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    I am dating this guy that I have been seeing off and on for a while. Well I told him that I want to dance and try out in July and he is soo suppotive of me doing it.

    My question is does this seem like stranger behavior? He is a body builder and he is kind of my personal trainer. So he knows waht I am traning for and is forever telling me how I will make so much money from dancing and go far with it.

    I guess to me I am getting really close to him and do you think I am just nit picking at him? I really do love him and I am happy to have his support but has anyone have or dealt with that?

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    Default Re:My Guy is too okay!

    I think you're kind of nit picking, if he's supportive...I say go with it. Many husbands/boyfriends aren't.

    Good luck you two!


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    I hope that subconsciously you dont "wanna" fight with him over dancing. This is something too common. BE happy that he supports you, I know a lot of girls who have to hide it from their bf's or broke up with them because of it.

    My ex wasnt supportive in the beginning, but after a while he was...its all about trust.

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    Thanks ladies, I know its weird cause I thought for sure he would not be soo cool with it. But since we been together for awhile he supports me.

    I just feel like this isn't normal but then again what is normal! Thanks guys you made me see what a great guy I have and how lucky I am to have him support me thanks!
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    my husband supports me dancing I thought it was odd at first too I thought why would he want me to show my body to other men but then i thought it was cool that he would be so cool about it i love him.

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    Definitely, girl! You are lucky. A friend of mine had a boyfriend who always said mine was a "sucker" cause he "LET" his girlfriend dance. What he didnt know what we had a great relationship with a lot of trust. Meanwhile, his relationship with his girl was crumbling and was very bad.

    So be happy that hes supportive, it doesnt mean he is a sucker, or bad... there are different kinds of guys out there, and you are lucky to have one who trusts you and supports you.

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    I totally agree Lexi.

    I guess I am just so use of being in a bad realtionship were I had to fight over just about everything and here comes this great guy my boyfriend who supports me and is even training me and watches my diet for me.

    He doesn't judge me and yet he still loves me the excate same. I just am not use of being with a such a great guy. Thanks hun.
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    My boyfriend is very supportive and encouraging. I think it shows he trusts you, that's a good thing.



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    someone told my boyfriend the other day "if you really loved her you wouldn't let her 'do that' with other guys" he was pretty angry about it. Some BFs don't need to be convinced or anything, they're programmed well all righty. It's excellent.
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    My husband is totally supportive and gets excited about it really! Don't worry about it- your boyfriend truly trusts you, you're very lucky! Take care

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    don't forget that there's a chance that he might start having a problem with it once the novelty has worn off. it might not happen, of course, but it's possible.

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    My boyf supports me which is great (maybe because I was worried it wouldn't be). He just wants to make sure I'm safe, etc. But that's normal.

    Trust is great. And the good thing is that I have also gained respect and some admiration(!) for it too! Only thing is, he doesn't find me so innocent anymore (like I was in the first place! us
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    I say just take the blessing and go with it. There are a lot of guys who would love to date a stripper, but just don't want her dancing while he's dating her (isn't that a joke?).

    My SO is very supportive of me dancing. He has never been in to see me dance, but only because he stays with our daughter while I am at work. It's nice to have someone in your corner that you can call at midnight when it's been slow and get a little pep talk...and then go out and rack in the dough.

    I say don't nit-pick over the meaningless stuff. The behavior is NOT "normal", but hell, it's definitely better than having a guy tell you that you cannot dance while you're with him (as you will obviously miss him when he leaves...haahaa).

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    one thing i will say thow is my husband supports me but alot of my friends think that its wrong that my hubby supports and try to make me feel bad about but i don't let it get to me

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    See, A LOT OF OUR COUPLE FRIENDS ARE BLOWN AWAY that my boyfriend is soo supportive of me doing and and is even train my body for it and he lets me do the fun stuff to him like the lapdances etc...

