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    I've only been dancing since October, but after my current events, I'm out....... My best friend of 8 years was just raped, stabbed 27 times, shoved in her trunk and burned to the point of 90% cremation by two men like some of the creeps that I see in the club sometimes. She had nothing to do with the business, she actually worked with preschool children, was going to school to be a kindergarten teacher and worked with hanicapped and autistic children on the side....If it could happen to her, then it could happen to any one of us, those are the chances that we take with the business... I personally don't think that they are worth it anymore. So good luck to all of you and please be careful....
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    I am so sorry about your loss. I wish I had a magical saying that would make everything alright, but alas, I do not.

    Take care of yourself, and keep friends and family near at time like this.

    Sending good thoughts your way, Paris Love.



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    I wish there were some way to make this easier, but there simply isn't. There are too many nut cases in the real world. If anything, these tragic events do illustrate two points - #1 that tragedy can befall even the most 'innocent' of people trying to lead a good life in a well respected profession, and #2 that police spend way too much time working on truly unimportant aspects of law enforcement instead of seeking out dangerous criminals.

    I do have to agree with you that, these days, the risks involved with exotic dancing are pretty high compared to the potential rewards. This is the main reason that I very rarely dance live anymore. Good luck in your future pursuits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie link=board=27;threadid=7599;start=msg86831#msg8683 1 date=1079907424
    #2 that police spend way too much time working on truly unimportant aspects of law enforcement instead of seeking out dangerous criminals.
    AMEN to that!! Why worry about the dude with a pound of pot in his backpack, when there's a rapist around the corner?

    ambilyn, I am very, very sorry this happened. It makes my blood boil to hear a story like this. How did these guys abduct her? Does anyone know?

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    Ambilyn, our thoughts are with you and your friend....keep in touch

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    I'm sorry about what happened to your friend but what does that have to do with your job if she isn't a stripper?



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    Sorry to hear about your friend Ambilyn.






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    oh my god, Ambilyn, I am so sorry for your loss.
    I was really upset over this, as I can imagine you are. That has got to be the worst thing to happen to anyone. I am so sorry for your friend, her family, and you. God, I am at a loss for words...
    I am truly sorry, and I hope these bastards get what they deserve.
    I will say a bunch of prayers tonight for all of you, if that means anything.
    ((((((((HUGS))))))))

    Carlos, shes done dancing because this happened to someone she cared for who lived an "innocent" life. This poor girl got the short end of the stick. Imagine someone like us who lives a more dangerous life. I think thats why she is out... and I would be too.

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    That is really sad - sorry to hear about your loss, and sorry that the world lost another stripper girl.

    Deja vu, what ambilyn is saying is that if someone in a job as low profile as kindy teaching can end up in such a terrible situation, then the risk that dancers are exposed to are that much higher. She is right. I am a guy - with muscles and mean looking - and I get scared by some of the customers that turn up to my stage shows.

    Dancers and anyone that is in the "limelight" lose our anonynmity and privacy by doing what we do. The girl is frightenedand I think I can see why, particularly in light of her tragedy.
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    Honey, my heart goes out to you! I can't even begin to imagine the pain you feel from your loss!
    I wish you the best, regardless of your career choice.
    All my love and sympathy, Nikki


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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Voodoo link=board=27;threadid=7599;start=msg86871#msg8687 1 date=1079914147
    I'm sorry about what happened to your friend but what does that have to do with your job if she isn't a stripper?
    My thoughts are the same..I feel bad for you and my thoughts are with you..but if she wasnt a stripper..how does this influence you to stop dancing?
    At this time in my life, the only way I keep moving forward is to know that things will eventually get better..

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    People, please read her last sentence. It CLEARLY shows as to why she is not going to dance anymore.

    [quote=ambilyn
    link=board=27;threadid=7599;start=msg86826#msg8682 6 date=1079906545]
    If it could happen to her, then it could happen to any one of us, those are the chances that we take with the business... I personally don't think that they are worth it anymore. So good luck to all of you and please be careful....
    Ambilyn

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    i'm sorry about that ambilyn
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    I can't even imagine how much this hurts. My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family. I am so sorry.

