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    I have a few different questions, bear with me. I'd love what ever input is offered.

    After years of hemming and hawing i've decided to give dancing a whirl. The only thing i'm seriously worried about is the whole age issue. I'm 32 and the mother of three. I "think" I look good for my age and for popping out a few kids but none the less I have some reservations. In general i'm very at ease with my body and being naked isn't an issue at all.

    From what i've read here and what I know from talking to the few gals I know who dance, a good amount of dancers are parents. Am I to assume that it ISN'T unusual to see stretch marks and the like? How do the ladies here who are mothers handle what if anything you tell your kids about your job?

    Anyhow I have a terrific guy in my life who is super supportive and very ok with me dancing and my friends have all been really great about it too. I'm just looking for input from you gals who are already there and can offer some words of wisdom!

    I hope this wasn't too convoluted/confusing! Thanks in advance.

    Oh and this is me so you have some idea what I look like:




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    Hey Dahling, Welcome to SW!

    I too, have had 3 children, and I got the dreaded stretch marks with my last baby. Luckily, they're down low and are easily concealed. A lot of girls have them, some are more noticeable than others. You can also use makeup to cover them up. Dermablend or Colorstay are great for that. The stage lighting is usually very flattering, and pretty much hides any imperfections also. It's definitely not uncommon to see stretchmarks though, some girls don't really hide them, and a lot of the time, it doesn't hurt their earning potential.

    I think you look wonderful for 32! You'll have no problem getting hired anywhere. Age really isn't an issue at all. I've worked with some ladies who are well into their 40's and still look great. And, I've also worked with ladies around the same age, that don't look as good, unfortunately. It's all a matter of how well you take care of yourself, and things like that. You look great, you have no reason to worry.

    It's a good thing that you have a supportive partner. I've been on both sides, with a husband who hated it, and now my new hubby who loves it. lol. It always helps when they understand and support your decisions.

    So I'd say, definitely get thee to a club, Dahling. You'll do great! Check out a few beforehand just to get a feel for the places, and then you can decide which one would be best for you. You seem very confident, which is a great asset and necessity when you're dancing.

    Keep us updated, we're all here for ya!


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    Holy lord, 3 kids??? You dont look like you have had ANY! You look amazing and will definetely do well in dancing.

    Yes there are tons of girls with stretch marks, but the lights, and maybe some makeup will help a ton!

    Its great that you have a terrific guy, as emotional support is always needed when you dance. Kudos to you and your man!

    Since I dont have any kids, I dont know what you would say to them, but maybe that you are a waitress? (Cocktail waitress) I dont know of many women who tell their kids, but the ones who have, have kids who are about 18, and they are cool with it. I am not sure how it would be to tell a little one, ya know?

    But good luck in whatever you decide!

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    Our kids think my wife is a bartender

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    WOW YOU LOOK GREAT FOR HAVING 3 KIDS! You will be great in dancing especially since you have a great support team on your side!

    Again, YOU LOOK SOOO GOOD FOR YOUR AGE ALSO I WOULDN'T OF THOUGHT YOU WERE THAT AGE! GO IN AND GET YOUR MONEY
    Love Yourself Like Nobody Else Could Then you will have that everlasting love we all search for!

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    Go for it, you look great! You have an amazing body.

    I don't have any kids, and you didn't mention how old your kids are. I think if they're very young, it might be a little hard for them to understand, so it's up to you whether you want to tell them or not.

    One thing to keep in mind is if you tell your kids that you are a dancer, they might tell their classmates, and their classmates might tell their parents. Other people can be very closed-minded sometimes, and I wouldn't want your kids' feelings getting hurt because other parents say to their kid, "I don't want you hanging around with so-and-so, his/her mother is a stripper," and your child could wind up being excluded from birthday parties, sleepovers, etc. just because other parents do not like your job. Just something to keep in mind.

    As for the stretch marks, lots of girls have them. Usually it's so dark in the club that you can't even see them. I can't see them from looking at your picture, so I wouldn't even worry about them.

    Good luck; go make some money!






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    You look awesome. One can tell you really take good care of yourself. I would say just get out there and start looking at the different clubs in your area and talking up different managers to find your niche in the dancing word. You should have zero problems.

