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    I don't know if this has been addressed in another thread...I couldnt find it, so I'll ask again.
    I work at a smaller club where a lot of the hustling and chatting is done while I'm on stage. I am friendly and talkative once a common ground is established....but, I cannot think of anything more creative to start up a chat than: "Hi, how are you? Please help! I'm driving myself insane!! There has to be a more clever way of chatting up a customer!

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    I play it off as the club is 'MY playground', haven't really picked up on hook-lines, but the best way I have made myself apart of any guys night (group or single), is by simply seating myself on their lap or at the table and acting as if I were sitting there with them the whole time. Of course sometimes they look at me like who's this chick, in which case I just say "Hey, thanks for saving my seat!" with a big ol' grin. Most times they are more than happy to have me there, and a few even mention they like a girl who knows what she wants. It is all about confidence. A confident person is who they will remember.
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    LOL! IBKitty is that a copy and paste of yours from Hustle Hut? It sounds familiar
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    First I introduce myself, say how're you doing tonight, blah blah...
    If I like the song that's on, I will say so, and ask them what music they like. If they have a mixed drink, I might ask what they drink. (A lot of people are very loyal to their liquor--I happen to love Jack Daniels.) Sometimes I will ask them what they do for a living, or if they are from town. If they respond positively, I ask more about their job. If they seem tired or not into it, I say "well, let's forget all that for the rest of the night--you're here to have a good time!" Then I will say something like "So what do you do for fun when you're not in here/not watching pretty ladies?" That gets a laugh usually.

    It might help to read a lot, magazines, books, newspapers, etc. Especially things you might not read otherwise (maybe hobbie magazines? go to the library and look around). Then you'll have more ideas for conversation starters, and it will help round out conversations where you might not know much, like about his job or whatever. I try to connect with what they say, and show that I relate to what they are talking about.
    If they seem talkative, I listen more. If they seem shy, I talk more, until I can tell if they *are* shy and I am making them more comfortable, or if they just don't want to talk to me.

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    Yes Malibu, I thought it to be easier, I was feeling helpful but lazy at the same time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FoxxeeBrown link=board=9;threadid=7401;start=msg84552#msg84552 date=1079372031
    I don't know if this has been addressed in another thread...I couldnt find it, so I'll ask again.
    I work at a smaller club where a lot of the hustling and chatting is done while I'm on stage. I am friendly and talkative once a common ground is established....but, I cannot think of anything more creative to start up a chat than: "Hi, how are you? Please help! I'm driving myself insane!! There has to be a more clever way of chatting up a customer!

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    I think your "Please help! I'm driving myself insane!!" line would make an excellent conversation starter.
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    you know, i read a review on a book: I think it's called shakespeare in the 21st century, where they take some of his witty lines from his plays and make them useable for modern day scenarios such as chatting up people and introducing yourself. I really have to find it because I remember looking at it and thinking I'd love it for myself. It makes you come across as very sassy and intelligent.


    I'll try and find it and report back with a link if possible...


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    ok, this was the only link I could find but it doesn&#039;t give enough detil on the book:

    http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...books&n=507846

    It helps give you ideas of things to say as well.
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    Malibu, that book that you described sounds actually quite cool! I love Shakespeare! I&#039;ll check it out...thanks for the info

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    Something that I will say is "what brings you into the club tonight?". That usually seems to work pretty well for me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss george link=board=9;threadid=7401;start=msg86767#msg86767 date=1079892089
    What I try to do is keep myself in a happy, silly mood all night, so when I approach a customer, I try to let that show. Sometimes I&#039;ll say something very goofy and nonsensical in a deadpan manner ("How now, brown cow?")and it breaks the ice if followed by a smile.

    One that works especially wel with groups of guys is to say , "Hey whatcha guys doing?" They will, most liekly, give you some lame answer, like nothing, hanging out, etc. I say, "Ah, checking out the tits and ass, eh?" (Wink! Wink!) "Me too!"
    I like this one! Very nice for approaching a group. We get large groups of military guys all the time. I&#039;ll have o put this line in action. Thanks.
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    Foxy Honey where I am working We are not allowed to talk on stage cause we are Entertainers your best bet would be to get into your music do your little dance save the conversation for after your dance. Taking the time to sit with the customer is always a plus Eye contact is very important they like that. As far As What to say Talk about them it is all about them that&#039;s it only talk about you when asked. Never offer information about yourself they care about as much as you care about their little story. just go with it be natural. they like to be complimented and some of them need a psychiatrist so keep it all about them guarnteed you will make more $$$$$ Good Luck Girl

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    If I plan on sitting down I introduce, ask if I may sit and proceed to just be me. However, I do have a few sayings that customers never forget. A customer kept asking me 6 million questions about the quality of my dances and blah blah. I said, look dude, I am more fun than a barrel full of monkeys dammit! They either laugh and off we go, or the intellectual dude will ask how much fun a barrel full of monkeys is? I respond Have u ever seen a barrel full of monkeys, well if not you&#039;re missing out and I&#039;m still ten tons more fun.

    Another is when you&#039;re making your way back to a customer and you have to ask people to move their chairs and get out of the way, and when you lean in to ask em to move they say I don&#039;t want a dance or I&#039;m still looking. Say, really great, ur name, and then say I wasn&#039;t offering you a dance and now I have to go think about whether I&#039;ll offer you one later or not when I have time. Keep smiling and say it in a nice way. They will usually stop you before u can get away and say what do you mean you weren&#039;t offering me one why not? You have laid the illusion that you have something that they can&#039;t get so now they want it. He&#039;s your next dance later on and if he has a buddy you can get em both, b/c u&#039;ve just made urself different and they&#039;re be thinking about, talking about and watching you all night to see how u&#039;re so special you can be choosy about who you dance for.

