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    I have been looking at jobs opportunity's and there are none in my area. I was thinking of opening one maybe renting an apartment but it costs alot of money to intial start up. One girl I know renst hotel room across the united states and does dom sessions. The only thing I am worried about is psycho's. Does anyone know about safety and screening. Can you point me to the right resources.
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    I know a girl that does this and I talked to her about it.

    It seems like a HUGE investment because of the start-up costs. It costs a lot to make a dungeon and get all the toys you want. The floggers run $100 and up for the nice ones (and you want the nice ones.)

    Also I asked her what she makes and it really wasn't that much. There is a lot of downtime. Even though she'd charge $200 per hour session, she wouldn't do that many....maybe one or two per day. It's also very taxing. These guys will take a lot more out of you (emotionally) than a regular guy.

    I think you run the risk of psychos in dancing too. She didn't mention anything about any problems with that though.

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    You will have much better luck with your "verbal slaves." No start up fee, no major equipment, no basement/dungeon.

    These guys pay wome to call them names. Verbal, extreme hardcore words. They get off on this. They troll the net looking for this type of woman. They are NOT into pain or sex.

    They usually are men in a high position as the other fetish guys, and want a release.

    It's cool how many guys just want to be told to bark, crawl and be yelled at for say $100, in person!!! Verbal humiliation does sell!!! Can be tough on the phone for some, but easier in person.....i know...Lol.

    Pamela

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    Pamela is right. I have had a slave that was very much a verbal type. I treated him like a real slave though, and made him do domestic duties on his hands and knees while I whipped him with a switch or my phone charger. I was very mean to him, and he liked this. I wasn't paying anybody out, and he would pay me in favors, like buying furniture and moving it for me, buying my food, etcetera.

    It isn't expensive, it's lucrative!
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    Lol Juliette! I just LOVE those types of guys!

    Pamela

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    Juliette, that sounds like a great arrangement. I hope you kept him around for a while.

    If dom is a side gig and not your main income source, it seems like being paid in gifts and favors would work out well for both of you.


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    anybody know where i could find out more information about this kind of stuff?

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

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    Yes Topaz if your gutsy enough hit a Yahoo chat that is made by a member, look for Femdoms, Money slaves, etc. They are out there.

    One warning, the ladies in the room do not like newbies entering. I myself have heard of this from a friend, and tried it, i found a few nice people who wanted to buy pantyhose from me.

    But i am not into chat rooms, so i let it go. You work it you may get someplace with the guys.

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    thanks Pam...

    i found a couple of sites...and some titles for some books on D&S...S&M...etc...let the research begin!...

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    I love this stuff.....

    guide to flogging:
    http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/floginst.html

    look for the link to the illistrated dictonary:
    http://www.bdsmcafe.com/resource/act...activityx.html

    online negotiation form (gotta have safe sane consentual):
    http://www.io.com/~ambrosio/dating/neg_form.html

    Thats all I have on this computer, I have more links in my favs on the laptop.

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    well well ms. ami...interesting stuff...

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    I worked as a domina during my first few years of dancing and one thing that I have found to be true.........it's not good work for those that hate men, I recommend it solely for those who like and understand the male animal. Romanticism and personal issues have no place in this field---you think stripping can put wear and tear on the weak minded? Try getting deep into the mind of the masochistic and sexually repressed.
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    tell the ladies at femdom that...'cause a lot of them claim to hate men...and get a kick out of humiliating them...


    you know what...fuck it...i'm through sharing my ideas here...i mean why should i...just to get shot down...and called weak minded...

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Topaz link=board=10;threadid=7218;start=msg86671#msg8667 1 date=1079845446
    tell the ladies at femdom that...'cause a lot of them claim to hate men...and get a kick out of humiliating them...


    you know what...fuck it...i'm through sharing my ideas here...i mean why should i...just to get shot down...and called weak minded...

    Topaz my last post wasn't directed at you. Why would you take it so personally?
    and FYI. part of the fantasy as a domina is that you DO hate men, just like the standard fantasy for a dancer is that she is in lust with that particular man, and the prostitute fantasy is that she is a nympho.. OF course there are exceptions to every rule on both sides. I'm just saying from my experience and the other doms I worked closely with over the last 7 years, getting too into your " role " can really f*** you up.

    But on the other hand I'm happy to see you sticking up for yourself even for a misperceived wrong!


