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    I work in what id call a high contact club in that all the girls grind, but the men do not touch at all, they sit with hands behind backs. Ive only ever worked in that club but we're not required to grind on everyone, it doesnt phase me coz i spose ive never known anything different, if i feel uncomfortable with a particular customer (or they have hurty jeans on!) I wont grind so much! (When i say hurty jeans, i had a lad wearing very expensive beaded/sequined/patterned jeans, i didnt realise why my arse hurt so much till i realised id scratched it all over his adorned trousers and had scrapes all over my booty!!)
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    I think I'm desensatized.

    Because of the California laws regarding age of employment at establishments serving alcohol, I can only work at nude clubs (no alcohol) so I've never been able to work at a no or low contact club. When I first started working I remember feeling uneasy, but it really doesn't bother me anymore. I have boundaries in regard to contact and I don't break them, and I never go home feeling uneasy anymore, but I don't think I would work in a high contact club if I had other options.

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    I work at a high contact club.
    When I first started dancing I felt very disturbed and uneasy when guy after guy after guy had their hands all over me, and tried to suck my boobies. I even started bawling once after a guy touched my cooch.
    I've definitely let my guard down as time has passed, and it doesn't bother me so much anymore when a guy is crazy with his hands, but I've also grown some balls and won't stand for guys touching the vajayjay area.

    If I think about it too much, I won't go in and work though. I have major issues with people touching me in normal, everyday life. I went through a period of my life where I'd have an anxiety attack if people just brushed my shoulder, and hugs from even people I cared about were totally off limits. I just have to turn off my emotions, and transform into the character that is defined by my stage name, and voila - I don't care.
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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    ^ I'm a top earner in the exact same situation, and I don't do any of that stuff. If you don't let it get to you, 99% of customers won't mind that you're a no-contact dancer.
    Thanks, Charlie, that gives me hope. These other girls are boring on stage so I hope to be really, really entertaining and get the guys excited to see me work, not just walk up and expect a motorboat to the face.

    And, Amalia, that makes sense, too. Outside of the club I've always been very modest, which is a part of the reason why no on expected me to do it. Which is sort of a compliment, i guess. So i can just be different inside and not worry about it!

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    ^ Yes. I can assure you (for the most part)...if you see a decrease in your earnings, it's because you're letting it get to you. Not because the customers care.

    The big spenders are not usually guys who like boobs-in-the-face on stage anyway, in my experience. You'll make the big bucks for straight up personality (ability to hold entertaining conversation) and your appearance.

    I watch girls go back and grind, make $20, and the guys come back to their seats. I give a guy a $20 air dance, and he asks me to stay with him.

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    ^ Definitely. All the guys that wanted boobs in face were usually younger and looked like pervy rednecks anyways. All the high spenders, I know they were because the manager said they come in and lay down big $$ all the time, were 40+, friendly and NOT getting cheap boobs in their face for a buck lol.

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    I find that actually the higher spending clients don't want a lot of contact. A girl who gives a sexy strip tease will always have more regulars than a girl who dances slutty and gives the guy whatever he wants. Remember men biologically are programmed to want what they feel they have to work for and can't have.

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    ^ Exaaaaactly.

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    Second Anastasia's post...

    I have a regular who refuses to see me do stage dances, won't look at my boobs, and will give me 100-300 just to sit and have a drink or 2 with him sporadically throughout the night.

    That being said...

    My club is pretty high-contact and is known for having a lot of "extras" girls. While I've never seen anything too bad happening in there, I tend to be consciously oblivious of these kinds of things. I quite honestly don't mind if a man touches my legs or my ass, I don't mind giving a pretty raunchy dance (spreading my legs, bending over in front of them, etc), and depending on the customer I don't mind sitting on their lap/straddling them as long as it's not too excessive. Unfortunately, my competition tends to be a little more lenient...I've had more than one customer want to stop in the middle of the dance because I won't let them touch my pussy or suck on a nipple...These men look truly flabbergasted when I say no and are like, "But the other girls here do it!" I wouldn't mind trying a club where low-contact was the norm, but I've only been dancing for a year and like someone else has said, I was "raised" in a high-contact environment.

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    " The last girl let me do it!"

    Then go dance with her!

