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    ladies: How many of you have had experiences with a guy who... can't stay hard, cums too soon, or can't cum at all?

    guys: how often has the above happened to you? (come on we will still think ur manly)

    Just wondering how common these situations really are. Sex just ain't like it is on tv...

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    This is rich Krys..
    I have had my share of sexual let downs ! Too bad some guys don't come with warning signs !
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    YES!! I have also had my share of men who cum in 2 seconds, and partners that have no clue what they're doing. I've never been with a man that I can honestly say was GREAT in bed, or even very good for that matter. Where are the real casanovas out there?

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    the only time i lost it was when a woman told be she had ovarian cancer pretty much in the middle of sex.

    Um, no, i wasn't able to finish (Wanna talk about killing the mood!).

    She says "Not too hard, i have tumors"

    I'm thinking: "wtf did she just hit me with???????"

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    Main problem I have found is guys cumming too soon, but with a longterm partner it's easy to work around this problem. You just have to learn their body language and know when to back off whatever your doing at the moment or switch to a new sensation. Learning to be a good tease is a girls best friend at times

    As far as having a guy not stay hard or be able to cum- it hasn't happened to me thakgoodness !

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    Har har har.. Yah, most guys will fess up that their early sexual experiences left much to be desired. I remember a time when 38 seconds was the unattainable goal. That was loooong ago, really. lol.

    Honestly, from 16-22, most guys don't have clue one what they hell they are doing. Only with time and experience can anyone start to realize what it's all about.

    But to be fair, the door swings both ways. Guys- how many women have you been with that just kinda lay there motionless, with that stupid confused/anguish look of "can't find my rate in the tax booklet" going on, accompanied by inhibited and rhythmic goat-ish sounds? Yah yah, you know the ones.
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    yes... i have amazing sex with my new boyfriend... the only problem is that he cums in like 2 minutes... and we have sex all the time... he is 22... and i am not his first... and we do it all the time... the longest ever was like 5 minutes... it drives me crazy... anyone have any solutions?

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    IMO, most people in general aren't very good in the sack. The women of this persuasion think they don't really have to do anything because the guy just needs to stick it in and he's happy. The men of this persuasion only want to get their dick in, and apparently think that's all there is to it other than the obligatory pushing back and forth rapidly for about 30 seconds to cum. Too bad we don't have radar for this, so the average lays can stick together, and the rest of us can enjoy each other

    Heehee, but I do enjoy training one now and then. It's fun to take some raw talent and mold it just how you like it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by heidi link=board=1;threadid=7258;start=msg82531#msg82531 date=1078824093
    yes... i have amazing sex with my new boyfriend... the only problem is that he cums in like 2 minutes... and we have sex all the time... he is 22... and i am not his first... and we do it all the time... the longest ever was like 5 minutes... it drives me crazy... anyone have any solutions?

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    Heidi, as previously mentioned, you have to learn his body language and notice when to back off, slow down, whatever, to not let him come so soon. Of course he also needs to learn to 'hold it'. My bf now (23) could apparently fuck all day if it didn't wear me out :tongue: I asked him about it once, and he said he could cum in 30 seconds, but he just holds it. Now I know most guys who last longer than 2 minutes are probably holding it, but it's rare to find one who can just go on and on so long. Older or younger.

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    The only time I ever went soft was once. One of the rare one-night-stands ... as I'm normally not into those. We clicked right off from the bat early in the evening and spent the rest of the time together. It was a giant group date and it quickly was just the two of us with these other people we sort of knew around us. *laugh* Anyway, we ended up at her place. Then the moment came when she got undressed.

    Oh my god, the memory of that undressing still freaks out my brain cells when I think about it.

    She went from an C-cup to an A-cup. Nothing shocking with that. I always find that humorous. I'm into the overall package so breast size isn't the end-all-be-all for me. Though when she drops two cup sizes, I usually am interested in how this illusionary trick was accomplished. Hers was the standard "inserts" (a.k.a. foam wedges). Lots and lots of them. However...

