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    OK, quick question for y'all.
    Quite some time ago, there was a girl in my club that I was friends with at first, but she turned out to be the kind of person one generally tries to avoid.
    She no longer works with me, and I hardly ever think about her (hooray!!) but recently a mutual friend told me that this girl was dancing under my name in a different club.
    Now, I am very protective of my name, because I chose it very carefully and as an homage to a girl I knew that I respected very much.
    I am not sure whether or not I should be bothered by this girl using it as her own a) because she wasn't a very good person to me, and to others and b) because I am unsure of why she chose to use it at all.
    What do you think of this and how would you feel?
    Most girls I've asked felt that it was weird and creepy, but then, they didn't like her much either. So I figured I'd ask my unbiased friends here on the board.
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    Im not sure what everyone else thinks, but if it was a personal name you chose then I would be very annoyed.
    I hate chicks that do things like that....they talk crap, and then they use your name and what not.
    Sorry to hear but I dont think telling her or confronting her will do anything. It will just add fuel to the fire and she will like that she pissed you off.
    If ya DO happen to run into her, be nice and confident, and just say, "heh, I heard your using my name. lol" and give her a sly look... and then just walk away. (Dont start problems just make it known you know) and act like you dont care.

    This may be bad advice but its what I would do.

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    I agree, thank you for the advice!
    I don't want to start anything with her (got over the "I'm gonna kick her ass" stage about 5 years ago), so I think your idea was good!
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    Yeah I hear ya on the "no fighting" thing. Good that you wont do that, as I wouldnt either. (Though I bet the thoughts are different right lol)

    But yeah just pretend like it doesnt bother ya.
    Good luck hun!

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    Lexi, I have to say, I really love the little sword fighting smilies. lol!

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    LOL slashing, me too.

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    Its just a name! Ya know, she liked it, now she uses it... its kinda flattering...

    And ya know... its not like you work at the same place

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    Well it kind of depends on the name. If its a name like Jenny then I would say get over it, but if someone was using a very unique name I would be pissed.

    If I found out someone was using my name i would confront them right away and tell them they are doing themselves a disservice, even though it would be the other way around!

    You should probably take this as a compliment, but I think you should show up at her club and make it known that her using your name is PATHEDIC.

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    I wouldn't like that at all, because we all know that dancers can be gossipy- what if she does something that you wouldn't do and you get stuck with her rep?

    We're lucky up here, the agents make sure that new girls don't choose a name that a working dancer already has...I dunno though, I guess you can't really ask her to change it because it IS just a name...

    If you know her, maybe you can really non-confronationally ask her if she could change it...explain why &etc...if it's superunique, like a first and a last name, then I would really hope shewould. But yeah, if it's just one name (like Jenny, or Scarlett ;P), then I guess shehas the right...even though it's not cool.

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    For me personally, my name is pretty common, but nevertheless, I am protective of it also, I dont even like it when girls have names rhyming with mine, lol.
    I also love the fighting smilies!! Too damn cute!


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    As much as it sucks, there is nothing you can do about it. The nice thing, though, is that she's at another club, so even if she does do something "bad", it'll be Suzy Q at XYZ club...and you work at ABC club. I'm not protective of my stage name at all...It's just a name and a million girls have used it before me and a million girls will use it after.

    If you have to say anything at all... I would suggest something along the lines of, "All this time, I thought you were just bitchy, and really it was all because you were jealous of my stage name!"

    The best thing to do, of course, would to be not saying or doing anything. If you don't put wood on the fire, it has nothing to burn.

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    I had that happen. I used a very unique name for years. A girl I woked with for a short time at my new club went to my old club and started using my name!!! GRRR! I went back and danced the same night with this girl. I used a different name. Although, everytime I went on stage the dj would say,"The true (name here). The other girl was a bit turned off by that. I've known the dj for years and everybody who works there. They tried to tell her not to use that name when she first started there. I heard through the grapevine that she no longer goes by that name. =) But, I don't either. So I could care a less if someone went by the name now.
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    Who cares? It's just a name. Even if it's something totally unique that you made up from scratch, it's really not that big a deal. I'm sure the first person who chose to name her child Jennifer was a little annoyed that someone else used it later. It doesn't matter in the end and really has nothing to do with you at all. We copy each other's moves, lines, outfit ideas, whatever. Names are no different. Also she is working in another club.

    Are you annoyed because you still have some sort of unresolved feeling about her?

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    Ditto B....

    Besides she is at working at another club now so she shouldn't even be a concern anymore.

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    I think that it would not be so bad if she hadn't been so horrible and made sure that I knew that she "hated" me. I chose my name because of the immense respect I had for the girl who used it before me, and thus I am pretty attached to it.
    Also, I think that the observation of unresolved feeling towards her was pretty astute.
    However, if I were to say anything to her, which is highly unlikely because I would rather ignore her, I would try not to be bitchy.
    My Mom always told me that you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar (and I've found 'they have a harder time getting out of honey' to be true also!! .
    But thanks for your advice!!
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    So it's a name you copied from another girl. I understand your point though - she treated you like crap and now uses your name, kinda in a spiteful move. It's childish BS if you ask me. Just chuck if off in the bad relationship file and wash your hands of it. You don't need to stress over something like this. Life is too short.

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    I can see where it offended you because she was suppose to have been a friend and then things go bad and she hijacks the name you use, but hey she is gone now and you know the name belonged to you in the first place, so just forget her and the whole deal!

    Just smile inside knowing that she obviously admired the taste you have!:laugh:


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