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    Default Lord give me strength

    : I have only worked a couple nights with one really good night.. I was wondering how you girls got through your first couple weeks/months doing this?

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    We just push on. We don't really focus on anything else but the $$. We recognize that we might bruise, might be sore. Our motivation is the cash, always.
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    Yeah hun, its always hard in the beginning. You have to work the guys, build regulars...it takes time. But its worth it. We even have some bad nights when we have been doing this a while, but other than that... stick it out for a bit and see if this is what you really want

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    I'm not being critical, just offering perspective.

    I once talked to a lady who wasn't sure how she could get past the first couple nights of her job. She had to lift up overweight people, change their Depends, got screamed at by someone with senile dementia, take care of their false teeth, bathe them, feed them, etc. etc. All for about 6 or 7 bucks an hour.

    (Of course, I wouldn't want to do your job, either, being nice to people who smell, getting bruised knees, short career, crappy bosses, and all that.)

    We're in it for the money. As long as the money overcomes the trouble we have in our jobs, we stay. When our unhappiness overcomes the money we're seeing, we find something else.

    Good luck. You can find a comfort level in it, as long as the people around you are reasonable. And if you desperately need to find reasonable people, there's plenty here to talk to.

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    i agree, dancing is just not for everyone. If you like the job, but are having a tough time starting out, it's worth seeing if this choice is for you. I have worked with dancers who hated the job and men, i often wondered what they were doing there. They did not make much money it seemed as they sat on their butts alot talking. They complained all the time about lack of money, hours, smoke and mainly the customers. This job was not for them. They did not last long btw.

    If i hated dancing, i could not do it. Money is not the 'only' motivator that got me through it.

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    Most strippers I know depend on drugs/alcohol to get them through work...........

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    Maybe you are not at a great club. I wouldn't do the drugs and alcohol because then its hard to focus or even keep track of your money.

    Have you created a stage persona and a unique character yet? Have you read through the hustling tips on this site? Try some cheap tricks to get started - wearing the school girl is a gauranteed good night for some.

    Are you having fun at work? If you are not having fun you are not going to attract men.

    Its ok to complain on this site, but remember that the customers don't want to hear it.

    It's also just march, the business might pick up as weather warms up, depending on your area.
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    Just like any other skill it will take some time to start making good money in this business. Eventually (hopefully sooner than later), you will find out what works well for you.

    Last night I was in a crappy mood, got my period (while on stage, but no one noticed besides me), and am getting over a cold. I felt like I should just be lazy and not really worry about making money, and just take it easy. Well, I'm so conditioned to keep working, I made good money in spite of myself. I can't help but to work hard now while I'm in the club, it is a completely involuntary act for me now.

    I have been dancing for over five years now, and it is only within the last 2 or so that this has happened for me. I am a slow learner, apparently. But it will happen for you, too. When I was new I also had a day job and that kept me from getting to desperate while dancing.

    Maybe try working partime somewhere besides a strip club. Also try working different shifts. I usually work nights, but will come in and work a day shift every now and again just to see if I like it better. Also try different clubs and keep moving around to the other clubs until you find one you really like and fits best with your personality.



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    I go through my nights sober, as do alot of girls that I work with. And its very true, stripping isn't for everyone, what exactly is the hardest part for you?


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    Quote Originally Posted by NikkiD link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg87040#msg8704 0 date=1079968332
    I go through my nights sober, as do alot of girls that I work with. And its very true, stripping isn't for everyone, what exactly is the hardest part for you?
    Balance. I know a lot of girls are probably doing the same as me.. I am a single mother and it's very hard for me to be the mom... and then the sexified thing I turn into... I"m getting more use to the idea but some nights are trying for me especially when my friends don't support me and or wont even talk to me because I decided to dance....

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    I think you should be proud of yourself for doing what it takes to take care of you and your child, and I'm sure that some of your friends may not think it is the best choice but would support you in whatever you do. Those that wont talk to anymore suck and should be ashamed of themselves. People sometimes have to do things for themselves that upset others in their lives- I know that from experience- but regardless of what your friends/family think- just know that you are doing what you need to for you- not them.
    Impossible is a word for those with no determination

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    Just make sure that you put all of your money away for those slow nights. A lot of my friends spent their money as fast as they could earn it and then were running around mad when they didn't make any money. For every night that you get paid, put 20% into savings before you do anything else...and then use the rest just to pay bills.

    I have to pay my house fees up front before I start working, so when I make money, I put 20% in the bank, and then I put $100 off to the side to cover my next work night house fees. The rest goes to pay bills or gets divided up and put into other accounts. The name of the game is saving and you'll be much happier you did when the lean days come.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NikkiD link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg87040#msg8704 0 date=1079968332
    I go through my nights sober, as do alot of girls that I work with. And its very true, stripping isn't for everyone, what exactly is the hardest part for you?

    I'd have to agree with whomever said balance. I have a very hard time with my "balancing act" as I lovingly refer to it...

    I am a mom, a wife, a friend, and a dancer. Sometimes I go into work after having a hairied day at home: The cat went nuts, my daughter had a bad day at school, my husband is upset cause the hockey tickets he wanted are sold out.. then I have to go to work... I have to put everything aside from my day, get myself all dolled up and be sexy and make money. Sometimes its hard to do that. Sometimes its hard to leave your "other-more important life" at the door when you arrive at work. The girls who bring it into the club, are the ones who have shitty nights, the girls who are able to leave it outside fair better. Balance is definately the key.

    If I can give you one word of advice it is this: No matter how long you are in this for, do not blow your money on things of unimportance. Invest your money, save it. Have a level head when working and you will do great. I see so many girls who make good money who the next day complain that they are flat dead broke. They spend it all on expensive clothes, partying, and un necessary things.