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    Quote Originally Posted by michele View Post
    I think more than anything once you do this for a while you realize that men want to feel connected to you as a dancer not,rubbed on like they are getting dry humped,I once worked in a club I was told had no contact,took my first customer back and across from me the girl was dry humping,bouncing up and down on this guy in a so obnoxious type off manner,well I just did my thing and made more money than anyone all night.I connect more with a customer,give great eye contact ,a slight touch of the arm and face,I wont grind but I will sit on the lap,lean back and brush my hair or cheeck against his,all this is still incredibly sensual and will get you much farther than mindlessly grinding a guy for an entire song.Rmember connect with the customer,not get him off.
    Thankyou for this post. I am completely freaked out right now. Vice is cracking down in vegas really hard right now. I have always done high contact heavy grinding vegas style dancing. It has never offended me in the slightest. I did a little bit of air dancing in LA for a brief period of time years ago and no one made any money doing that. Heavy vegas grinding is pretty much all I've ever done. My friend taught me how to do a no contact dance that kind of passes for ok in Vegas. But I feel like I am ripping the guy off when I do this. I got a dance violation warning a few weeks ago and they threatened us with a criminal record if we get in trouble again. I have been so afraid to work and I am so broke. Right now its really tough in vegas. There are a lot of girls not even making their house fee back. e
    Even on a friday night (and this is convention season). I just don't know how we are going to survive out here. When guys come to vegas they expect a vegas style dance. I know its not worth a criminal record so I can't do it anymore. Fortunately I have other job skills but It's not like there are a million normal jobs available. We have over 14% unemployment.
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    Quote Originally Posted by black_widow View Post
    Plus--and now, many people will disagree with me on this--but I personally think that MOST men that come into strip clubs come in to see, feel, grab and rub against female bodies. They DON'T come in looking for some girl to talk to them for hours, or some chick to play mind games with them, because they could go to a bar and find that. Hell, most of their wives or girlfriends fuck with them in the head and flirt then don't put out and that's why they come to strip clubs IN THE FIRST PLACE. Men come in to touch and feel and be sexual with women, because they can't get that anywhere else, and when you allow them to really do that, i.e. TOUCH you, they will spend more and they will come back more often. I may be wrong on this but since women manipulate and play mind games with men ALL THE TIME in real life, I just think that the LAST THING men want when they come into a strip club is to have to go through that YET AGAIN. They just want straightforward, no nonsense, female nudity and female sexuality.

    Now maybe I'm wrong about this, but I feel like it's true, and for me, out of all the years I've been dancing, I've seen this hold true MORESO than the myth that men come in for companionship. I mean, yeah, some do, and some genuinely just want a girl to be interested in them, and some just want to "talk" but those are NOT the typical dudes that come in.
    I agree. There are so many times where I have met a guy who is really angry because some girl talked him into vip and all she did was talk and or give some crappy no contact dances. There are very few guys who will spend $600 for one hour in the vip for conversation and light contact dancing with no grinding at all. In my experience when girls pull that crap the guy tells all his friends that vip is a rip off and then no one can get them to go back.
    I am trying to have a good attitude and not be afraid of going to work now that vice is cracking down on dancing but in my experience light contact does not fly in Vegas.

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    Big spenders don't want a dirty dance TRUST me on this one. A girl who gives you a sensual strip tease is always someone you come back to.

    Be an entertainer not just someone dancing with her top off or nude!

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    I don't understand how I'm going to get a guy to do vip off of airdancing. I don't understand how I'm supposed to get a guy to get more than one dance on the floor. Yesterday I only made $90. Most people I know aren't able to make $$ now because of this airdance crap. The only reason I even made that much is because yesterday a guy niavely went with me into vip and obviously did not know that all I could do was airdances. If I could have done real dancing I know I could have upsold him to a half an hour. That's what I always used to be able to do. I'm completely lost on how to make $$ now. Does anyone have any advice?
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    The only way to keep guys spending money on low-contact dances is enforcement from all the clubs in the area, including the management and bouncers enforcing rules.

    Look at Atlanta and Portland. Low-contact is enforced (in most of the clubs), and the male custies are trained to behave. Conversely, strippers are punished for breaking rules and allowing serious levels of contact, especially out in the open.

    OTC does happen, it happens everywhere. But its not up to strippers to self-monitor contact. Its up to the clubs to keep it clean. That way, they don't get busted, lose their liquor licenses, or have to payoff the police.

    Not sure if that's even feasible in the US in the near future, aside from cities where its already the norm.

