a tit flop? wtf?
being introduced as a belly dancer is better then being introduced as a prostitute like someone said thier roommate kept calling them......
a tit flop? wtf?
being introduced as a belly dancer is better then being introduced as a prostitute like someone said thier roommate kept calling them......
I agree with this. Could it be that being a stripper is a glamorous job that is considered worthy of note? Most people in sales get their speciality out right away, as you never know when you will meet a potential client.Originally Posted by Pixie link=board=27;threadid=8048;start=msg93947#msg9394 7 date=1081440010
I also have a feeling that if you were an actor, model or an owner of some kind of trendy business etc. that your friends would also state this to complete strangers upon introduction. Just be glad you don't work at a sperm bank.
I know it is tough to have to deal with potenial societial problems by having your friends introduce you as their stripper friend, but ultimately it is probably a compliment to you, as she is trying to look cool enough to hang with strippers!
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!



What really got me annoyed enough to bring this topic up was that my close friend just HAD to mention it in front of a guy who had potential. I am freakin lonely enough as it is. I didn't need any help!!
You guys are definetely right, it is the cool/ exciting factor that makes people want to mention it to other people. When I first got interested in stripping I probably brought up strippers all the time just to hear the discussion, but I didn't know any girls who dancered.
LOL! speaking of everyone writing a paper Abadza..... I just finished one on strippers names. I got an A and my teacher got a real kick out of it!!
Those who bring sunshine into lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.




Sure, they can call me Nikki the stripper if they want, but my friends are Ben the unemployed, Nicole the welfare queen and Jessie the gold digger, among many others, right?
Its all relative...
Ironically, I encountered this phenomenon before I even started dancing.
I lived in the dorm my freshman year of college and someone, for some unknown reason, started a rumor that I was a stripper or did porno movies, LOL. It spread all around the dorm and I was "that girl that someone told me was a stripper." My roommates would have people ask them all the time if it was true.
I never understood it-- it's not as if Michigan is a hotbed for the adult industry, LOL. I think it's because I had platinum blond hair and wore makeup, dressed provocatively, etc. But I was never a party girl, no time for that between school and work. I would go to work, come home, and babysit my drunk friends as they came home and headed to the bathroom to puke. And go figure-- I was the one who had the slutty stripper reputation.
Now that I do dance my friends all seem to get a kick of telling everyone. I agree with everyone else-- it's the novelty. Most "normal" girls haven't been around dancers so it's a foreign world to them and guy friends, well, we all know how men feel about women who take their clothes off.I don't think they mean to be offensive though, most of my friends think it is cool, or at least enterprising.
For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been and there you will long to return.
oh nikki, you forgot jason the parent moocher.......![]()



I know it is tough to have to deal with potenial societial problems by having your friends introduce you as their stripper friend, but ultimately it is probably a compliment to you, as she is trying to look cool enough to hang with strippers!
I agree with ParisLove
They say there's a Heaven for those who await.
Some say it's better but I say it ain't.
I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints...
the sinners have much more fun.




HAHAHAHA!! Thats so funny! I didnt forget Jason the parent moocher, I just didnt add him because, seriously, thats my 25 year old living at home brother!! HAHAHAHA!!Originally Posted by ami link=board=27;threadid=8048;start=msg94322#msg9432 2 date=1081526615
sometimes its not cool they are going for. sometimes they are trying to make fun of you, trying to embaress you into quiting. I got a lot of that when I first started dancing......Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=27;threadid=8048;start=msg94222#msg9422 2 date=1081484938



Ami I never thought of that but I think that is the case with a few friends I have. I don't even talk about it with my sister but she always brings it up just to put me down.
Those who bring sunshine into lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.
motherdaisy, dont think of this industry as a put down.
sure it has some weird conotations and sterotypes, but once you get past all that its ok. lol
i love how lots of chicks go out just to pick up guys/cocktease whatever in normal clubs, dressed like hoes, lol and then have the odassity to call us names cos we are strippers.
ha whos the smarter one? the one who gets paid to flirt, or the one who does it for free!!!????
im , well not PROUD to be a stripper, but i dont really care either. i tell anyone who wants to know, because it doesnt worry me, if they then take that piece of information and use it against me, thats there problem their minds to narrow to understand what a dancer really is. i dont wanna know those kinds of people anyways.
my bfs parents are hard out christian.....and i didnt knwo how theyd take it when i forst met them, but they are fine, they didnt understand at first, once i explained it...they were cool with it.
i mean, its just a job right???
I had a few "friends" who kept saying 'stripper' with a scowl and a bad tone in thier voice, most of them were male. where I live now I am kinda scared to tell anyone, everyone seems so uptight. thats another thing I hate about living here, cant wait to move...
thats good that your bf's parents were cool, it sucks hiding something from someone like that....