    We even go to strip clubs together which I love cause I would need his support so much. But he trusts me and I do him. Its just the friends that poke there nose in our business. He says look at the realtionship they all cheat and are unhappy. At least we are happy and love one another.
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    Hi honeygymgirl

    You pose an interesting question.

    First of all, I’m happy for you that you have the support of someone who is close to you. That is SOOOOOOOOOO important when you enter the world of dancing.

    The dancers I’ve met are continuously reminding themselves they have to be Strong Mentally. They hear “No” a thousand times a night. The phrase I hear a lot in the locker room is, “Make sure YOU use the business----- Don’t let the business USE you.”

    Most dancers I know have shed a few tears at some point during their careers either on the floor, in the locker room, driving home……. Or all of the above.



    The way you worded your post really caught my eye.

    You asked if it was strange behavior that your guy was soooo supportive. Almost as if you didn’t want that kind of a response. I couldn’t help but wonder if you wanted (Maybe on a subliminal level) him NOT to be OK with you dancing.

    In other words, maybe you’re not sure if you’re ready to dance, and you needed or wanted someone to say, “No…..” So you could have an “Out” of sorts.

    I’m no expert in the affairs of relationships, so please take what I write with a grain of salt. Or better yet, tell me to jump in a lake.


    Again, as all of the ladies have posted, having someone in your corner to support your decision is HUGE… and consider yourself fortunate .

    I mean you no harm, and I do wish you all the best in life. I’m sure whatever course you take in life will lead to a very bright future.

    Have a great day,

    Gene

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    To be involved with a guy who is freaked out over the business is a problem. The person you are involved with is supposed to be comfortable with being involved with a dancer or else there is no need to be involved with him.

    My guy is totally supportive and very understanding of dancing. He scopes out clubs for me and here and there anonymously goes in when I am working at certain clubs and analyzes the floor and gives me feedback.

    I would be more focused on your relationship than what so called "acquaintances" think of the situation.

    Could it be that you feel he might be supportive of the business because he has plans for your money more than plans of being with you out of love? Don't take this the wrong way but you mentioned past guys have been problematic.

    Some people especially those that are kind of rough around the edges think of a guy like my fiancee or one who is supportive as a pimp type. They come from a rough background and don't understand having a good guy. My fiancee comes from an educated black family and has been to college and has several business interests that provide him income so he doesn't work an 8-5 job anymore and we jointly made a decision he would go with me until I quit dancing in a year or so. But because his schedule is flexible some think he is using me and in reality he has done more for me than my dancing could ever cover.

    Some people always think the worst. They don't know you.

    Just be positive and appreciate what you have. If you haven't been given any reason to worry, don't.

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    Good Morning,

    First thing First thank you all soo very much for all the support.

    Now to answer a few questions on here: I am not looking for an "out" I have always wanted to dance ever since i was 16 but due to me being overweight it was hard to really grasp that dream. I recently started losing weight I was 196 now 150ish or so I don't go on the scale anymore.

    So durning this time I met my boyfriend who is also into the fitness world as well. He has always supported me to do whatever I wanted to do. However we only been dating a few months and recently gotten serious. Since we been so fickle in the past I just recently told him about me wanting to be a dancer. He is very supportive and takes me to the strip clubs, he trains me, etc....

    What I was asking is that I didn't expect this kind of response forsay. I hear about all the dancer boyfriends or husbands who hate that fact that they are dancers? He is just so looking forward to me dancing. I think cause I told I have always wanted to do it and its a personal goal of mine.

    Like I mention I am not use to having a guy or anyone really believe in me other than myself. So its just hard for me to accept. I thought this was strange and wanted to know was this strange behavior is all? Our friends on the otherhand have there own opion about what I want to do and how he might just be excited about having me be a dancer so he can have bragging rights I guess.

    Our relationship is very happy, and we do love one another. He does body competitons and I support that as well. So I guess cause I don't really have to many friends who are into this as I want to be I just wanted to know was this odd? I love the fact that he does support me the way he does and I love having someone other than myself believe in my dream.

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