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    My husband and I were at breakfast the other day (at Denny's of all places). Our waitress turns out to be a girl who had been dancing awhile ago and had given my husband some VIP dances. Now, I didn't recognize her right away. But she comes up to us and acts like we're old friends. We actually only seen her the 1 night, and I couldn't believe she remembered us, it was quite a few months ago. She approached us and asked if we remebered her. We didn't care that she did, she was a really delightful young lady. Anyhow, jus wondering how many of you approach your customers if you see them in public? I would assume she would of been more discreet if we had guests or our kids w/ us-- one hopes.

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    i usually hide when i see customers in public... i don't know why... but i am embarrassed... especially when i'm like wearing sweats and a ponytail at the supermarket... i have hidden from a customer before... so i have never approached anyone i knew as a customer... but i might say hi if it was a regular or something... if i wasn't wearing sweats ...

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    Generally I do not bring attention to myself if a customer (regular or not) is around. If they ask about whether it was me they saw .. I say "No.. I was at home at the time".

    I usually do the School Girl look (in one variety or another) and hence I don't look exactly the same as I do outside the club. I'm very dressed down and casual when outside the club.





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    gee ..it would be hard for me to ever see one of my customers if i do see any of my customers it would be rare/to never for me to just go up and say "hi remember me i'm so and so......" i can imagine how embarassing it would have been if you had other family members around but i guess she was just trying to be friendly
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    Some girls will, some won't. If I see a customer out in public, and he approaches, I will politely chat, but I won't mention anything about the club if there are people around who don't know I'm a stripper. If I see a customer with others, I won't say a word or even act like I know him in front of them, unless he does first. But I am a little uncomfortable hanging with customers out in public, so I won't ever approach. I might wave or nod in passing, but unless they come over I'm not going to chat. My offtime is not stripper time, and I prefer to keep it seperate.

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    It is probably best not to say anything about where you had met before. Many girls are hiding their dancer jobs from others, so not mentioning anything is the best way to go. If you like her, then do be friendly, but don't even say her name (even if you are pretty sure you know her real name).

    On the flip side, dancers should use the same approach with customers they see outside of the club. I am usually friendly with club customers, but not overly so. That way the customer has an out, too. He can say I am the drive up girl a Starbucks or whatever.

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    I don't approach customers if I see them outside the club. If they smile and say hi to me, I smile and say hello back, but that's it. Not because I am stuck up or rude, but I prefer to keep my work life and my personal life separate.

    If I were alone and a customer came up to me and talked for a bit, I wouldn't mind. On the other hand, if I'm with someone and a customer saw me, I would prefer if he said nothing at all, or just smiled and said hello. My friends know that I dance, but my family members do not (they are very strict and conservative.) It would be very awkward trying to explain to my mother and father how I know a particular customer.

    About a week ago, I was at the grocery store with my father, and the manager there is a guy who comes in to the club quite often. He smiled and nodded at me and I smiled back, but we didn't say anything to each other. I haven't seen him since, but I appreciate the fact that he was discreet.






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    i get scared if customers know where I hang out when not dancing, but then again I am kinda paranoid...
    I only ever had one guy recognize me, I was at the mall with my friends, some of whom didnt approve of me dancing... and he kept yelling "AMI, AMI".... I just pretened it wasnt me and moved a little faster past the food court....

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    IF I am alone, IF he is alone, and IF he is a regular, I will walk over and say hello. I don't use names and I watch what I say, but I do take the opportunity to be friendly for 2 minutes to someone who tips me every week. I am not at work and I will not stay and chat, but a quick, friendly greeting can go a long way.

    If any of those conditions do not apply, I'll wink.

    Most of the time it is a non-issue, though. They don't even recognize me in a different setting. I see them looking "normal" - as in, wearing clothes. They are used to seeing me with a lot more make-up, a lot less light, and wearing practically nothing... taken out of context, they generally never put it together. Even if they are checking me out!
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    I would see this as a person whose livelihood depends on tips, schmoozing with the customers to get a bigger tip. She probably recognized you before you recognized her because you were more dressed like when she saw you at the club, than she was dressed like when you saw her there. Plus there were 2 of you.

    She still makes money from tips and an extra $2-$3 is a big percentage increase compared to 15%, the normal "polite" tip on what a $10 check? I'd call that smart "waitress hustle" as long as she did not ask if you wanted a dance.

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    Frankly, if I was with someone, I'd be a bit horrified if a dancer came up to me. I would hope a dancer would be a bit more discreet because what I do for fun isn't necessarily anyone's business but my own. So my advise is just don't come up to a customer unless you are sure he is alone.

    Then it's fine to say hi.

    But, a couple of the dancers I've known are 'implusive' or have the "I'm not ashamed to be a dancer attitude", which is great, or just have that stripper look. So again, my advise, just be considerate. You never know if the guy is out to lunch with his boss and he or she is just around the corner.

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