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    She's making a parallel between some of her SC customers and the nutcases that did this unspeakable act:
    >>"by two men like some of the creeps that I see in the club sometimes."<<

    There is absolutely no doubt that violent predator&#039;s do target strippers, dancers, escorts, other forms of sex workers or wherever pretty women may be. I&#039;m stunned by the number of misogynists that frequent the local clubs, not to say they are all capable of violence, but it&#039;s a scary thing nonetheless. No one is safe out there and it can happen to anyone.

    I can&#039;t think of any words for ambilyn right now as I&#039;ve had some of the most delightful, inspiring, enlightening and wonderful people in my life untimely ripped from this earth from violence too many times to count, and each time it&#039;s earth shattering and painful. The only comfort I&#039;ve been able to feel is to psychologically turn the tables- and think about how I&#039;d feel if I were taken from my circle of loved ones and how I&#039;d want them to carry on with their lives. I&#039;ll say a prayer for you and your friend, ambilyn... and hope you can find closure and strength to get through this horrible, horrible ordeal.
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    Gosh...I don&#039;t know what to say...

    I hope that you are doing ok and please take care of yourself.

    Much hugs and love,
    Venus

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    Gosh that&#039;s so terrible. Sick people. The same thing happened at a club I worked for long time ago. Why do people have to do things like that to innocent people. Sorry for your lost Ambilyn.

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    i know what it&#039;s like to lose a friend to murder. i&#039;m sorry for your lose. we need to do something about these tragedies so they don&#039;t continue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChadW link=board=27;threadid=7599;start=msg86988#msg8698 8 date=1079947907
    Deja vu, what ambilyn is saying is that if someone in a job as low profile as kindy teaching can end up in such a terrible situation, then the risk that dancers are exposed to are that much higher. She is right. I am a guy - with muscles and mean looking - and I get scared by some of the customers that turn up to my stage shows.
    Ok, I get it now. Yeah, it&#039;s very sad to think that guys like those abound and make any decent woman go through hell.



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    As to Erotictonic&#039;s question, what happened was is that she was set up... Her friend, who was the girlfriend of one of the guys took her to a party. When she started to feel uncomfortable, she went out to her car and passed out (cuz she wont drink and drive) giving her friend the keys so that she could drive her home in a few...... her friend preceeded to give her boyfriend and his friend the keys who went out to her car, tried to rape her and when she fought back it all happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ambilyn link=board=27;threadid=7599;start=msg87437#msg8743 7 date=1080058004
    As to Erotictonic&#039;s question, what happened was is that she was set up... Her friend, who was the girlfriend of one of the guys took her to a party. When she started to feel uncomfortable, she went out to her car and passed out (cuz she wont drink and drive) giving her friend the keys so that she could drive her home in a few...... her friend preceeded to give her boyfriend and his friend the keys who went out to her car, tried to rape her and when she fought back it all happened.
    OMFG!!!!!!

    After what I&#039;ve experienced with low-class people, I can believe it! Who in the he** was this "friend"? Wow, what a great girl! And she wanted her bf to rape her friend??? WTF? Please be careful out there girls! It is so disturbing what some people are actually capable of doing. I found this out, that some people you think are your friends are wolves in sheeps&#039; clothing.

    Thank you for sharing this story with us. I think we forget sometimes just how dangerous the world is. Again, I am truly sorry about your friend.

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    wow,.. that poor girl..
    ill pray for her family.

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    I don&#039;t blame you for wanting to get out of the business, even though your friend was a non-dancer. After the unspeakable violence this woman experienced due to two men, it can&#039;t be easy being around a roomful of tipsy, rowdy guys. An event of that magnitude has got to cause a monumental shift in perspective.

    I am deeply sorry for your loss and look forward to her attackers being sodomized with shivs for the rest of their natural lives.
    "She has written so well, and marvellously well, that I was completely ashamed of myself as a writer...But this girl, who is to my knowledge very unpleasant and we might even say a high-grade bitch, can write rings around all of us who consider ourselves as writers"

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