    If I have a "fat" night and bank, I pay up my house fees, sometimes two weeks in advance (the manager's at first were shaking their heads at this) but, when the slow days come (and they do, and when they do we all hurt and suffer).. I am glad that I did so. I pay everything up in advance too.. so if I already have my house payment made for the month and its only the 8th day of the month and I make it in one night, I will pay my next month just so that its taken care of.

    I am a rare one in my club, most girls aren't married and don't have a "Second" income.. but I still live as though its just me, this is a hard non predicting business. Save for a rainy day.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg85755#msg8575 5 date=1079640501
    Most strippers I know depend on drugs/alcohol to get them through work...........
    Althought this is true about some dancers, I wouldn't say most. I would also like to comment that the girls that use drugs and alcohol don't make as much money overall.

    True, some girls make great money the first time they try crack or meth while working, but the damage it does to thier bodies makes it very difficult for her to return to work for the next couple of days. Meaning she has lost out on income because she was recovering from her "bender".

    Smoking pot just makes girls lazy, for the most part, as does drinking too much. When dancers use either of these substances, they might be having a great time, but the night just "flys by" and before she knows it, it is time to go home, and darn it she forgot to make money while she was there.

    My hubby and I went to check out a club I am thinking of working in, last night. Some of the dancers seemed fairly new to the biz, as their movements on stage were lacking grace. We stayed about an Hour and a half, and tipped everyone on stage. But not once were we approached by any of the girls. There were about 8 girls working and only two seemed to be working the floor. There were quite a few customers in the bar, and I saw a businessman sitting alone the entire time I was there. When the girls did approach the customers, it was the young cute guys (who have no money).

    I'm excited to work in this bar, as I could see there was a lot of money in the room, and the girls were letting the customers go home without spending . They want to spend (just like hubby and I were prepared to drop about $100 on table dances, but no one came to our table.)

    I wish I was a fly on the wall of the dressing room. I would like to hear what the dancers were saying about the crowd last night. I would be willing to bet they were saying things like "there is no money in the room" etc.

    I just keep in mind that ifmost of the other dancers are making bank, and I'm not making it, it is me not the crowd. I'm just glad there is money in the room to be had. That means I at least have a chance.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg89605#msg8960 5 date=1080595676
    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg85755#msg8575 5 date=1079640501
    Most strippers I know depend on drugs/alcohol to get them through work...........
    I wish I was a fly on the wall of the dressing room. I would like to hear what the dancers were saying about the crowd last night. I would be willing to bet they were saying things like "there is no money in the room" etc.

    I just keep in mind that ifmost of the other dancers are making bank, and I'm not making it, it is me not the crowd. I'm just glad there is money in the room to be had. That means I at least have a chance.
    This is what happens at my club all the time! Is good for me, because then I do pretty well, but christ, it makes you wonder. Once they had the last girl on stage, and they said over the mic "okay guys, that's all for the night, these lovely ladies are going to put their clothes on. our VIP room is still open xamount of time." I was talking to two guys, one asked if I'd find him a dance before the VIP room closed. So I went off to the dressing room, nobody is in street clothes yet - "anyone want to do a last minute VIP?" met with whining. I walk out with an extra $40 or so [I get $10 per vip w/o tips] because I don't mind last minute work.

    Weirdly enough on Thursday I worked 3.5 hours and made $115 - sometimes I don't make that much on a Saturday[yeah, crossing fingers it is the slow season] and I had a cold and was on my period and bloated and my pubic hair looked weird after shaving. So I wasn't expecting to do well at all, and did fine. I made $200 [that's a 'better' night for me] on the night I had a paratonsil abcess and wasn't sure if I'd have to hit the ER over the weekend, and my voice sounded like kermit the frog on crack. Maybe that was the fetish that night.
    "I still have my name
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg90057#msg9005 7 date=1080698591
    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg89605#msg8960 5 date=1080595676
    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=25;threadid=7523;start=msg85755#msg8575 5 date=1079640501
    Most strippers I know depend on drugs/alcohol to get them through work...........
    I wish I was a fly on the wall of the dressing room. I would like to hear what the dancers were saying about the crowd last night. I would be willing to bet they were saying things like "there is no money in the room" etc.

    I just keep in mind that ifmost of the other dancers are making bank, and I'm not making it, it is me not the crowd. I'm just glad there is money in the room to be had. That means I at least have a chance.
    This is what happens at my club all the time! Is good for me, because then I do pretty well, but christ, it makes you wonder. Once they had the last girl on stage, and they said over the mic "okay guys, that's all for the night, these lovely ladies are going to put their clothes on. our VIP room is still open xamount of time." I was talking to two guys, one asked if I'd find him a dance before the VIP room closed. So I went off to the dressing room, nobody is in street clothes yet - "anyone want to do a last minute VIP?" met with whining. I walk out with an extra $40 or so [I get $10 per vip w/o tips] because I don't mind last minute work.

    Weirdly enough on Thursday I worked 3.5 hours and made $115 - sometimes I don't make that much on a Saturday[yeah, crossing fingers it is the slow season] and I had a cold and was on my period and bloated and my pubic hair looked weird after shaving. So I wasn't expecting to do well at all, and did fine. I made $200 [that's a 'better' night for me] on the night I had a paratonsil abcess and wasn't sure if I'd have to hit the ER over the weekend, and my voice sounded like kermit the frog on crack. Maybe that was the fetish that night.
    Luna.. you crack me up girl!!!! I love the comparison to Kermit on crack... You are beautiful.. I bet you always do good!


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