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    This is a two part question. First is do dancers who dance for women with ther husbands mostly do it for the money or do they enjoy women too. Next, is we went to a club 8 months ago and had a wonderful dance from a dancer who kept asking Me for a dance. She seemed really into me, but I thought it was "part of the job" my husband thinks otherwise. We went back to the club last week and she came right over to the table and sat next to me saying she was so excited we were back and kept asking why why we had'nt been there for so long (I could'nt believe she remembered us, and this club gets a good handful of couples all the time). We went to the ld room for the dance she was alot more touchy feely with me and started kissing me etc. She kept telling us all night that she wants me to come back sooner this time. What do I make of this. (The ld's by the way are 95% me and 5% the hubby. I'm afraid to say anything to because I don't want to look stupid for reading her wrong but at the same time , I do kinda feel a connection with her especially after our makeout session, which really was fantastic . Any help here on what to make of it?

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    I'll say to you what I say to the guys that ask "does she really like me?"

    If she's asking you to buy dances, then it's a business relationship.

    There is a 0.0001% chance she wants to have a personal relationship with you, but if she did, she would make it very obvious so you wouldn't be confused. So would have talked about meeting outside the club instead of at the club again.

    As for do we like to dance for women? I can't speak for all dancers, but some really do enjoy it. Generally speaking, we don't care as long as you're spending money.

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    As the female counterpart of a couple who frequents strip clubs on a regular basis. Here's my take: so far, dancers are always WAAAAAAY more into me than my husband. They are more touchy, more intimate, things along those lines. Now, we've never approached a dancer for a dance, we wait for them to ask us, mostly because I don't want a dancer who feels awkward dancing for couples. Most have asked my sexual preference, and claim to be "bi".

    No offense, but most dancers are some of the greatest actresses in the world. Part of their job, if they're doing it well, is to make you think they want you in a sense. At least from my point of view it is. If she's taking the money-- it's all business!! She probably generally likes you, as a customer.

    Now, this isn't a bad thing. It can be fun and exciting. You all have a connection in the LD room-- and that makes for a better dance.

    I personally have met many dancers-- they all say most of the same things. Which is fine. My husband and I are only looking for a few hours out. We'd actually never take it further than there, even if the offer were out there. Just remeber it's their job. I think every guy thinks the dancer must be into their wife/girlfriend because from expierence the LD is much, much more intimate for w/ women from what I've expierenced (which is many different dancers, many different dances). We've had dances where the dancer has asked if she can concentrate solely on me-- of course my husband could care less.

    Just have fun with it, but don't put expectations out there.

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    If you pay me, I'll dance for you. However if you're Indian, I will run away LOL.

    I personally don't see any difference between dancing for a female over a male. It is a little different however, overall, it is still the same. The same rules apply for the female customers as for the men.

    Also, do not be afraid to tell the dancer that you would like her to spend equal time with you and your husband. I personally always ask this.. who is going to be first ? Who wants the last few minutes ? Do you want to share me or is the dance primarily for the female or male ?

    If you fancy a dancer, you can tip her on stage and this will send a big signal to her that you guys are interested. This especially helps out dancers, like myself, who won't actively pursue the couples... I usually pursue the male punters first and only the couples as a last resort. If you don't indicate to me you are interested (tips, giving me a smile when I'm on stage, etc)... then I won't approach.



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    Excellent responses here so far.

    The dancers always pay more attention to the woman than the man when entertaining a couple. This is just the smart thing to do because it: 1) Ensures the woman likely won't get jealous about the dancer paying too much attention to the man, 2) Keeps the woman interested, which helps the dancer's bottom line - the woman usually tips better and/or asks for more dances in a couple situation, 3) Amuses the man and let's his imagination run wild about how much the dancer is into his wife/gf and what fun it'd be to get in the middle - he is usually the one paying so it's a good idea to entertain him.

    Dancers often ask for customers they like and feel comfortable with (as customers), and who spend money, to come back. These same dancers will also do lots to make you feel like you're special to them. That is part of building regular clientele.

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    Although it is good business sense to pay more attention to the female in a couple, I will say that often I really am having a good time dancing for a woman. If she's having fun and enjoying herself and is nice to me, it means that I probably really am having fun (in addition to making some money). These things go for male customers as well, but there's something a little more naughty and fun about dancing for a sweet, soft woman.

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    I personally don't have a problem dancing for women but a lof of dancer's I've met do. They can be a bit aggressive sometimes and assume they can get away with more than guys can.

    Women and couples are usually good for a table dance, but they are almost never where a good chunk of your $$$ will come from.

    BTW, Gold Coast, I had an Indian customer tonight and he was very well dressed and smelled just fine. And spent a few hundred on me too So there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NinaDaisy link=board=8;threadid=7811;start=msg91029#msg91029 date=1080895309
    BTW, Gold Coast, I had an Indian customer tonight and he was very well dressed and smelled just fine. And spent a few hundred on me too So there.
    I do realise there are exceptions to the rule... I'm mainly talking about the Indians who are not westernised. The Indians who are Indians... hence the ones that stink because of cultural reasons.

    Just that here on the Gold Coast, esp. in the club I just quit... a greater majority of the Indian punters and customers were just plain awful to dance for or be around. These punters and customers were usually Indians... not westernised Indians (who know how to use deodarant and breath mints).

    I've just had a negative experience with them more often than not hence that has 'flavoured' my taste for them.

    Just my personal experience.


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    Default Re:dancing for women

    i like to dance for women, but guys creep me out, and women are sexy, guys are not.

    but as susan said its good buisness sence to pay attention to the female in a couple because if she dosnt approve there no money period.

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    Hey gold coast girl,you dont like Indians and you dont like Russians. Who do you like? Just curious.
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    devil, I think you have GoldCoastGirl confused with someone else. ???

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    Last night my husband and I were at a club. We go on the average of twice a month. Anyhow, there were just as many women customers as men. I've noticed each time we go, that this is becoming the trend. We saw a table that was almost all women-- w/ 1 guy.

    They were all tipping pretty well. But they were a bit obnoxious. What I don't like is when I see female customers go up to the stage and put the tip in there bra-- or elsewhere and want the dancer to take it. Now, I know a lot of dancers will initiate this-- I'm assuming to get a rise out of the other male patrons (they all seem to get flustered at even the smallest girl-girl action). Anyhow, I hate it when the female customers initiate it. What if the dancer doesn't want to do that. I don't know, I think it's a bit too "pushy" for my tastes!! I mostly send my husband up to tip, unless the club is pretty empty. The one we go to often isn't that big, but I don't like going up to tip and having 50 set of male eyes waiting to see what "might" happen. I can't believe the stares when we buy a dance and walk through the club to the back room. Anyhow, if and or when I do tip, I expect it to be the same as the guys. Just my 2 cents.

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