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    i dont know what to do.

    in october last year i moved countries with my man and our cat. we left our friends and families. i dont know how he feels.

    but in the last few days,i cant stop being upset about my friends. i dont care i dont see my family ( we arent that close) by it sucks not haveing a best friend. its so hard.

    i dont leave the house. i dont want to. i havent beeen out clubbing ( i used to be a HUGE HARDHOUSE CLUBBER!) since i left.im so boring now its hurts. i have no one here. well i have my bf but thats different.

    back home we used to party ( lol and i mean PARTY!!) from fri avo till sun night, and then work other nights to pay for it. now i work the same number of nghts, done go out at all.dont even want to.

    i tried one night. lasted half and hour. came home.

    just want my old life back. my old clubbing friends,i think i miss the scene. but theres a HH scene here too, i just dont go.

    i wont be going home till next year , and i have have heaps of things keeping me busy till then so i wont notice so much.

    but right now. i just want my old life back.


    sorry i just had to share.

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    Oh hun I understand, I'm kinda depressed lately too. Living in a new place, far away from all my friends, don't know anyone here, all I do is work. In PR I didn't really go out that much but I had all my friends around and we did go out whenever we had the chance. Now I go to work and go home, sit here in the house alone ALL the time. I actually like staying home alone alot, but not ALL the time. I've even been neglecting my poor kitty! Bf is still in PR, he's been here once for a visit but can't come very often. Don't think he'll be able to come back for a few more weeks. Bleh!!!! I need to get out and have some fun, but don't know anyone to do it with. So you and I are in a very similar boat! Perhaps we should both try and hook up with a stripper buddy just to go out and get silly with. Heh, too bad you're on the other side of the world or I'd say let's go out babe!

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    I moved cities and hate it. I would hate to move to another country and not like it. Hope things get better.
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    I want your old life too! Who do we see about getting this changed?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Intellex link=board=1;threadid=7819;start=msg89936#msg89936 date=1080678884
    I want your old life too! Who do we see about getting this changed?
    When you find out let me know !!
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    Sweetie, in another thread you mentioned you just had your BA done. It's very, very common for women to become depressed after having cosmetic surgery. No doubt the reasons/feelings behind the depression are very valid; but this might explain why you are dwelling on them. I would look on www.implantinfo.com and see if you can locate a message board to talk with other women who have become depressed after undergoing the procedure - it can help a lot to know you are not alone.

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    You are right, she has just gotten improved

    I can't totally relate to her.. my depression stems from the fact that I'm not happy with my current situation. I want to be permanently not rostered at my club so I can have more freedom.

    Freedom to work as many or as little shifts as I please at that club as well as the freedom to travel to other places to work from a week to 3 weeks. I go back to work tonight (Wednesday)... I'll know whether they will allow me this or would rather me not work there anymore or what..

    Otherwise, I'm personally also frustrated that it isn't tax time HERE yet as I'm looking forward to it because I'm armed with alot of information that will help me minimise my tax and hence I should then have alot of $$ after tax time to invest how I please

    Tax time in Australia is every 30 June.

    I havn't moved country... I just want more freedom than I currently have without sacrificing working at the club I currently work. Whilst I am open to working the only other decent club here (Crazy Horse, Surfers Paradise)... I really would rather just not be rostered anymore at my current club.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz link=board=1;threadid=7819;start=msg89688#msg89688 date=1080608656
    i dont know what to do.

    in october last year i moved countries with my man and our cat. we left our friends and families.
    ...it sucks not haveing a best friend. its so hard.

    i dont leave the house. i dont want to. ...since i left.im so boring now its hurts. i have no one here. well i have my bf but thats different.

    ...done go out at all.dont even want to.

    i tried one night. lasted half and hour. came home. .....
    Change coutries to states, last october to last september, but also add that Iam not working now, so I don't go out EVER and thats where I am...
    It really sucks. I don't know about the surgery depression thing, Ive never had major surgery. My problem is I live in a desolate wasteland. There is nothing here that intrestes me, there are a few bars and a club but they arent my style. There are no strip clubs within an hour away. Because I don't have regular work (I am modeling some) I feel like a burden on my husband. I like to live near a city, someplace I can go and hang out at coffee shops, or see a play, or take belly dancing classes. But theres none of that here....
    I found a site for homemakers to see what they do at home all day. A lot of them have kids. But even the ones who don't seem to find stuff to do. They also told me about a meetup in my area for wives. I signed up and the next one is in about a week and a half.

    I don't really know how to help you, because I am stuck too. My husband asks what he can do to help, I say get it so we can move somewhere that the squirel population dosn't surpass the human population. but I know we cant just yet. But I also know it wont be this way forever. a year and a half, two years tops. Then we can find somewhere good to live....

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    Ami,Iam with you,I have nothing to do all day. I was traveling to work for the last many years,but I dont have a travel partner anymore and dont want to work here locally(too spoiled)Iam sick of sitting around,literally I take my daughter to school at 7;50,do the tradmill,then nothing,Iam sick of it.Now Iam so depressed I dont want to go to the gym even,hell I live in sunny florida and Iam still depressed,staying home isnt as fun as people think it is,hell I am dreading retirement if its like this.

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    Ya know.........I've been doing the same thing here too. Just seems like things are piling up and not getting any better.

    Why not give one of your old friends a call, or meet them in a chat room for a bit and shoot the breeze?
    I've heard that a good signiture sets you apart from everyone.
    Well......is this good enough???

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    thanks guys.


    yeah i been talkinmg heaps to my old mates back home on otherforums....which helps, but hinders too...cos then i think about how much i miss them and get more upset!

    the funny thing is the place i live is .....lol well WAS known as a party town, everyone comes here over summer to party. so theres no shortage of good clus or bars. but its just not that same going out with people you know....lol and like even if you barely see them during the night, lol back in my party days we used to go out in a group of about 20, pop some pills and didnt care if we spent the rest of the night sitting by ourselves in a club!! haha


    its weird. and hard.

    i heardabouit that post op depression thing, it might be that. or the fact that im now sitting around doing nothing.....alli have to do iis think, remember and reminicise.

    lol my frind thinks im too sentimaental and need to get over it and move on. shes right. i think even if i did go back to nz and did the same thing, it wouldnd be the same. other people change too. and welllnothinglasts forever.

    i wanna be 16 again!! haha

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    try to find somewhere that you are comfortable hanging out and not knowing anyone. I always like coffee shops. You can useaully meet all kinds of people there. thats what I did in KC. but where I am now there are no coffee shops. it sucks.

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