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    In the past week there has been issue with using the word "us". I come here to relate to other dancers, mothers, women and even the guy's and interact because of the stigma that has been placed on me for what I do.

    This board is a community right?. I feel we are here to learn from each other. Customer's learn from us and we learn from customers, dancers from dancers ect...We share hair and makeup tips and intimate parts of our lives. I know "we" as dancers and women experience put downs with doing this job.

    When I see the word "fellow","everyone" or "us" or "we" used in a sentence I understand it to be those who as a majority frequent the boards or participate in the community and dancer world.

    I am confused at why someone would be totally offended by the use of these words.. if this board is a "community" of people working in, or interested in the business.

    Can anyone relate to what I am saying?

    Why do you come to stripperweb?


    "Some of the most wonderful people are the ones who don't fit into boxes." ....Tori Amos

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    I come to S.W. to relax, share war/horror/funny stories with my comrades in arms. I come here to learn, teach and laugh or cry. I come here because I am accepted with no stigmas attached to me because of my job or my wifes job.
    Mostly I come here because I see this as a huge family unit and I can relate in one way or another with each and every person in this community, even if I disagree with them and their views.

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    I come here to have fun and share with the people who choose not to be combative. I have been given some wonderful advice. Thanks to all of you who have been real. Now I have to try on my shoes to see if they fit. :
    Tranquil Waters

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    I can see how it could be a problem if we're all one big family. If that's the case after all, it means I totally want to have sex with a bunch of my sisters.
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    omg, why is it so huge?!! lol lol

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    I come here for the free buffet.

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    I come here because I like the people here. In real life, I am exposed to much scruitiny, because of what I do and what I believe. Here, I feel as if I can express whatever I feel and I am accepted. I have alot in common with some of the people here, and it feels good to realize that there are people who share my ideas and beliefs. We seem to be few and far between!

    I have also gotten some good advice here and learned alot. There are alot of informed dancers and customers here that are willing to share their experiences and information, and I appreciate that! I also like to help people through sharing my own experiences. I received so much support here when my ex and I split.

    I enjoy the joking and laughs, and the sharing of experiences and funny stories. And I can get out my frustrations on the stupid trolls! I enjoy observing and interacting with the different personalities we come across here.

    After you've chatted with someone enough times or read enough posts, you kind of get a feel for their online personality, and in my case, I feel like I know them in some way. I also say "us" and "we" to refer to the community that we are.... People that haven't been here just don't have the feel for that yet, and I suppose, don't understand it.

    Tranquil Waters- the shoe seems to be fitting you quite nicely.

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    I come here because it is better than most yahoo message boards.
    "I don't know about you, but I'm going to get my kicks before the whole shithouse goes up in flames" Jim Morrison

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    I haven't DJed in many years, so when i decided to get back into it I came here to refresh myself on the culture, learn what music is hot in SCs, etc.


    But i kept coming back because everyone is amazingly friendly, intelligent and witty. I'm on Stripperweb and having very interersting political and psycho-sexual discussions with people, very cool and very non-stereotype.

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    I originally came here to get information on becoming a stripper--how to lose weight, get in shape, how to hustle, what music to use, etc. Now, I've realized that it's more than a community of "strippers." It's a bunch of people with common interests coming together to talk about anything and everything, not just the world of the strip club. I thank everyone for the amount of information I've gained from this site. I've learned about nutrition, exercise, finances, politics, and most of all, people. I've met so many wonderful people through this site. It doesn't matter if they dance and I don't. We still have similar interests and get along splendidly. I may not be a dancer, and I probably never will be, but I like to go to strip clubs as a customer and I am a HUGE advocate of women's rights ESPECIALLY when it comes to the often condemned "sex industry." I like to think that I make reasonable contributions to the site. I have fun here. I try to keep my opinions out of places it doesn't belong and if I ever anger or annoy people, then I am sorry for that. But I thank you guys for allowing me to be a part of such a loving and informative community. I love SW!!!
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    I come here to wind down after my hectic days. I used to chat on AOL for relaxation, but when I found SW, I was ruined for all other sites. LOL. I thought it was so cool that there was actually a whole site dedicated to us. I definitely could have used this 11 years ago when I started dancing. LOL

    Now I'm hoping that while hanging out on here, that I may be of assistance to those starting out or needing advice. I'm still deciding on whether or not to go back to dancing (since I had my baby girl), or to just concentrate on my business. But whatever I decide, I'll still be hanging out here. This site is full of awesome people and I'm happy to be among them.

    I totally agree with Holiday. I come here for dancing discussions, but that's not all of it. We're all something other than dancers, be it wives, mothers, significant others. We all face challenges related to our profession, and unrelated. I think it's awesome that we have a place that we can run to where we can vent, laugh, scream, or even cry.


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    When i started thinking about dancing again, there isn't anyone in my family i could talk to about this let alone that would approve. so i was very happy to have found this site. it's been very helpful in helping me make my decision to dance again, it's been informative, i'm slowly getting to know peoples personalities, ect. basically i come here for the comradery. and to share with people what i'm passionate about and not have to worry about being shamed or feel the need to explain myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HolidayOnStage link=board=1;threadid=8259;start=msg96809#msg96809 date=1081948688

    Why do you come to stripperweb?
    To start fights, and just generally be a thorn in the side of many.

