her to change her mind or anything. When i was new i still had enough sense do not turn another dancer down for a dance!! She has to make money too. In fact this other girl and i would switch dancing for eachother while our customer watched and we both made an easy 140 each. Do you think I said the right thing in this situation. I didn't want to intimidate her or anything. I know alot of the girls at my club wouldn't have been that nice!! ???

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    Yes I think you did the right thing. How is she going to learn if no one takes the time to help her out?
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    It's great you wanted to help her...all in favor of that!

    If I'm with a guy and he tips other dancers...fine, I'll help him tip her...no problem. But I don't want a dance. I think that's strange. I don't enjoy having another woman dance for me. I know we are all there to make money, but there is enough to go around.

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    I'm a solo hustler myself, but the situation proposed here has mad money-making potential. I may not fancy the idea of doing doubles (two dancers for one guy) but I would leap at the chance to dance for a girl and then switch, all on the customer's dollar.

    In the end, there is no difference between dancing for a woman and dancing for a fat/old/ugly/annoying customer. The payment is equally green and spendable and I was never aware of some unwritten motto that dancers only dance for people who turn them on.
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    I never turn down a dance with a woman, giving or receiving. Even when I go to the clubs as a customer with my guy friends, I will always accept a dance, we must support each other...

    Despite my mad lesbian tendencies, I also do not really care to get dances. But hey, its not like I'm at the dentist's office or anything.....what's the WORST that could happen, hahaha?

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    I think you said the right thing...she may have been feeling "hurt" that her customer bought dances from you and that was what she was working on him for. So, saying that just gave her another scenario to make money. I say that as long as you aren't bitchy or mean about it, then it's all good.

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    Any dancer who turns down that situation is not very savvy if you ask me. We're at work to make money, HELLO! If a customer wants to watch you get a dance from another girl, take it with a smile and then switch so you both make money. Duh! Hell it's even easier than dancing for the guy because you KNOW the other dancer isn't going to be groping all over you and doing that 'open-mouth bass' move that someone mentioned on here before. I guess I have no patience for girls like this. Yeah I fly solo too, but when the customer *asks* for it, I'll damn well oblige and work him for every dollar I can. Two girls can easily get way more than one, and if you selfishly think you'll hustle him for all his money yourself instead of sharing with another girl, well you're WRONG WRONG WRONG. If he fancies seeing two-girl dances and you turn him down, he's going to look elsewhere, so someone else will make the money leaving you with nothing!

    Lilac, hell yeah you were right to tell her something, and I think you could have been a bit more firm about it. Like tell her this is how we make money and she needs to get with the program!

    Heh, I guess I'm feeling a little snappy today, but honestly, I have no patience for clueless selfish girls who can't understand basic hustling techniques and the benefits of teamwork.

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    I think you was right as well Lilac. Also why she sitting down instead of getting dances. :oShe's messing up her money flow.

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    Lilac you were absolutley right to say something.

    I have my own problem with a couple of newbies at my club...

    At the end of the night these two newbie girls sit on the floor and spread out all thier money. Stacking, restacking, counting aloud, recounting, recounting... it's like they aren't happy unless everyone in the lockerroom has heard how much they made. I think they are not only tacky, but also begging for trouble. I half want to say something, to give them some helpfull advice on being discreet--and then my evil half just wants to wait until they get robbed and learn the lesson the hard way. Problem is, one of these chics has a locker right next to mine and I don't want my money getting stolen by mistake, as I have a similar stash but know better that to let anyone see it.
    Hmmm what to do...

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    Being a new dancer, could it have been that she just wasn't thinking? I think when most of us enter the business, unless we have a mentor, our hustling skills are lacking. I think it's good that you told her in a gentle manner and now that she understands, she will be better off.
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    Yes, that was a good idea to tell her. I've never been one to turn down doing doubles or getting dances. I love women, but it is kind of awkward getting them, however, doing doubles I usually like (if there is a nice amount of space). Even if you aren't a ladies' lady, hell, it's a dumb idea NOT to do the dances because it's part of the job--selling fantasies! Doubles are often a great money-maker.

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    Mariah, in your situation I'd say something - you are right to be concerned about your locker being broken into by mistake. Just tell them they should keep their money to themselves and not flash it about and count it all in the open, because someone WILL steal it eventually, if for no other reason than to spite them for being so obnoxious and tacky. Are they dumb enough to think the other dancers aren't making money too? Geez!

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    Lilac, you were fine. I'm a newbie still, and though I don't think I've ever refused another dancer a chance for a dance, I've done some danser faux pas myself, soooo...

    I do better at hustling with the portion of dancers equaling the number of guys in the group. If it's one guy, one dancer. Three buddies, three dancers - that way one can gaud the guy without it being towards you "com'on, you know you want to get a dance from Stacy there! She's awesome!" and no one feels left out - I've noticed that, guy doesn't want to be the ONLY one getting a VIP, but if you convince both guys, "well, he's going so I'll go" mentality.
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    Lilac, I think you did the right thing.. Absolutely. You were more than kind by even bothering to explain things to her. It's all about the $$$$ after all and she'll need to learn that or move on to another job.
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    I wouldnt have been that nice, so you get serious props from me! If another dancer turned me down for a dance in front of a customer, I would be insulted and pissed. Thats how we make our money and it could possibly give the customer the idea that something was wrong with me, that he wasnt aware of.


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    I think you handled it right. I always try and help out the new girls but sometimes they have more attitude than the veteran girls
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    You totally did the right thing. Props for being kind. It's hard to do sometimes when it comes to money. Since she is new she might just be freaked out by everything and have no clue how to act. Maybe you should refer her to stripper web.
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    I feel bad...after reading these posts...

    I don't like doing doubles, that's just me...I worked as a pair for years and frankly just got sick of it....now I'm solo. But for me my situation is different at work. We're a small bunch of girls that are pretty tight and we all know who does doubles and who doesn't. So I appologize if it seems like I wasn't in support...put in that situation if I worked somewhere else I would have to accept the dance even if I didn't like it.

    I'd never want another girl to feel like there was something wrong with her...especially if she was a newbie. I should've clarified my position better.

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