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    Hello all

    I have been lurking the last couple of days and decided it's time to register. what a great forum!

    I am sooo new to this. I have some questions and really need the advice. I am now working a full time job which I love, but I am looking to make extra money. My husband and I are in debt, not bad debt like credit card debt but bad enough to keep us from getting a home, braces for my son, blah blah blah ...you know the drill.

    Anyways I live in a VERY small town, going to our Wal-mart is like going to a high school reunion. Everyone knows everyone and everyones business. Which I do hate, but the schools are great and my mother is here. Our credit is shot all to hell, I hate our rented house, I am ashamed to even have our Son have friends over!

    It's clean and well maintained and very cheap rent for the area we are in. But I am sick of living this way and want more, and I don't want to wait and save. I am looking to put money aside for a down payment on some property or a home. When we do save something happens to take our money. Sorry too sound so whiney but I needed to get that off my chest! : )

    Okay here is what I am thinking of doing. Ifriends, which I would like mainly because I can block out the state of where I live, but there are SO many girls there, I probably don't stand a chance! I am also thinking to check out Girltime but can I block out my state like you can do at ifriends? I have talked this over with my husband and he told me I didn't have to do anything like this unless I wanted too. I feel like I should, because these debts are debts that I have caused (another story). I am thirty years old, ( look twenty five) did a little modeling ages ago, after the birth of my son (now 10) my body is not the same, but how many mama's are!

    I have a great figure, pretty face, long shapely legs, 5"5 115 pds, great smile. And from what I have heard a great ass, the only problem is a few little stretch marks, and a little cellulite, on the butt. I have been tanning lately.... so they are starting to fade! OH! and I need to tone the lower belly area, it's a little pudgey! : )

    Another job I have thought about doing is working as a waitress in a strip club on Friday and Saturday nights. I am not going to work close to my town, I was thinking 45 min to an hour away. Which would be around the Greenville SC area. Heck I may even drive a little further to Charlotte NC. My question is: Do you ladies think it would be worth my time to even drive this distance for this kind of money? I don't even know what these waitresses make, I was thinking around 60 to maybe 100 a night? And I do want to do this work as privately as possible thats why I need to drive away for the anonymity.

    Any waitresses working in Charlotte NC or close areas, I'd love to hear from you.

    I'd appreciate ANY advice from any of you! Thanx!

    Sorry so long!!


    Laci

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    Default Re: need advice about Waitressing on weekends...

    Hi Lacy...I have heard what you are describing about webcam work. It's very competitive and you need to be more than the "girl next door" to get noticed on there. I think you are on to a better idea with the waitressing.

    Waitresses do alright. I think it's realistic to expect to make around $20/hr doing it. The waitress I work with sometimes gives massages to guys for extra tips. I think she makes around $100 a night, sometimes more.....sometimes a lot more.

    I think it's a great way to get out of debt and save money. that's what I'm doing...but just with dancing.

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    OK so anonymity is very important to you, but I'm confused about one thing- if you are going to drive 45 minutes or more to work as a waitress in a SC why not just go all the way and strip in the strip club? Either way your still anonymous right?

    With both choices you're going to pay the price mentally because lying to everyone you know and fearing they will find out your secret is not healthy. Nor is isolating yourself from everyone so they don't find out about your double life. You may have to decide which is more important to you and your husband: getting ahead financially or keeping your "good girl" rep.

    Word gets around. Are you willing to pay that ultimate price? In a very religous community in the South being *shunned* is fairly likely. If you're not willing to endure that upheaval in your life then I think you are doing something you may possibly regret.
    You get what you put up with

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    Welcome Laci

    I did webcamming before I started dancing and it's very hard. There are women from all over the world available and many of them in countries where the cost of living is much, much, lower than the US. So those girls can charge next to nothing and it makes it very hard to compete. Still there are guys looking for American women, and if you have an "all american" look that will work to your advantage, but be prepared for a lot of frustration. The anonymity of the Internet gives a lot of losers the courage to go around acting like total assholes. Still, why not try it for a day or two if you're curious. You have to usually send forms in first but it's not that hard to get started, all you need is a computer, a webcam and a high-speed connection. Ifriends is a good site, Camcontacts.net is also good, based out of Holland I think. Beware of the smaller ones that are not established--I once got burned by a startup site that advertised 70% payout but never paid me.

    Bottom line tho I don't think you are going to make anywhere near the money you are hoping for doing webcam work. Working in a club you are most likely going to make much better money than camming, but as vanilla said, you have to be prepared that word will get out. Sooner or later someone will probably recognize you. Are you prepared to deal with that? If not, why not waitress in a non-strip bar, club or restaurant? If you like the idea of looking sexy at work it will help you just as much in any other place as in a strip bar. Or learn bartending or something.

