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    Hi ladies, let me introduce myself, Im Sandra and just started working not too long ago, when I first started i was doing very good but last night I got cought in depression in my club and I couldnt stop crying, I couldnt even make 1 dance til 1.30 am but after that I came home with descent money, my question is how do you deal when every guy u ask for a dance says no to you, it made me feel so upset, please advise. I am 5'4 118 pnds, tanned skin, people think IM asian but Im Hispanic, I get complemented a lot as being exotic looking -- Ill place my pic later -- Thanks...Sandra...

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    Default Re:how do u deal with getting depressed....

    It just goes with the territory. I get turned down a lot. I also sell tons of dances and always get someone up into VIP at least once per shift.

    You really have to learn how to remind yourself that the guy is not turning YOU down, per se, but turning down your offer of a dance. And, just because you get 50 turn downs before midnight, doesn't mean that every guy will continue turning you down (as you found out).

    Turn downs happen for several reasons:
    1. They are waiting for their regular dancer
    2. They just arrived and want to check out the dancers before getting any dances.
    3. They are just there to stage tip and have no intention of buying dances from anyone.

    Don't let the turn downs get you upset. It's hard at first...you become used to it...and you will eventually learn how to start turning those turn downs into dances. But, first, let go of the guys that say no...by getting depressed, you are putting that vibe out there and the others are probably picking up on that.

    Good luck!!

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    Hey girlie, we all get upset especially on a dead shift thats wasting your time but you gotta just go with the flow and consider it as just one day. its not the way you look, its your attitude that will stand you out or knock you down, be a chipper stripper at all times!
    Few people understand the psychology of dealing with a highway traffic cop. Your normal speeder will panic and immediately pull over to the side. This is wrong. It arouses contempt in the cop-heart. Make the bastard chase you. He will follow. Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

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    ok....here is what i do...when i first walk onto the floor i put on the biggest, fakest smile i can and with that the fakest perkiest cheerleader like attitude i can possibly muster up and guys LOVE THAT !!!! the funny thing that if i come to work in an "i hate being here" mood the fake happy attitude sort of starts to rub off on me (i rub off on myself ha ha ha) but anyways even if the happy act doesnt indirectly cheer you up then the fact that you will start to make $$$$ definitely will.

    hope i was helpful!

    xoxo, Heather


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    Vegas Vixen, you are absolutely right about the cheerleader act, ive used the fakey upbeat girly girl thing andf it works like a charm and totally makes guys laugh and smile and wanna talk to you, not all of them but alot more than if you were showing your bad mood. lol your great vegas, i luv ya!
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    Don't let that get to you! If a guy doesn't want a lapdance is doesn't mean it's because he thinks there's something wrong with how you look. You sound pretty and he probably doesn't want to spend alot of money or just wanted to come in and watch. Don't worry about the money because it will start rolling in. Look around at other clubs if your not getting paid a lot on some nights too. If I get rejected for a lapdance then I just move on to the next person.

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    i'm a chicken - when this started happening I switched clubs and got over it. It wasn't so much the asking for dances and being rejected, just teh whole atmosphere, everything started to add up.

    The fakey nice thing - I totally agree with vegas - guys can't resist and in the past when i've done this, practically begged me for dances the second time around. Even outside of the club if I turn this "fakeness on" it's so easy to get carried away and have guys wrapper around your finger. Also, I've found that it rubs off on myself as well heh heh.


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    Its all part of the job is what I've discovered. And everyone is beautiful, especially if they are a dancer and can make decent money. I'm sure it was just a night that different things were factoring different ways. i wouldn't worry too much about it. Exotic is cool and if you look exotic then you're a lucky girl.... i'm just a plain ole gal who looks like everyone else... I hope you're feeling better now!

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    Get totally DRUNK!!

    Just kidding. I just have the DJ play songs that are guarenteed for a good mood. Something silly like Bloodhound Gang or upbeat happy standards like Michael Jackson or something. It's hard to be in a depressed mood when listening to the song that gets you goin'!


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