    My son is very young, so he doesn't need any explanations. All he knows is that his momma is happy and loves him very much. Danicng has in no way affected me negatively as a mother. If anything I am happier because I have money and more time for my son. Saying you are a bartender and making sure your husband is home with the kids in their secure environment is all that you will need to do.

    In the future you can be honest with them if they have heard rumors or something. You can tell them you had tried it a few times. There is no shame in that and they will understand when they are older. Think back to when you were a kid. Did you really understand or care what your parents were doing between 9 and 5. Probably not, all that mattered was that they loved you.

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    First let me just tell you that look better than some girls my age. (Im 18, I will be 19 this Saturday)
    Second I just started dancing, but let me tell you men aren't coming to the clubs to nitpick about our "tigerstripes." Also the two oldest dancers at my club are both 45, and do damn well.
    As far as children go, the women that I work either tell their kids that they are a bartender, hostess, or waitress.
    MotherDaisy, is right as long as kids are happy and loved they could care less where you are working. I dont ever remember asking where my mom worked, she had time for the family and took care of us and that is all that mattered.
    Again, you look amazing, if you dont get hired...what am I talking about, YOU WILL BE HIRED. You dont need any reassurance, Im sure you will bank. Welcome Aboard!!!

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    My kids are 13, 12 and 9.

    I've currently been working as a figure model (I mainly work with either painters/sculptors or fine art photographers) and do a lot of nude work and they know about that. They also know a few of my friends dance. I've always been very honest with them as they're an intelligent bunch but this time around i'm worried about the ex finding out...

    Oh and thank you so much for the kids words as far as how I look. I think I just got lucky with the ole gene pool.




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    You look awesome! You WILL get hired! I'm still not sure about the whole kids thing- I think if you sit w/ them, really talk to them and say "Now, I'm trusting you with this information cause I love you and feel you need to know this, but I dont feel your father should know cause he's not as accepting as we are.........." Then tell them, maybe that would work- or just tell them you're gonna be waitressing at the club Nina works at since they already know I dance! I hope you find the right way to handle this situation.
    Talk to you later, take care

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    Damn girl! You look better than most of the 20 somethings at my club! Go for it and best of luck!

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    i also have three kids 7, 4, and 14 months. I think that you look great!! go for it!! about the kids i wouldn't tell them the truth. i told my kids that i was a waitress. that way if your ex asks they are not put in a hard place knownly "lying" to him. you can always explain it to them later when the ex is no longer a matter as far as you go!

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    You didn't mention your kids' ages there have been a couple threads on that subject alone I'll see if I can find them and post the links here.

    well here's one but it's not really the one I was looking for :

    There's a couple more that are even more pertinent I'll give it a try again don't know why it's so difficult to find these!


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    Geez! Finally!



    Also there's another thread within this thread related to telling the kids.

    Oh yeah, don't worry about your age you look great you'll do fine.


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    I think you have an amazing body!! I say you should go for it!!

    If you don't want your ex to know, then just tell the kids that you are bartending...that way they don't have to "lie" to your ex (ie. they know you are a dancer but are telling him that you do something else). I don't know if your ex lives in the same state/town, but that could work.

    As for the stretch marks, I got them from having my daughter. Usually the club is pretty dark and they use a lot of blue and red lights which really helps conceal any "flaws". In my experience, the guys don't even notice the stretch marks anyways...If you show total confidence about your body, the way it is, then that is what they guys will want. Good luck!!

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    :o You look FANTASTIC!! You'll definetly do dandy!

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    Go for it ! I started dancing at 34yrs. I have 2 kids. I don't look my age. I love it when customers try to guess my age. they tell me that I'm 19-25 age range. I crack up when I older than them. If they only knew.Customers often think I don't have any kids. I was forunate when I had them no stretch marks on my stomach and it's flat.

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    As for the stretchmarks, it isn't a big deal unless they truley make you uncomfortable... then it has to be addressed in that environment, because projecting confidence is important.

    Some of the girls in my club wear a garter belt and stockings to mask their tummies. Covers enough of the marks to make them unnoticable, and does wonders for their self-image because they can look at themselves all "sex-kittened out" in lace and/or fishnet, and get naked (DC is full-nude) without showing the part they don't like.
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