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    Default The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Okay, so I usually don't work on a few select nights, because I just don't like dealing with b.s. from certain girls, but a week ago, I was asked to work a night that I usually don't as a favor... so I complied and agreed to do so.

    Eight girls were working. I was second in rotation. The DJ on shift is a DJ I have never worked with. With eight girls and each with ten minutes on stage, each girl is on stage every 80 minutes-that is without a stage break... so here begins my night of frustration and bull shit.

    Our shifts start at 7, they end whenever the last customer leaves.. sometimes as late as 3.. depending on who's working....


    I went on stage at 715, then again at 1030..... I was skipped over the rest of the night. I hustled my ass off and made $500 on the floor and the two times I was on stage made $20.

    Each time the girl I was to follow was up, I went to pick out my set, my DJ would take the music, then announce another dancer and put her up. It was very obvious to me that he had four dancers which were his favorites to put on stage.

    Four customers asked me throughout the night if I WORKED THERE!!!!

    So... the end of the night comes, and its my turn to cash out and tip out.. and I look at my DJ and show him the two piles of money I have... (I divided it out... Floor money (private dance money) and stage money)... I said, '(Insert name).. you skipped over me, I was only on stage twice tonight... this is my floor money, and this is my stage money... and quite honestly, I don't believe you deserve a tip from me, because, you skipped me tonight..had I not done what I usually do and hustle my ass off, I would have not made my house fee tonight.. BUT, I am giving you $5 as courtesy." I then told the manager on duty that I do not appreciate favoritism and that I would never again do the club any favors and work on the day of the week that I was asked to as I felt that I had been treated unfairly...

    (FYI.. the bartenders and my regular customers were also paying notice to this as well and were wondering what was going on).. the DJ said that he just followed rotation, and that I was "down" a lot.. but... when not in a private dance, I would report to the DJ booth and tell him I was available.

    The DJ got pissed off and thought that I was being unfair to him.. however... isn't it the DJ's job to promote us? I don't look to make my bread and butter on stage, I use the stage as a promoting tool to get my dances.. without being on stage, no one knows who you are... am I right or am I out of line by being pissed off about this? And.. if this were you, how would you deal with it? Give him another chance or just be stubborn like myself and refuse to work another shift with him?


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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Girl I think you were totally mature and handled the situation very well.

    You should be pissed, but don't waste your time dwelling on it. From what I can tell you are a great dancer and this was a night you wouldn't usually work anyway.
    Come on even the customers noticed, that is pretty bad!!
    I would have been like "hey stop, I'm next!!"

    Although you don't want to piss off a dj he was really screwing you. I really admired the way you handled the situation.

    Good story.
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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    I think you handled the situation very well. I however would give him another chance. If you don't work, you are the one missing out not him.
    I have had my share of mishaps and misunderstandings with DJs but, since I have to deal with them I give it my best to work it out..
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    too bad for him i hope next time he learns....his loss or maybe these girls tips are covering the tips that he would have missed by not putting you on set ...he was unfair and he knows it ....you handled the situation right
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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    I think it's really good that you stuck up for yourself like that. A lot of girls just would have sulked, forked over the tipout and bitched about it later. You worded it really well to him too, sounds like. Nice and clear so he gets it for next time.

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Gynger, good job. Im with Kayla on this one...I'd have probably just lowered the tip and forked it over and THEN kicked myself in the ass for not saying something. LOL
    Good job hun!

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Yep, I am with Kayla, most girls don't use communication, that's where alot of unwanted situations arise from. You did the best thing you could do, I would definately give him a second chance.
    Good luck!
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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Personally,I specifically ask to be skipped on stage when I work and tip extra for it.Why bother going on stage for a few dollars when you can make probably 30 or more doing dances in the same time.When I worked locally and had to go on stage my dj would skip me whenever he posibly could,if we only had like 10 girls he would do it like every other set as a courtesy to me because he knew I was always busy and made more money doind dances,maybe thats what he was doing, he saw you busy and skipped you so you could make money.

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    I understand Michele's point, but I think he would have said this when she tipped out. I think it's unlikely since he didn't know her. But I have felt the same way at times.

    Otherwise, ditto to Farrah.

    You're lucky that you have a choice, our DJ gets 10% MANDATORY and a $15 minimum on weekends. All tips cap at $300 though, so if you make well over $300 then tip out tends to be pretty good, and making that is not impossible although it's harder lately. (I'm in the Midwest, and $300 is pretty good--I live in a two bedroom house and my boyfriend and I pay $300 each, utilities included!)

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    I say screw him! The guy was obviously playing favorites and if I was in your shoes I wouldn't work with him again.Hmmm maybe this good ole irish boy should become a potato farmer.....

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Micjhele does make a good point. It is often considered a great favor and a mark of a superb DJ for him to skip your stage requirements if he sees that you are making far more on the floor. It's even better if he does this without having to be prompted by the hard-hustling dancer, but still tries to fit her in when advertisement is needed. My favorite (and best-tipped) DJ has earned a most-favored spot by doing this very thing. Knowing when to skip and when to promote is as much the DJ's job as knowing who likes red lighting and how loud to blast the tunes.