    What was your reasoning for wanting to waitress in a strip club and not somewhere else? Also have you checked out the "other work" section of the site?

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    Default Re: need advice about Waitressing on weekends...

    Thank you so much ladies for the quick replies! Sorry that I didn't respond as soon, I had to take care of a family matter, and haven't been home long.

    I believe I am going to think about this some more, actually this is all I could think about today! I'm not gonna try the web cam stuff, if I do anything it may be to just waitress in a nice restaurant on the weekends,or at a strip club.

    The only prob is, is that I have NO experience in waitressing,thats why I was considering the strip clubs. I thought it would be easier serving drinks instead of food, which I'm sure maybe clubs some do both. Plus the strip clubs probably aren't as picky about ones experience. And yeah I do like the idea of a sexy job! : )


    If I were not a mother I wouldn't worry as much about my rep, I am more concerned about my son and other parents finding out about how I spend my weekends. I am VERY involved in his schooling,after school activites and his friends, thats just the way this community is. And yes it is a religious community too, also very judgemental, which I am neither! If I was single and or married without children I'd say, to hell with what people here think! I'd also strip instead of waitressing.

    It's really funny cause my Son is really the main reason I want to make extra money!So he can have nicer things, I know it doesn't make sense! I may take a chance though and waitress somewhere in Greenville or Wellford (close... but not too close ) on the weekends for a few months, that is if a nearby nice restaurant doesn't work out. I have read alot of good things about Nepals, so I may check them out. I'll let you guys know where I have ended up. Sorry so loong. Thanks, you guys are great!


    Laci

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    Default Re: need advice about Waitressing on weekends...

    Quote Originally Posted by Laci30 link=board=25;threadid=7497;start=msg85890#msg8589 0 date=1079657871
    If I were not a mother I wouldn't worry as much about my rep, I am more concerned about my son and other parents finding out about how I spend my weekends. I am VERY involved in his schooling,after school activites and his friends, thats just the way this community is. And yes it is a religious community too, also very judgemental, which I am neither! If I was single and or married without children I'd say, to hell with what people here think! I'd also strip instead of waitressing.

    It's really funny cause my Son is really the main reason I want to make extra money!So he can have nicer things...
    Have you ever heard the story about the Comb and the Watch? Two poor lovers - the woman with beautiful long hair and the man with a watch he cherished. You know the story? She cut her hair and sold it to buy him a watch chain, while he sold his watch to buy her a comb for her hair.

    Your son, his school activities and a good community are what are really important, not nice things.
    You get what you put up with

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    Default Re: need advice about Waitressing on weekends...

    Thanx for the advice vanilla dog. Reading over all that I have posted has really had me thinking. Not to mention what you guys have posted, I really appreciate the advice! I guess it's almost like writing in a journal and pouring out what you are feeling. It's easier for me to tune into my feelings this way than to just think about them. I know I shouldn't be so materialistic, there are more important things in life than money, I guess I've just become so damn impatient waiting for home ownership! LoL


    Thanks again! : )


    Laci



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    I wish I could give more optimistic advice but I know how brutal those churchy people can be. Jobs evaporate, playdates disappear, christmas cards stop coming. Bleh. Gives me chills. Good luck lady.

    Hint: There are other, less public, adult oppurtunities besides stripping and webcamming. Did you see Other Work?
    You get what you put up with

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    Quote Originally Posted by vanilla_dog link=board=25;threadid=7497;start=msg85923#msg8592 3 date=1079668068

    Have you ever heard the story about the Comb and the Watch? Two poor lovers - the woman with beautiful long hair and the man with a watch he cherished. You know the story? She cut her hair and sold it to buy him a watch chain, while he sold his watch to buy her a comb for her hair.
    Ah.. "Gift of the Magi". Very cool, VD. And I totally agree. While you may want to give your children everything in the world, in the end, material things have little value.

    Good luck in your decision, Laci. Waitressing isn't too bad, that's how I started.. Got up on stage on a dare, and I was hooked.


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    Default Re: need advice about Waitressing on weekends...

    I went over to the "other work" section last night, I was looking at the phone work. I went to Keen.com and also some others who offer phone work. I did some searching here and I saw a few girls (can't remember any names) that got screwed by some of them and didn't get paid like they should have, or had to have some sort of quota to make? Keen being one of them.

    If any of you have had any luck, or could recommend a company with doing phone work., phone sex, psychic, advice...ANYTHING. And is legit, I'd really appreciate it!

    Oh! Vanilla, I didn't mention in my last post.... Thanks for the story, I liked it. I've never heard of it, but I will make a point to remember it.


    Thanks Rhiannon and Vanilla! :^)


    Laci

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