    I believe its in an effort to combat the hatred i have of myself.

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    Reading all yof our posts makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside !
    SW and the community are great. I love to interact with caring people from so many different walks of life. The wealth of information is wonderful too. Its great to have a place to let your "hair down" and just be yourself..
    My new love...is me !

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    I danced for 7 years and even waitressed at a strip club while pregnant 2 times. I am now "retired". I however feel that after my experiences, I can help others out. I love the feel of this site. the people here are amazing. I have received alot of advice here also.
    I hope that people have felt that I have helped them out sometimes.

    I also like that I can be myself here. while dancing my family did not approve at all. Nobody here judges me for what I have done, do, or going to do. Sometimes I just need a break from life and I can do that here.

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    You guys have pretty much covered my reasons...

    I come here because I love you gals and guys!
    Like the car, I'm exotic, erotic, and expensive....

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    In some strange way I consider it my duty to try and pass on some of the things I have learned while dancing over the past decade to new girls. Hopefully they can avoid some of my mistakes, as well as avoid some of the mistakes I've seen other girls make, and maximize their own benefits from dancing.

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    Mel, I consider you to be a guru of sorts and I'm sooooo happy you're here with us.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sapphire link=board=1;threadid=8259;start=msg97004#msg97004 date=1081976882
    Mel, I consider you to be a guru of sorts and I'm sooooo happy you're here with us.
    I second that !
    My new love...is me !

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    I initially came here and SCJ out of frustration with a former favorite. Talking to people who do not either do this for a living or frequent clubs is like speaking some dead language. To understand my own frustrations, at least to some extent, came with sharing with people with the same type of experiences and mindset. I'm not cured, but I find a lot of comfort in speaking about the issues here.

    But then it became, with posting and chat, a group of people I enjoy and know what to expect. And it actually does feel like a loss, when someone you have connected with, stops posting or chatting.

    There aren't too many limits as to what you can say as long as you can keep your cool. That makes for a real give-and-take environment which is quite satisfying.

    In addition, I have been able to meet some of you. And enjoying that leads me to want to do it again as well as meet more from the community.

    >>>Sad<<<


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    I come here for several reasons. I am a very private person, I have very few friends whom I can trust in or confide in. However, here, it is different. Its refreshing to be able to share with those who understand the business, understand the judgment that is cast and understand that I am more than just some girl in a SC.. I am a mom, and a friend, a wife, and a person with feelings. I have not met any of you, but a few of you have been better "friends" than some people I have known for years. Everyone from Farrah and all her great advices (Tonalin rocks baby!), and Lexi who always makes me laugh, to Rhiannon, my redheaded partner in 80&#039;s rock, to Ferrari and Blade who has WAAAAY too much time on his hands, and many others, including Chili, who always amazes me on his bluntness and the list would be so long if I named everyone who has brought a smile to my face or shared something with me that I have used. I love how some of the "veterans" (and I use that word as a big compliment) have passed on such great advice.. I have seen so much on this board that it is great to know that on those days when I feel like I am being too hard on myself, I see someone else who makes a post and about 15 others follow all on the same lines that I was just thinking to myself about...

    I guess what I am trying to say is that no matter what time of day it is, I can come here, log in, go into chat and know that I am accepted here.. even if some of my friends, family and peers don&#039;t accept me because of what I choose to do.


    Although my hubby is also a member, he rarely gets on this site. He has mentioned several times how great it is that so many dancers have come together all around the world to share experiences, tips etc.

    I find it very sad to know that someone finds offense to anyone on this board using the term "us". If it wasn&#039;t for "us" this board wouldn&#039;t be here... (what a frightening thought!)

    But, with all the mushiness aside, I do hear that the buffet is good....


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    Quote Originally Posted by cardinal link=board=1;threadid=8259;start=msg96892#msg96892 date=1081962293
    I come here because it is better than most yahoo message boards.
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    I come here because there is a very eclectic collection of people here. If all that was spoken of was broken hearts over ATFs and scamming tips, I would have bailed ages ago.

    Working in the computer industry, I tend to be surrounded by people passionate about computing and such - but there is more to life!

    I use to work in theatre as a lighting designer/board operator and in that capacity I met many out going and exciting people. People who were not concerned about conforming and asking questions, people who had a penchant to act out a little bit - a spark of life.

    I find that here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol link=board=1;threadid=8259;start=msg97063#msg97063 date=1081986535

    I use to work in theatre as a lighting designer/board operator and in that capacity I met many out going and exciting people. People who were not concerned about conforming and asking questions, people who had a penchant to act out a little bit - a spark of life.

    I find that here.
    Very good description, and I agree. It&#039;s beautiful.

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    I come here to learn as much as I can about dancing before I get started so that I know what to expect, and how to make money. And to get answers to all my questions. So far I&#039;ve found everyone here to be very friendly and helpful, which is why I keep coming back.

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    I found this forum about 6 weeks ago and am SO GLAD I have! There is no way I would&#039;ve been prepared for my audition if I didn&#039;t find this place! Everyone is so helpful, encouraging, informative, and supportive. This is one of the few boards where I feel free to ask any question w/out fear of being called the "TMI Queen" as I have on past message boards. So thanks everyone- you rock!!!!!!!!

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