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    I am ok with some contact... in other words touch my kitty and DIE lol. But for enough money I don't mind some touching. My club has a 3 tier contact/price dances... floor dances are strictly air, nothing else. VIP is light grinding and no contact on the custies end, at least one foot has to be on the floor. In the fantasy room it's anything but touching the kitty/anoos and no touching of the custies weiner.

    I like to use grinding as a tool for tease/denial... Grind for a few seconds then stand up and show them a full body view. But I will not grind for less than I think it's worth per song.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XAnastasiaX View Post
    I find that actually the higher spending clients don't want a lot of contact. A girl who gives a sexy strip tease will always have more regulars than a girl who dances slutty and gives the guy whatever he wants. Remember men biologically are programmed to want what they feel they have to work for and can't have.
    i have to disagree with you for one reason, IME, a lot of the best spending customers are the cuddlers. cuddling is not really a dance per say, but it is contact, and it is in demand.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    i have to disagree with you for one reason, IME, a lot of the best spending customers are the cuddlers. cuddling is not really a dance per say, but it is contact, and it is in demand.
    Oh definitely, but I'm pretty sure she's just talking contact during dances.

    I'm very anti-contact, but I love cuddly custies (as long as they aren't trying to feel you up). Sitting there hugging someone is easy money, and they just want the physical comfort of another human being. It's different from the dudes who want contact during dances

    Case in point: Saturday I had five hours with a customer. He mostly wanted to cuddle, and then do a few dances.

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    Yes I was speaking of the guys who try to touch your crotch, butt, boobs etc. I was actually at a club last night where the GIRLS/DANCERS were the ones encouraging the touching not the clients. It was unpleasant to me

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    i don't mind grinding and all that, but if a guy touches my boobs it's over. my nips are overly sensitive to the point of pain if a guy messes with them. i hate it! ugh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wanderlust08 View Post
    i don't mind grinding and all that, but if a guy touches my boobs it's over. my nips are overly sensitive to the point of pain if a guy messes with them. i hate it! ugh.
    I agree but it's because nipple touching disgusts me. You touch my tits- game over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by XAnastasiaX View Post
    Yes I was speaking of the guys who try to touch your crotch, butt, boobs etc. I was actually at a club last night where the GIRLS/DANCERS were the ones encouraging the touching not the clients. It was unpleasant to me
    ok fair enough. i guess i find that often the cuddlers are also handsy during the dances. but they are different than the guys who go for the crotch, but and boobs... they are indescriminate with their hands.... i find they often try to hug me during the dance.... i think they just need human contact. usually at this point it becomes obvious that they are a cuddler and will shell out money for cuddling in a more intimate champagne room setting.

    and i understand the fucked up ness of the dancers encouraging touching. ive mentioned it a few times on this board before , but ill recap again-- over the summer i went as a customer to cabaret royale in dallas a couple of times... the girl i got a dance from like physiclally took my hands and had me grope her boobs. i also found this unpleasant, even though i LOOOOVE boobs (and she had a nice set).... but i guess since i am a dancer i was bothered that this type of contact was being encouraged ON THE FLOOR. sheesh. why work harder for your money?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    I just heard a great saying. If a guy trys to grab your crotch say "You are not allowed to be a cookie monster"

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    i work in socal so its high contact so i guess im kinda immune to high contact...but my cookie and boobs are off limits (though if/when it happens it doesn't bother me too much i just move their hands and most custies are respectful of when i tell them it's against club rules) and otc i'm super protective of myself...like if a guy grabs my ass i'm ready to beat his ass whereas in the club i'll just act all cutesy and get the bouncer. i actually have a hard time going to regular clubs now after working in the sc's. but i do grind but not the whole time, i do a combination of teasing and grinding and pretty much use the outside of my thigh and ass to grind.

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    i work in socal so its high contact so i guess im kinda immune to high contact...but my cookie and boobs are off limits (though if/when it happens it doesn't bother me too much i just move their hands and most custies are respectful of when i tell them it's against club rules) and otc i'm super protective of myself...like if a guy grabs my ass i'm ready to beat his ass whereas in the club i'll just act all cutesy and get the bouncer. i actually have a hard time going to regular clubs now after working in the sc's. but i do grind but not the whole time, i do a combination of teasing and grinding and pretty much use the outside of my thigh and ass to grind.

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