    This was the first time I ever saw a woman actually wear a corset AND need it. Not one of those sexy corsets sold by Victoria's Secret, but one of those industrial-strength engineering marvels sold by Sears that hold back the forces of nature. One moment, she was hour-shape. The next moment, she was looking like a worked-over lump of dough. But it gets "better". *insane laugh*

    She had lots of stretch marks and tattooes. I'm not really into tattooes and especially, as was the case with her, when they're just done haphazardly (a.k.a. the "meaningful" tattooes). But what was worse was the one around her vagina. Let's just say that it has never been my fantasy to have my penis eaten by what I could only guess was a rabies-infected badger.

    A hairy badger at that. I almost wanted to inform her that the razor she used on her armpits could also be used on the lower body as well. Though I think she would have to use a lawn mower to get it down to where she could use a razor. And it was batchy and not uniform even.

    I went from hard to soft, from horny to mentally wanting to flee, and from excited to wanting to barf. Did I mention the pimples all over her butt?

    However, I played it as my fault. That I was impotent due to some unknown reason. "This has never happened to me before." Technically, that wasn't a lie. I acted confused and embarrassed. She consoled me and said "Don't feel bad. This happens to a lot of guys." I mentally thought, "I bet it does when they see the real you!"

    By the way, when I talked to other guys about this (not revealing her name, of course), they also said they have done the same. They played the impotence card when the woman gets undressed and turns out to be ... hmmm ... how can I put this diplomatically ... hmmm ... I cannot ... when she turns out to be ugly. And I hear this a lot from husbands whose wives have blimped out after getting married. Guys do this since it is just plain easier to be "the" problem than pointing the finger at the real problem. One you get their sympathies and the other you hurt their feelings. Besides, maybe there is some guy out there whose sexual fantasy is to be screwed by a rabie-infected badger with haphazard tattooes and the muscle tone of a lump of Play Doh.

    So, yes, I thoroughly agree with Farrah about people coming with warning signs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=1;threadid=7258;start=msg82535#msg82535 date=1078824815
    Heidi, as previously mentioned, you have to learn his body language and notice when to back off, slow down, whatever, to not let him come so soon. Of course he also needs to learn to 'hold it'. My bf now (23) could apparently fuck all day if it didn't wear me out :tongue: I asked him about it once, and he said he could cum in 30 seconds, but he just holds it. Now I know most guys who last longer than 2 minutes are probably holding it, but it's rare to find one who can just go on and on so long. Older or younger.
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    I wish we could know ahead of time if the guy is a" 2 second Charlie" Nothing like being all worked up and having to take care of business yourself. But like everyone has said, a man can be trained, knowing his body and his signs. And guys a little hint if its your first time with a girl, try masturbating before you have sex or before your date. I have found that this worked with an ex boyfriend.
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    WOW PP, that story, although bad for you, just cracked me up. As you were explaining it, I played it out in my head. What a visual. HAHAHAHA
    Be careful next time!!!! heheh

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    I sometimes have a problem of not being able to cum when I am with a women for the first time(especially if I have known her causually a while). I think I am concentrating on making her happy instead of mutal satisfaction. :P
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    Rascal and Pumpkin Pie, you guys are too damn funny!!!

    My problem is with guys that take too long to come. Where is the medium??
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    Yah, im terrible with my dick. Im not big and i dont last long. But i am a great lay. Very good at foreplay and passionate sex.

    Have i ever had problems keeping it up? yah, once or twice. but it was after having cum previously. especially if i try to get it going again too quickly after cumming, i can have trouble keeping it up again.

    certain anti-depressants can keep guys from cumming. so if you're having a problem with him not finishing, that may be why.

    im usually pretty quick from the point of penetration. but it seems i last longer if im doing a quickee than more of a "love making" type session. I think its because in quickee's i dont get the stimulation from the hours of "foreplay." which is what really gets me off.

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    I'm somewhat different. I have, as long as I can remember, always been able to control exactly when I come. I usually try to match my partner's mood....sometimes we're both in the mood for a quickie, sometimes our sessions can last for 2 hours or more.

    I am usually into slow, sensual buildup, and wait until my partner has come several times before I finally bring the session to conclusion.

