Ladies I would like some advice/suggestions if you please-I've just had a night that has me freaked. Here's the story:
About a week ago a guy comes into the club. He's from FL (I'm in NY). He's apparently visiting his brother (who lives approx 1/2 hour away from my club). I talked to him for maybe two songs then did 5 dances with him. Said he adored me and would be back to the club to see me.. would love to get the chance to date me..blah blah blah. He then left for the night. That was the first time I had ever seen him.
Now, a week later Saturday night-I go in to work where I have a regular scheduled to meet me at the beginning of my shift. So at the beginning of my shift, I go out onto the floor and greet my regular when I'm tapped on the shoulder (interrupted from my conversation) from this "new guy" from last week. He starts gushing about how good it is to see me, how he was in on Thursday but I wasn't working..etc. and he requests to go into the VIP room. I explained I'm talking to someone right now (duh!) and I would be over in a minute.
Turning back to my regular-I appologize for the interruption and find out if he's ready to go into the VIP (trying to gauge whether I could fit this new guy in before our session or not) But I couldn't, my regular was ready to go into the VIP. So I excused myself for a moment from my regular explaining that I wanted to give the "new guy" a heads up. No problem.
Back to the "new guy"-I let him know that it's good to see him, etc but I had a scheduled regular. Hell I'll just write out the conversation probably be easier to read and shorter that way:
Me: "I appologize, but I have one guy in front of you so I can't go into the VIP with you right now"
"New Guy": "That's ok, I understand that you have others that you have to attend to".
Me: "Thank you. But I do want to give you warning-he (regular) usually does at least 14 dances, so I'm going to be a while. I will completely understand if you want to find someone else tonight as it'll be a while before I'm out"
"New Guy": "14 dances! Geez that's not fair! But I'll wait, I don't want to see anyone but you."
I thank him and go to leave when he stops me and says "I've told my mother about you-and she said since I'm so enamored, that I should do what I can to be with you. So I've been talking to my old boss, and I may start working for him again so I can be closer to you ( meaning in NY rather than FL) I can't imagine the look on my face and I said "you can't be serious?" (at that point I really wasn't taking him seriously)... then not wanting to keep my regular waiting any longer, I told him I'd talk to him later.
Now my regular ended up doing 25 dances with me. I come out of the VIP room and my DJ comes up to me and says "Geez! In one night you've managed to get me yelled at twice, the bouncer and one of the dancers yelled at too". Apparently after I had been in the VIP room a while the "new guy" started going crazy-yelling at everyone, demanding to know when I'd be out of there etc. After screaming at the DJ a second time he finally left. Some disturbing comments he said to the DJ and one of the other dancers:
"It's not fair for that guy to monopolize her time like this!-I drove in from out of town to see her"
"I'm seriously considering not going back to FL. because I want to be with her"
"I can't believe she's been in there for two f**king hours! TWO f**cking hours!"
"I have more money than that Old guy! Next time I'm going to come in here with $10,000 and spend it on everyone but her!"
You get the jist. Now this reaction is downright scarey. I tried to warn him and let him know what to expect. I'm not quite sure what else I could have done. If I would have fit him in beforehand, I would have upset my regular, so instead I gave him the heads up and gave him other options. I'm not even sure what upsets me more-his reaction to me being in the VIP room for so long, or the fact that he's really considering not going back home to FL. In any case it spells bad news. I mean my God, he's "known" me for a total of maybe 1/2 hour and now this?
Now here are my questions. What could I have done differently to prevent this? and What do I do now if he comes back into the club? His behavior is telling me to cut him off, but t the same time, this guy doesn't seem to be very logical-do I really want to piss someone like this off? I've been stalked in the past-and I don't think I really have it in me to go through it again-it's horrible. I'm afraid being stalked again will break me.
I appologize for this being so long-I'm just really freaking out.




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