how's it going MotherDaisy? did your friends get it yet? Prepare yourself for phase II...when all your friends assume you're rich and they expect extravagent gifts, you to pick up the tab, borrow money...*sigh*
Lately when people ask me what I do my answer is either 1) go to school or 2) not a whole lot!
I realized, years ago, that maintaining friendships with people outside of the club is downright difficult. My social life is like to quote above from Glamazon.Originally Posted by Glamazon link=board=27;threadid=8048;start=msg93507#msg9350 7 date=1081366433
Money is congealed energy, and releasing it releases life's possibilities. ~Joseph Campbell



Anne and Glamazon are lucky girls. I would love to find great women and men in the clubs to get close to. Unfortunately I don't spend a lot of time socializing with the girls and I'm not 21 so I don't go to other clubs much.
Since I have a baby people don't expect to much from me money wise. I did have a friend in need borrow $50 to travel home for the weekend. She is pregnant and needed to go to her parents so I felt bad. She still hasn't paid me back!!! I'm starting to get pissed.
I am pretty bitchy about money. I am very giving to a point. (generous tipping, small gifts for no reason) But I don't waste money. I love seeing my bank account grow and I think my friends need to work for their own food/ clothes.
Sapphire - nope, no change recently in other peoples reactions to my dancing. Its not neccarily bad, its just annoying.
I have been spending a lot less time with my friends lately. I think I am in a rut anyway. So every little thing annoys me!
Those who bring sunshine into lives of others, cannot keep it from themselves.





I like the way Ayn Rand dealt with those types in Atlas Shrugged...
I love my friends but I believe its Not their place to let other people in on my personal life.. people that i know out side of the club wouldnt believe them even if i told them.. guess im not the "dancer type" But I do have 1 friend that told EVERYBODY I knew in highschool... some friend huh? Most of them wont talk to me now.. Or they re like IM SO DISSAPOINTED in you I always wanted to follow in your footsteps I looked up to you bblah blah.. IMO Its my life.. Im not going to live it on what OTHER people think of me.. Im not living for you.. Im living for me.. you should do the same.
Ever since i started dancing all of my friends were sooo excited bc i was "nikki the stripper". my roomates brag!! it gets on my nerves but it has gotten overwhelming. i was recently on howard stern as "nikki the stripper" and since then ive gotten stopped in starbucks, walgreens, mac - every time "omg arent you nikki the stripper from howard stern?!?!?!" the past couple weeks have been so discouraging bc i am sooo tired of being known as "the stripper" and i never knew you girls dealt with this too!!! its sooo frustrating!!!!![]()
It happens with people in interesting occupations all the time. Such as ''Meet my friend *insert name here* who's (studying to be) a doctor/lawyer etc'' People are interested in others who have (the potential to make) great money or are in the glamorous industries. After all, that's what we see in the media too.
Luckily for me, a strict few know so I don't have to endure it. But if you don't like it, say so!!!
You are the envy
of all parallel lines that
dream of curves and convergence
- Sara Bailey: Sieve of Words
You're absolutely right. It's best to not reveal to people that you are a dancer. It's not that you are embarrassed about what you do, but because society will judge you. As for dating, men will automatically assume that you are easy or you sleep with customers for money because you strip. Women will either be jealous of you or think less of you as well. You have no credibility to people. It doesn't matter if you're extremely intelligent, well educated. They somehow think less of you. It ruins the whole dating dynamic once they find out you are a stripper. Tell your best friend not to introduce you as "the stripper" to people you barely know. It's none of anyone's business except yours. If she's your best friend, she would respect that.
Few years ago I was getting my degree and working part time as a dancer. I spent 90% of my time as a student and 10% as a dancer. Nevertheless, once people found out how I earned money, they saw me as a stripper, not as a student. It didn't matter that I was spending more time studying in the classroom. Somehow being a stripper became the entity by which society defined me. It nearly ruined my dating life. I never thought I would meet a guy that would appreciate me for who I am and not what I did to get ahead. When I started dating my husband, I did not reveal to him that I had worked as a dancer, fearing the stigma. I finally told him (later on), and he accepted me anyway. My best advice is no body has to know what you do unless you choose for them to know. If they can accept and love you for who you are, then they deserve to be in your life. If they can't handle it, then ta-ta.



Mabey your friends are just really admiring you. I know before I danced I was super excited to meet dancers or hear of so-and-so's dating a dancer. I thought they were just the coolest thing on the planet and really admired them. I am sure it can get annoying though. I am not trying to denounce your feelings. I really do not tell alot of my friends I dance so I really do not go through this. The friends that do know just ask me alot of questions because they are curious. Remeber to those who are not in the buisness being a stripper is like being a fashion model or something. I am sure if you knew a girl that was in Victoria's Secret catolog you would be excited to tell other people that you are good friends. It is just a job that many people wonder about or fantsize about and they may want to live it through you. Yeah but I do think that if it bothers you just tell your friend that you would like to be the one that tells others about your job.
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