    However, you specifically picked out music right on time for your slot on stage. A DJ does not have preferencial rights to place whomever on stage he damned well pleases. Your turn is your turn, and you made it clear that you wanted your turn. He was perhaps trying to be helpful, but regardless was being a dickhead. You had cause to be put out with him.

    I don't think I would have been so confrontational. Flies and honey, keep that in mind. A DJ is one of the better tools available to you in the club, and should be coddled the same as a customer. He knows which bachelor parties just pulled a $400 cash advance from their credit cards at the bar, for example, and you want him to give you a piece of the inside action. I would have likely tipped him well, though not as well as I could have, and made it clear that the service was not exactly as I hoped as well as outlining ways I would prefer things to go the next time we worked together. Maybe counted my money in front of him, slipped him $30 and said something like:

    "I appreciate you keeping me off the stage when tips weren't that great and I was making so much on the floor, but I did miss a lot of potential advertising. How about next time, if you want to skip me, you say something like 'since Gynger is such a hot VIP commodity right now we'll move on to our next fantastic performer... the delectable Delilah! Coming on stage for your viewing pleasure, two times around, here we go! (or whatever spiel this guy gives)' You know what I mean, DJ Dipshit, some sort of mention of my name so I don't have customers wondering if I actually work here. Thanks a bunch, it was great working with you."

    If he keeps this crap up, stiff him. My fave DJ gets more than a 10% tip every time, and DJ Dipshit in my club gets as little as I can get away with. DJs talk to each other just like dancers do, and the annoying DJ will know that he doesn't get your best tips.
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    Got so long-winded that I forgot to add this part. If you do wind up working with him again, you can still try to mend the fences and get him working for you. At the start of your shift, tell him pretty much what I said above (basically "get my name out there whether I'm on stage or not") and slip him ten dollars while you're saying it. If he's still ignoring you, then take that $10 off of whatever you would have tipped at the end of the night and stiff him thereafter.

    Good job on notifying the management, by the way. The manager needs to know these things, because a problem DJ is something they can't just pick up by looking at the liquor sales for the end of the night.
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    I think that you handled the situation well. It's pretty obvious that you are preparing to go on the stage when you give the DJ your music selection right before your turn is up.

    I know that Michele said that it's a courtesty to skip dancers that look like they are banking, and I agree, however, it sounds like, in your case, you were actively trying to get onstage. The DJ was wrong, and personally, I think that you handled the situation with maturity and grace. Good job...and, I would go and give it another chance. It could have been that he was just having a bad night.

    On the other hand...I would have said something to him about my going on the stage...and that if he didn't put me up next, I would go to management.

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Gynger, I think you did the right thing too. You let the DJ know that you weren't happy about being skipped on stage without coming across as a bitch. Personally, I would've been happy to be skipped on stage though. At all the clubs I've worked at, you are not allowed to skip your turn on stage. This is annoying because sometimes a customer will want dances from me and I have to go on stage next and I'll get a measly 4 or 5 dollars in stage tips.

    Since you made it clear to the DJ that you didn't want to be skipped on stage, he should definitely listen to you if you work with him again. You were nice enough to tip him too, even though you didn't feel that he deserved it. If you work with that DJ again and he pulls a stunt like that again, I would talk to the manager.






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    My issue was the fact that without the exposure of the stage.. no one knows who you are... I have no issues with being skipped if I am on "down time" in a private room, but when I'm asking people for private dances and they ask "oh.. you work here???" because they've been there for three hours and haven't seen me on stage.... that's what irked me the most.. I agree with you Michelle for the most part as some DJ's giving the courtesy of skipping, but I was actively out on the floor, working the floor and reporting in to the DJ...

    Last night (Sunday) I went to work and was pulled aside by the manager who also worked the night of this incident and said that the DJ was talked to about it, as two of my regulars went to this manager and complained.. (apparently one of my regulars and a this manager are friends... ) he wanted to know what was going on.. and I explained my side of it.. he said that he appreciated my "professionalism" and having the benefit of the doubt to give him another chance... we will see what happens next time...


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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    Ginger,I use to have guys say the same thing,oh you work here and I would just use it to my favor,I would say yes I have been so busy all night doing dances thats why you havent seen me and the dj skips me on stage because he knows I am the busiest girl here.I f it ever happens again keep that in mind.Also being busy is actually better for promoting you than the actual stage show.Just a thought to keep in mind if you ever have a problem again.

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    Default Re:The DJ pissed me off... am I over-reacting?

    How ironic-the DJ at my club gets accused of favoring me by keeping me OFF stage (he's not, I get skipped because I'm in the VIP room) Sometimes I will only get up once or twice on a weekend night. I don't mind this at all as I'd much rather be making money doing VIPs than being on stage.

    That being said, in your case, handing him music shows you're ready to go up during your scheduled time-so no matter what, if it was your turn, you should have been put up. I would have definitely questioned him about it at the time.

    I think you handled it very professionally. Sounds like you worded it correctly without getting offensive (or into a screaming match) Let's hope he realizes his mistake.

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