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    Janet Jackson

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina link=board=10;threadid=7218;start=msg86681#msg8668 1 date=1079847542
    But on the other hand I'm happy to see you sticking up for yourself even for a misperceived wrong!
    actually topaz I though you were saying f*** me..That what the congrats was about. My misread........
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    Janet Jackson

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    I almost forgot... alt.com
    its gotten a little commercial, and its no place to advertise if you wish to be paid. its really just a hookup place but it has some info.

    here is a general BDSM purity test:
    http://www.armory.com/tests/bdsm.html
    (I got 58% pure on this one)

    Amazon actually has some books...
    http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...938097-0494521
    The Mistress Manual is consitered the best.

    this seems like a good site although I havent gone through all of it yet:
    http://www.drkdesyre.com/info/resources/Resources2.html


    and of course, the all important Safe Sane Consensual:
    http://members.fortunecity.com/chezmoi/ssc.html

    that is from here:
    http://members.fortunecity.com/chezmoi/vtrt.html

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    to share an FYI if anyone else aside from me is considering this...you can get arrested and slapped with prostitution charges in some states...i faintly remember my sister saying it happened to her a while back...the charges were later dropped...but still...

    Dominatrix services are illegal in some states...in others they are not...just wanted to share that with those who didn't already know...

    and you WILL get the idiots that want sex...which doesn't surprise me in the least bit...

    (edit to add

    this information doesn't discourage me from pursuing this by the way...

    with so many sc patrons singing the praises of the willing and oh so eager extra's girls...and so many more wanting...expecting...and seeking them out...i'd rather do this...and take my chances...

    most domm clientel don't expect sex...and that's what i'm talking about.
    (end-of-edit)

    well...back to my research...

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    I've been interested in doing this kind of work as well. Where could I learn more about how to do this? I'd like to see if it's for me... Do girls every work together? That sounds like it'd be fun.
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    In my ongoing research...It seems that most ProDommes work alone during sessions...They may have another Domme with them for clients that want to be dominated by two Females...

    Two books I have on order:

    'The Art of Sensual Female Dominance'
    'Female Domination'


    Others I plan to purchase:

    'The Mistress Manual'
    'The Sexually Dominant Woman, a workbook for nervous beginners'
    'Forget the Roses...Give me the thorns'
    'S/M 101'
    &#039ifferent Loving'


    (at Amazon.com of course)

    All of the above are geared toward lifestyle BDSM'ers...and lifestyle FemDoms...but there aren't any 'How to be a ProDomme in 100 easy steps...' type sites or books out there...as far as I can tell...

    It also seems to be that a lot of Pro's are Lifestyle Dommes as well...and I find myself A BIT more than a little intriged by the lifestyle...to a certain extent...

    The sites in this thread and in the 'Learn about fetish...' thread are good places to start learning more about BDSM and fetishes (if you don't already know about, or have experiences with/in them)...

    I'm just learning myself...so I won't be of any help as to how to get into the business...but there seems to be a great demand for this type of service...If you just wanted to be a ProDomme...

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    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    I have been a lifestylist now for years and to be honest started as a prodomme. I hated it. Most of the "submissives" that I had in session were looking for release which I DID NOT allow in any way shape or form. Most "submissives"( and I say submissives because they are not just men all the time) that are paying for domination want more than just Dom/sub play they are looking for some form of sex either perfomed on them , by them or at the least being able to J.O..
    I do not recall who said it here but yes in most states you can be arrested for prostition and/or assault.

    Some look at the lifestyle as an easy way to make money... "all i have to do is spank someone call them names and be a bitch and they will pay me?" .... but trust me it isnt that easy. My training to be a recongized Domme took 2 years!!! And well alot of experienced subs will not give themselves to a Domme who isnt trained or has just finished Her training. Also it takes a long time of "playing" with someone and developig a trust relationship in order so you don't accidently go to far and really hurt someone. I have seen way to many "Doms" hurt their submissives unintentionally and one even ended up in a mental hospital because he broke her down so much.

    If you are going to look farther into the lifestyle or even get into BDSM pro. please do alot of research and learn all you can before jumping into it with both feet ,both about the lifestyle and about the laws in your area. Also DO NOT just take on any old sub that contacts you... you don't know if this person has a thing about a Dominate women just to take control away from you and hurt you in some way. Some people want a fight from their victams.

    Hope this helped out in some way and if you would like to talk privately about this more you can e-mail me.

    BTW Topaz... those books are an awsome read especially S/M 101...and Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns( is the proper title ).... A Different Kind of Loving tends to focus more on bedroom Dom/sub relationships tho.


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    Does having it kinda right count (the book title that is)...

    Anyway....None of the information you provided...surprises me (I know someone personally who has done this professionally for a few years...although she's not a lifestyle domme)....

    Which is why I'm researching this stuff...and buying books on the subject...I want to learn as much as I can before I even think about trying to apprentice (sp) with someone...and I'd like to explore the lifestyle some too...

    Thanks again girl...
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    no problem hun anything I may help you out with just ask


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    How popular is Phone Domination?

    I noticed (in my on-line research) that a few Pro Dommes do this in addition to their one-on-one business...and how can you tell the real Domme sites from the porn/phone sex ones...

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    Topaz,

    I did a little bit of phone sex once. About70-80% of the customers wanted some sort of S/m play.

    If you're interested, put yourself up on keen.com for a couple days to see if you like it. If you do you can always either advertise your keen service or sign up with a ps company.

    Lena



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