    Basically, just learn to have a quick comeback or genuine wit for every situation and comment. Try never to be rude, but I said try it won&#039;t always work b/c u&#039;ll meet assholes. Also, learn to chat a group of guys/girls up and make em interested in you. Be yourself and inevitably you&#039;ll attract your type of customer. Even if you don&#039;t get a dance off of a guy that nite, you&#039;ll be the stand out in his mind when he comes back in b/c of your charm and wit.
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    The best thing to do is talk a lot about yourself and your problems. They love hearing about your kids, how your boyfriend is cheating on you and beats you but since he always cries afterwards you know he loves you, how horrible the money is tonight and how all these damn guys suck... that seems to be the strategy for a lot of entertainers (thopse types of girls, fortunately, aren&#039;t the ones who hang here.)

    A guy&#039;s opinion: HAVE FUN! Guys SO OFTEN see a steady stream of dancers who are miserable and bitter and self-involved, if you seem like you&#039;re just sitting down to talk to him because you want to it goes a long way to setting you apart. And EVERY guy thinks he&#039;s not a loser like "all those other guys here" so play to that:

    "Can i sit here a second, i need to talk to someone sane." OR "You haven&#039;t been in here before, have you? I would have remembered you."

    Or to work him a little, try: "Can i sit here? I LOVE watching this girl dance. She has got such great legs/tits/hair/eyes, i so wish I had great legs/hair/tits/eyes like that." Now he feels obligated to say something complimentary to you, then you can act really touched by how sweet he is and then get into "So what brings you here today, bad day at work?"

    Obviously these aren&#039;t for everyone or every club, just some things I&#039;ve seen work in certain situations.

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    Guys seem to always want to know why I&#039;m at the club too. After I intromyself and ask if i can take a seat, i ask what they do for a living. that&#039;s ALWAYS reversed on me, whether this is what i do or if there is something more to me than dancing. this has helped me develop regulars who have common interests/passions with me. I&#039;m an artist, and that often times really intrigues guys... so my advive on approach is a friendly open atttude that shows you are glad you are at work, happy to meet them, and more than just tits and ass.

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    PS i disagree with WeLucky Few&#039;s post, dont EVER discuss your problems, guys fuckin HATE that. ask any customer, they didnt come to hear your problems, they came to have a good time.

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    I think WeLucky was being VERY sarcastic

    I NEVER ask a man what he does for a living. He gets that enough from the vultures in the real world. As women, we tend to judge men by their income and I don&#039;t want any man I sit with to feel they are being judged by me.

    If I&#039;m feeling particularly randy that evening, I might say "mind if I molest you with my body"...but I work at a contact club so that won&#039;t work for everyone

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    Thanks Taylor,
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    One thing i&#039;ve found as a good ice-breaker is look for something you like about the guy- something he&#039;s wearing, some aspect of his face/body and compliment him on it. Its better if you can find something that you really like, because false compliments are pretty obvious...this is a good opener because it&#039;s less overused and is positive right off the bat. Another thing that works well is to look for a point of mutual interest...like if he has a hat on with a team name say, "oh are you a fan, i love that team" "did you catch the game" etc, be careful though, it&#039;s hard to BS on this one because most guys really know their sports. Same thing with a shirt with a band name-"did you see their show/hear their new cd or song" Or with the name of a place- "i went there on vacation" "i used to live there" or a college "my friend goes there" "i applied to that university" etc...it helps to at least pretend you have similar interests and can launch an easy conversation from there.

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    I always ask, "Can I join you?" or "Mind if I sit with you for a while, I need to rest my feet." Then I ask if they have the day off from work (I usually work weekdays.) Then ask what they do for a living or if they like being retired. Ask about hobbies, etc. Then I wait for the DJ to announce the 2-4-1 dance special and ask the customer if he&#039;d like to go out back for "Showtime." (that&#039;s what we call it in our club)

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    Its ok to ask about work as a really basic conversation starter. I say, "so what industry do you work in?"

    Some guys DO LOVE to talk about their work. If he does not want to answer that initial question, drop it and its not likely he will be offended because I did not ask him specifically what he does.....

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    make them feel like the center of the universe for a moment. The quickest way to seduce a man is to make him believe that he seduced you.

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    l know i&#039;ll get a lot of shit for this but try: l&#039;m the sluttiest girl in the house,how about dirty dance [move=left,scroll,6,transparent,100%]works like a charm[/move]

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    Quote Originally Posted by darkness link=board=9;threadid=7401;start=msg94582#msg94582 date=1081566511
    l know i&#039;ll get a lot of shit for this but try: l&#039;m the sluttiest girl in the house,how about dirty dance [move=left,scroll,6,transparent,100%]works like a charm[/move]
    unfortunately most of us dont want to portray a SLUT. Sex Goddess, yes but not a skanky one.
    And not only would that line not work for me (my dances are as dirty as they could be) but the guys in my club are regulars and know who&#039;s who...

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    sometimes it&#039;s not what you say but how it&#039;s said ......and the look in your eyes.......or little words and a lot of body talking....use your imagination ;O)

    be sweet sexy and friendly......it works!

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    i never ask if i can sit with them, i just sit down and smile, say hi, whats your name, what brings you in tonight? if theyre being cagey and say they just want to hav a few drinks first before having a dance, i say "ok, i mean im WAY more attractive after 6 beers anyway!" whic always gets a good laugh and then theyre more happy to hav me sitting there talking to me.
    i dont know about the US, but in the UK the guys always ask you a ton of questions about yourself! its really annoying, i dont want them to know about where i live, what i do in the day, how old i am, why i live in the UK and not back home in south africa etc...
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