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    i know this question has probably been asked like several thousand times but i want to tell my mom that i want to dance. she is 95% of the time really cool about everything but this to me is a really tough subject. i though about dropping jokes about it and trying to tie it into usual conversation but she can be an airhead some times well anyways just anyone tell me how they broke it to their parents

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    Default Re:How to break it to them

    Do you live with her?
    I would ask her what she thinks of dancers first. Match her tone when you break the news. If she thinks it's Ok, tell her like it is no boig deal. Cut out the half hour speech in the beginning. Cut to the chase-you won't be exhausted from all the information you give her.
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    Sounds like you have the same relationship with your mom as I do with mine.... I told her I've never lied to her before and that's why I'm telling her... she accepted that I am a grown 25 year old and not her little baby anymore and I promised I wouldn't do drugs... that was her number one worry.

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    Hi Aurelia,
    I guess we need more information to help you with your question. I am also a new member, but would like to offer my experience and assistance. How old are your and are you living with your Mom? I don't know anything about your Mom or her life, but perhaps you could start the conversation off (after mentioning that you want to talk to her about something important [to you]), saying something like, "Mom, remember when you were really young and wanted to do (or did or try) lots of cool stuff? Well, I've been thinking about dancing and I just wanted to ask you about your your idea(s) on it and see what you thought". Regardless of what her opinion is in relation to dancing, you will at least be putting the ball in her court and opening up a forum to discuss it with her with HER opinion at the center (not necessarily her approval or blessing [and she doesn't necessarily have to know this]).
    Let us (me?[I knidly defer to the older members here]) know how things turn out or what else you might need in the line of advice or help.
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    i do live with her and i am 19. i still go to school thats why i still live with her so that way i dont have to pay so much for school. i actually work at a resturant that is owned by the Peoria, il Big Als and i had to work there one night as a cocktail and she seemed cool about it she was only worried that i might get hurt

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    well...when i told my mom it went something like this:

    I asked her about it a while before I did it and she was like hell no, I pretended like I wasn't serious at this point.

    So then after about a month of keeping it under wraps, and lieing about where i was working, i just walked in the door from being away for a week or so (i go to school an hour away from home) and said, "mom I know you didn't want me to work at a strip club, but I didn't want to continue lieing to you, and i just wanted to tell you that I do"

    i think she was shocked at that point. but she was mostly concerned with my safety. She asked me where I worked, if there are bouncers, did I walk to my car alone, etc. She didn't tell my dad - which was good cuz he would have flipped. She didn't like it, but she realized that it was my decision and that I seemed to be having fun. I also pointed out that well she technically owns my car and I'm paying her for it, so there was no way I could make my car payments with the 6.25 an hour I make at my other job. She warned me not to get in to drugs etc and to "watch out for the wierdos". When I talked about quitting my first club, she was more than excited, and talked to me on my cell phone the whole drive to and from the club that night.

    Oh yeah, I'm 19 too.

    Good luck!


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    I don't think I'll be telling my 'rents for awhile, I mentioned how a fellow we knew, his ex girlfriend was going on Jenny Jones to announce to world and her new bf that she was a stripper. Mum goes on and on about how she can't believe a 'nice guy' like him would date a girl 'like that,' strippers are trashy and stripping is degrading, blah blah. Even wasn't thrilled when I mentioned I'd worked with stripper at my cashiering job!
    Much like I don't mention my other additional income from porn [written and photo] or my sex life, I don't see the need to mention this. But, it depends on how long you think you'll stay in the business. Me, I dunno, maybe until I'm out of school or something. 15-20 years? Not likely.
    So, I'd feel it out first, then be blunt.
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