    I think it is a combination of things...some physical control, but mostly mental. Sex happens between the ears, not between the legs.
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    God...I've had a lot of bad lays. One guy...hehe. It was the first time we were having sex (but he'd had lots of partners before me). I slid onto him, and just as he got fully in, he came. He was pretty embarrassed.

    Another guy only ever got 75% hard, maximum. It was really really bad--most of the time, it was too floppy to do much with--we had to squish it into me. He didn't seem to think there was any problem, and I didn't want to embarrass him by asking him why he wasn't hard. Sex with a not-hard cock is terrible. I didn't feel anything, and he kept slipping out so we'd have to smush it back in again. Ugh.


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    I have never known a woman who can cum multiple times during a session. I've heard alot of guys talking about how they always make their partner cum several times before letting go themselves, but I've never once heard a woman talking about it, and it's certainly never happened to me. Perhaps these women are indulging the guys in a little fantasy? I know I have done it before

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    I'm 38 now, but in my younger days I was "Quick-Draw McGraw". Now I can go alot longer, but it's hard to give the wife the big "O". I think if I could wear ear-muffs I could do it, because I'm fine until she starts getting close and starts in with the moaning that makes me want to cut loose if you will! Now if I've been drinking,I can go all night. One other problem I've had is I started having panic attacks about 7 years ago & I'm on Paxil now. Paxil was a life saver for me but it kills your sex drive.
    So now i'm taking Vitamin V! I'm really interested in trying out Cialis.
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    Ya know.......talked to a friend of mine about the whole 'foreplay' issue. I simply asked her if "Women enjoyed when a guy went down on them for a while". Her response..."YEA. But only to an extent." Then she quickly came back....."But when I cum.....it's all over. Im done for the night!" Meanwhile....im sitting there....going.....wait a minute! I asked her......"What about the guy......you going to satisfy him?" Then she told me.........."But I'm already done.....ehheheheheh".

    So ladies........how is it? Will you give it back in the name of foreplay? Or are you done for the night?

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    MMM...Seeexxxxxx....
    Oo a thread I can post in with my problem that may possibly get answered.

    Okay, I am 24 and have been with one person for almost two years now. I have had a few other partners before, just for a little more info. Anyways, we have good sex when we had it on a regular basis. Well it has slowed down quite a bit. He is too concerned on making me cum or have that big bang ending...which I have never had in my life...I enjoy pleasing him and it feels great for me, but he says he doesn't see why we need to hae sex if he can't make me cum. We are very open and I have informed him that what we do do satisfies me very well. I have had a partial historectomy at the age of 15 and several other small operations since then. He knew this when we first started talking and understands this. My doc. says that it is probably bad scar tissues and to keep experiementing with each other....rrgg!!

    As much as I think I am pleasing him, I don't think I truely can until he pleases me.
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    He doesn't see why you should have sex if he can't make you come?! What a nutjob. Tell him that the point of sex, for you, is not to orgasm, but to feel really good, to make him feel good, and to be close to him.

    As nice as it is for us to have orgasms, sometimes guys get too focused on them. I can orgasm (Bridgette--I can even come more than once in one session), but oral sex doesn't get me there and intercourse very very rarely gets me there. Some guys understand and are cool with that, and some try to hold out until I come, even though it isn't going to happen and it starts to hurt after a while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=1;threadid=7258;start=msg82692#msg82692 date=1078872765
    I have never known a woman who can cum multiple times during a session. I've heard alot of guys talking about how they always make their partner cum several times before letting go themselves, but I've never once heard a woman talking about it, and it's certainly never happened to me. Perhaps these women are indulging the guys in a little fantasy? I know I have done it before
    Too true Bridgette~
    I have found the more a man brags about how good he is the worse he is in bed. I think most young guys think they are the worlds best lover ever but the truth is they are usually far ,far from ! I much prefer a man in his mid 30's or 40's in bed and in every other aspect of life to be palinly honest. I guess that why I am with one I find they are more in touch with a womans body and mind as well as their own.
    I never had a really great session with a young guy. They were all way too into themselves. I think most of them might as well have had a blowup doll the way the acted in bed :o

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