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    Default Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Ok, I know this topic has been been skimmed over before, but I want to open it up more in depth based on some recent conversations.

    I was at a club visiting my regular girl, and when she was busy some other dancers would come over and sit with me to chat. On different occassions this would happen, and the particulars as below have happened at least 3 times. They knew I was waiting for my regular girl, and they would praise her up and down. But then, while talking they would mention how they were dancing to make money for school, etc. and that "other" girls were doing this to feed their kids or support their drug habits. They would make every other dancer seem less than her. I had one girl tell me some of the crap about other girls without mentioning who they were while she admitted she was high on xanax right in front of me. Then when they were done bemoaning the other girls, they wouldn't even ask for dance, and tell me they would get my girl or let he know I was still waiting.

    So, why do some dancers feel the need to bash the other girls, even when they don't seem to be moving in on me (or any other guy for that matter)? I am pretty sure they didn't mean to bash my girl. One of the reasons I chose her is they way I read her. I may be wrong, but (not to be immodest) that is not that often when I read people.
    Do people think they are bashing my girl, or are they just bashing the other girls for no good reason?
    I have to say I find the practice of dancers trashing their fellow dancers a bit disturbing and a big turnoff.



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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    They either were trying to get your business or trying to feel better about themselves.

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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Women are catty (meow)!!! That's just how it is.

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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Madgrad I was going to type the same thing!

    You have lotsa women working in close quarters in a highly charged sexual, competitive money hungry environment and it WILL get ugly.

    Add the alchohol, drugs, and immaturity and KABOOM!
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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    jealousy or um.....yeah jealousy...or maybe its jealousy, who knows it could just be jealousy



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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Those of us who don't work in strip clubs often get lost in the assumption that because we see two dancers at a club often working together cordially, we assume that they are "co-workers" (I've used the term myself), but because most dancers are IC's this is really a misnomer. To a dancer, that "other dancer" in reality is like the "other store" in town. She is after all is cut and dry, effectively the competition.

    And truth be told, you will find this backstabbing not just in strip clubs, but in pretty much any line of work where people work on commision, or whereever there is an opportunity for promotion in place. Hell, look at our politicians. Don't they set a wonderful example for us all? I think the reason it sticks out the most in the strip club environment is because the nature of what is being sold. To quote Kelis:

    My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard,
    And THEY'RE LIKE, "It's better than yours"
    Damn right, it's better than yours,


    Thankfully most customers find these lowball tactics insulting and they will often backfire on the girls who use them.
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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    omg doc you're soooooo funny!


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    Quote Originally Posted by ToriBaltimore link=board=8;threadid=7632;start=msg87412#msg87412 date=1080050254
    jealousy or um.....yeah jealousy...or maybe its jealousy, who knows it could just be jealousy
    :cool: I love it! So right!!!

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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Doc, you read my mind!

    I will only say nice things about the girls I work with. If I really dislike another dancer, or think poorly of her for whatever reason, I will say to the guy I'm with that I don't know her, or that we usually work different shifts etc.

    The guys in the clubs will try to get dirt on the dancers by asking other girls to dish. I find that annoying, and will usually say something like "I'd do her, she's hot."


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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    it is like running a race don't look at anyone else running the race it will slow you down

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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Quote Originally Posted by ToriBaltimore link=board=8;threadid=7632;start=msg87412#msg87412 date=1080050254
    jealousy or um.....yeah jealousy...or maybe its jealousy, who knows it could just be jealousy
    I suppose that could be it even though I know some of the girls are friends on the outside too. One night at the club, I went in to see my regular girl, and she had called in. Oh well. One of the other girls came over and first words out of her mouth..."Oh hey! You're "so ands so's" guy!"
    I guess being branded that way can make for jealousy. I know some of the other girls won't come over to me even when my girl is not around. I keep catching them looking over at me, but not moving. I find it funny.

    Thanks for the opinions.
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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    All I can say is that no matter how old some of these girls get, they still want to be the high school drama queen/center of attention. "Look at me! Look at me!"
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    I've found many strip clubs to be very cliquish, just like high school. As others have said, it's a combination of jealousy and immaturity. It also drives customers away and costs dancers a lot of money. Customers are looking for fun, not drama. They get enough of that at home.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL link=board=8;threadid=7632;start=msg88131#msg88131 date=1080228347
    Customers are looking for fun, not drama. They get enough of that at home.

    AMEN!
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    Default Re:Why do dancers sometimes trash each other?

    Sometimes in order for the talker (or trasher) to feel good about themselves, they need to talk smak about other girls... Insecurities.

    Drama should be a four lettered word... I don't have time for it on the floor.. or anywhere else for that matter. Currently we have a newbie (who doesn't know how to dance to save her life and has asked everyone for help, but has ruined any type of help from any of us because of her trash talking ways) who talks trash about everyone.. I save my comments for the dressing room, I refuse to stoop to inmature levels, especially when customers are present.

    I also agree, customers get enough drama at home... and when drama arises I simply walk away. I save it for after hours when I can let myself cool down and handle it in a mature manner.


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