What's the best excuse u have gotten away with hen telling your parents, bf,husbands or whoever about what u do? what did u use 2 keep it secret?
What's the best excuse u have gotten away with hen telling your parents, bf,husbands or whoever about what u do? what did u use 2 keep it secret?
Telling that lie often comes back to bite people in the ass .
That said many dancers use the cocktail waitress excuse.
Its one thing to not tell your parents or aquintances but if you have to lie to your bf or husband then I'd say the relationship is the problem not the potential job. If you can't be honest with your mate then where's the trust? No trust most often equals no future.
Honesty is almost always the best policy in life. Good luck with your decision.
i put this up because my situation is that i live with my mother. when i go out or go to work my daughter is with her.i told her what im doing because i felt she needed to know.plus it was going to be super hard to hide outfits, shoes ect.Other people in my family,i dont care they dont live with us therefore they don't need 2 know.however seeing my appearance change such as hair, nails ect.thats going 2 bring up the where are u getting the money for this? im not 21 yet so i cant use the cocktail waitress line yet. we'll figure it out eventually.
You can, I believe, be a cocktail waitress if you're 18. I was a bartender this summer, and I was only 19.
It'll still be tough to keep it hidden from her, and if she finds out, she won't trust you anymore.
Just 2 make sure everyone is on the same page as i am, my mother already knows what i do. i just dont feel my aunt and cousins need to know what i do because i already know what they are going to say, they are going to make their own judgements b4 i even get the words out of my mouth.i refuse to glorify their ignorance and always keep having to explain what i do how i do it and they are going to have their own prejudgements.
i dont tell lies ....even though i've never told my parents what i do... and thats simply because they never bothered to ask .....i'm upfront i tell the truth wether you like it or not...i dont really care too much of what anyone thinks ...there are not paying the bills...my husband was no problem he knew what i was doing from the day we met
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This is my lie for random people I know or people I know in my professional life that don't need to know.
Me: I bartend on the weekends, sometimes.
Them: Really? Where?
Me: I actually work for an agency that sends me to different bars when people call off or they just need someone to fill in.
Them: Wow, I didn't know they had places like that. Where are you working tonight?
Me: *ditzy look* Um, I wrote it down at home... somewhere on the south side, I think?



Wow Lena, awesome lie!! I will use that one.
I don't believe in lying under most curcumstances, but the huge stigma that goes along with being a dancer forces me to lie. I say that I waitress at a club and have tried stripping, but I am a better waitress. Anytime someone asks questions I just act very casual and give very few details. It's like leading a double life and makes the job funner.
If my family asks me directly I wont' lie. I won't lie to my son when he gets older either.
I am the only one responsible for paying my bills and paying for school. Screw anyone who looks down on me, but I don't go around inviting critism.
Those who bring sunshine into lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.
Whoa...Lena, I used that one in Europe when I was starting up a business and didn't want the owner to know I stripped...awesome!!!
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For anyone who doesn't need to know, I'm an internet consultant, and I waitress part time at night. This explains my weird hours and why I spend so much time on the net and NEED a cable connection.Of course I do occasional internet work for friends and acquaintances (and sometimes for myself), and really am a bit of a computer nerd, so it's easy to tell a good story there. It's always best to come up with a lie that is only like a half-lie, because you can tell it with more conviction, plus you'll know more about what you're talking about to tell a good story if someone asks. Much more believable this way. As soon as you slip up on your story someone will start suspecting what you don't want them to suspect. And don't dress like a stripper when you're not working! Sometimes I'm amazed at how obvious some girls dress, when they're trying to hide the fact that they're strippers. LOL





I use the half lie drink waitress one in re: my parents. They don't know and don't need to know right now. I don't visit them that often and my money is hidden from sight (as in no new clothes, shoes, etc...). I also visit my parents at their place and they hardly come to mine... their place is just better.
It is just that I haven't told them for two reasons:
* I was in a relationship with a boy for a year when I revealed to him.. Yes.. I'm having sex. He went red in the face and couldn't believe it.. he knows I do it just didn't want it confirmed .. ya know?
-- His reaction to just having a sex life is stopping me
* I inquired about his Bucks party prior to him marry-ing my step-mum (my real mother, his first wife, has left this life)... well.. my step-mum was fiercly against him going to a strip club or having a stripper and well.. he isn't that way inclined anyway.
--- The negative reaction they have about strip clubs is stopping me
So... I told them I work as a bar/drinks waitress at the club I'm working at. They didn't like the fact it is a strip club however I emphasised that it is only temporary as the tips are very good compared to a normal night club due to people prepared to spend decent money.
This helps explain my hours and some of my luxuries (even tho' I don't have many visible ones).
When I have purchased my first home and can show my parents that I am setting myself up for a very stable financial future.... then I'll tell them. This way I have something to back me up to say it was worth it as that's all they are really concerned about.
yes, they are concerned for my safety amongst other things parents would be concerned about however since I don't chat with them much and can easily pull off the half-lie (used to work in hospitality prior to dancing).... there is no need for them to know right now.
The only family members that know are my younger brother and one of my Aunts and Uncles (because I was staying with them and I knew they would be okay with it and not tell my father who is their brother-in-law).
All my friends don't care.. a job is a job to them.
Someone who could be a potential SO.. I tell the truth because if they can't handle it (the dancing and the fact that I want to do it) then good-bye. If it is just someone in my class (I do short courses at the local TAFE.. kinda like community/technical college in the US).. I say the bar waitress half truth. Most of the people in those classes won't visit the club.
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i tell my associates that i do pr work in clubs sometimes dressed in bikinis- that sort of covers my ass and explains any wierd stories hehehe
I never lied.. I just didn't tell. BUT... I was out of state when I started... in California... but... my dad found out... how? Well, out of all the strip clubs in Los Angeles... he picked the one I just happened to work at...
To make a long story short: To this day, he can't look at me, he doesn't bring it up and the one time that he did, all he said was, "Please tell me you made good money and weren't getting jerked around". This was when I was in college, I am now married and my hubby knows what I do, and my parents have no clue that I have gone back to it.. BUT... if asked, I would tell them...
My daughter has run across my suitcase of "mommy's dress up clothes" and loves my shoes... again, I don't lie, but I just don't tell, I tell her, "Mommy likes to dress up when her and Daddy go out"... no need in telling my 8 year old what Mommy does until she brings it up again when she's older.. and by then, she may just have figured it out.
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I used to tell my parents that I was a bartender in a gay bar, because my ultra conservative parents would never in a million years come in and check!
My boyfriend actually came up with this one... I haven't started dancing..... but I know my parents would FLIP OUT!!! I think I'm going to tell them I got a job catering... my b/f works for a company that does catering anyway... so I figure that might just work...
I am not a good liar, so when I'm finally out of my house my conscience will probably eat me alive until I tell them the truth...
I told my parents and BF all KINDS of stories. Fortunately I was out of state, too so my parents never found out and my BF traveled so when he wasn't home was when I worked. He was gone a lot. I came home once with a bag full of $1's and an American flag babydoll to wear for him that night. (4th of july) even thin i made up some stupid dtory and he bought it. Wish I hadn't done it now. I should have told hiim the truth and let him get used to it as opposed to letitng the lie get bigger and bigger and eventually ruining out relationship. If you love him..... don't lie. And if you have to lie... find someone else.



To my mother...I cocktail
MY father and grandparents and really my whole family know, except my mother.
To stangers....I am a nocturnal enticement engineer...that make them think for second and it sounds so much cuter then ..."stripper"
other then that...I try not to lie about it...but
facing the facts ...sometimes its better off to just not tell..
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