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    Default THE FREAKS COME OUT AT NIGHT

    hey ladies
    have any of you ever had a really good customer and then he tells you hes in love with you?? this happened to me at work the other day & it not only creeped me out, but it made me depressed. i felt like a heartless bitch just stringing him along for his money. mind you, i never really gave him a reason to believe that i had feelings for him, but i did say a lot to boost his ego (isnt that what were supposed to do??) so i guess my real question is how do you keep good regulars without them wanting it to be more?? where do you draw the line between fantasy & reality, and still put enough in the bank every week??
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    Get used to them falling in love with you. My approach IS rather coldhearted, but i maintain the facade for as long as possible. At the end of the night, you just have to clue them in that you have a BF, extinuating circumstances, whatever.

    I think the best thing you can do from now on is keep the whole encounter lighthearted and funny. Nothing serious, just adults having a good time.

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    As long as you are not telling him you have feelings for him, or promising any eventual relationship, you are okay. We can't censor everything we say in the club, or add the disclaimer-"I already have a bf and would NEVER sleep with you." That would cut off the money real quick! The flattery and compliments we give our customers is part of the job. If they can't see that, it's thier problem. That's just as much of what they pay us for as the lap dances are!

    If a customer says he loves me I will smile, say how flattered and wonderful he makes me feel. Then I'd ask for the next dance. Unless I get the feeling he is mentally impaired or psycho, in that case I'll back off. Sane guys can figure it out for themselves. If that makes me cold-hearted, so be it.

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    Miss Chevious-

    I had a similar situation, but without the usual compliments from me to him, add lots of gifts and $$$ from him, plus the suspicion of him stalking me. Very scary, but the money was SOOOOO good.

    When he first told me that he loved me, I said "It's good to be loved!" Next time, I struck up a convo on how his seeing me wasn't and shouldn't be about finding love, but for entertainment, and that the person he "loved" was not the same when the lights went up. These things did not deter him for about another 9 months. I figure he just finally, after a year and a half, realized that "we" were going nowhere and to move on.

    It's definitely not necessary to tell or even imply that you have a BF or other SO. It's nobody's business whom or what you will be doing when you're not at work.

    Good luck and keep us updated.

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    I thought I had the dream customer once. He told me that he didn't want to know anything about me or my private life so I never told him,but he kept coming in and getting dances only from me. Then he started telling me that the girls he worked with wnated to know who he was dating because he was always in a good mood. Then he told me he wanted to take our relationship to the next level. I had to "break up" with him. There was part of me that hated to loose him $$$$ bit he was a nice guy and I couldn't string him along. So I told him that I couldn't, that I was married amd that I never told him because he said he didn't want to know. Well that was the last I saw of him.

    I hate having to "break up" with a customer but sometimes you just gotta do it. Just like a bus another one will come along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan-Va link=board=8;threadid=7528;start=msg85958#msg85958 date=1079675294

    I hate having to "break up" with a customer but sometimes you just gotta do it. Just like a bus another one will come along.
    I totally agree Susan-Va.

    Miss Chevious if continuing the relationship w/ him will make you feel bad, than end it for your own sake. Your first priority is yourself and that means not doing things that will cause you mental anguish later...............Some good regulars just can't be kept, and even a guy who totally understands that this is just fantasy and entertainment is going to eventually go somewhere else.

    As far as putting $$ in the bank every week -- good times come good times go, find yourself a happy medium and when your income jumps up extraordinarily (like with a fantastic regular) stash that extra $$ away for the times when he is gone, or use that loss as the impetus to get out there and hustle harder!
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    All regulars have a shelf life; that is the nature of regulars. Enjoy them while they last but be prepared to move on when they can no longer "settle" for what you will offer in the club.
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    I had something similar happen to me once. I had a reg who followed me to another club, and went around on the first night I was there telling men at other tables that he was my boyfriend. What a freak! I left town shortly after that so....

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    I fall for dancers all the time...... but I usually get over it by the time I leave the club.... :'(

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=8;threadid=7528;start=msg86114#msg86114 date=1079726492
    All regulars have a shelf life; that is the nature of regulars. Enjoy them while they last but be prepared to move on when they can no longer "settle" for what you will offer in the club.
    I've been a multi-year regular of a number of dancers. If a dancer becomes a Major Fave (I dislike the term "ATF"; it smacks of a RIL situation), I will tend to keep patronizing her until she quits or moves to another area. The frequency of visits will likely decrease over time, but I'm sure some have considered me their regular for a span of years. So it tends to be the shelf life of the dancer that limits my duration as a regular.


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    Default Re:THE FREAKS COME OUT AT NIGHT

    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=8;threadid=7528;start=msg86114#msg86114 date=1079726492
    All regulars have a shelf life; that is the nature of regulars. Enjoy them while they last but be prepared to move on when they can no longer "settle" for what you will offer in the club.
    Lil, youre post struck a chord with me but from a different perspective LOL I saw Miss D Saturday and she was telling me about a conversation she had with Miss B during my last club visit. I was away (probably in the potty..it sucks to be old ) so they had some time for girl talk. Miss B was was saying that Miss D had a "shelf life" with ME. Supposedly, Miss B said "First it was Miss J, then me and now you, Miss D. Wonder who will be next?"

    I laughed when Miss D was telling me this story. She has no idea how secure her position really is. She would have to really shit on me to get the boot. She does all the right stuff plus, bottom line, I enjoy the hell out of her company.

    Not sure if this post is exactly on topic but it brought back a fun recollection.

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    Reminds me of the movie Where Eagles Dare. Mary Ure turns to Richard Burton and says "I thought you loved me". Richard Burton looks her in the eye and says "I can't help what you think".

    Same thing here. Ladies, you can't help what your customers think. But the ones who love you had better understand that you are under no obligation to return the love.

    I think honesty is the best policy here. Thank him for thinking so highly of you that he feels that way, but let him know that there can never be anything between you outside the club. If he is at all a gentleman and if he truly does love you, he will understand that and respect that. And he will continue to be a good regular customer. If he doesn't accept that, then he never loved you. He was just trying to manipulate you for his own pleasure. He will likely move on. Tell him sooner rather than later. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.
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    just play it off like smile and tell him thats so sweet of him make it seems as if you know that he's playig or if you cant suggest you hang around him less
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