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    Default Balancing two jobs.........

    Right now I work 9-5 Mon-Fri at a secretary job, makin $10 an hour I just started dancing (Read in the Newbie Board under I DID IT!!!!! to hear full story) and I'm not sure how the money is gunna be yet, but I can tell if I do too many double shifts I'm gunna kill myself. At the same time, I find myself sitting at home bored and alone at night cuz I have no friends, so I'm definetly occupying my time now. I also don't know how my schedule is gunna be, haven't talked to the club yet to see how many nights they want me to work. BUT how do some of you do it?? Is it pretty hard? I'm a night owl, but I usually wake up at like 6:30 in the morning for my 9-5 job, so getting outta the club at 1-1:30 then driving home a half and hour I'm not gunna get much sleep. This is gunna suck. I must be nuts!
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    I was doing 9-5 and dancing on weekends for about a year. I was never home (and when I was, I was sleeping) and had no social life, but I made it work.

    I've since quit to dance full-time

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    Damn I just wrote a great response and I wasn't logged in so I lost it. I hate that!!!

    I am having the same delima's here!! I am so glad you started this thread.

    I would talk to the manager and work out something like you leaving at 11 or 12. You could pay extra or something. As long as the girls don't think your getting special treatment it could work.

    10 dollars sounds like a lot so you probably don't want to quit right away

    A couple options:
    Maybe you could work in the afternoons and a stay at home mom type could come in in the mornings. Tell your boss you have been bartending successfully and you were thinking about taking on some more work now that the summer has come. Suggest he could pay another morning girl less and still have you around in the afternoons.

    Or you could start leaving at 3 or 4 from the secretary position just to make it easier on you.

    Work Sat. night and really hustle. Then work one shift during the week and try to leave early.

    Take good care of yourself and have a good alarm clock so you won't mess up your secretary job.

    If you have a child like me it makes things REALLY difficult! Do you have kids? Finding a babysitter for odd times really sucks.

    I was thinking about waiting until a part time secretarial position opens up in my area so I can have it on my resume. I need office experience for what I am studying in school.

    I don't know what I am going to do either. I am constantly thinking about it to.

    The easiest would just be to strip full time but I am worried about burn out on men. What stops me is being able to say "I am a full time stripper" vs. "I am a secretary"

    Are you starting to think about quiting the secretary job. Should I even bother finding one.
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    I work full time as a marketer for a dot-com in DC, and dance part time. I have been doing this for about a year and a half now. I leave at 6:30 each morning, so I feel your pain...

    Personally, I have found that working on "School Nights" (Sunday through Thrusday) is a generally bad idea, though not impossible.

    I work each Friday and Saturday night. Occassionally, I work on a school night, and it doesn't kill me. As a habit, though, it would wear me down.

    Depending on your stamina (you may have more tha I) you could try Friday and Saturday, plus either Tuesday or Wednesday. I suggest those because they are in the middle of the week... for example, you don't want to go to work on Thurs, dance that night, go to work on Fri, and then dance that night. Your job is to be a fantasy, and no one fantasizes about tired women (well... then again...) but it will affect what you earn at the club, and your performance at your day job.

    If you work Tuesday, dance that night, and work wednesday, you can come home on wed, have a glass of wine, and take it easy... you are all refreshed on Thurs morning, and ready to go Friday night, when there is money to make if you have the energy to earn it.

    As a note: The one problem with my plan is that you may not have so much control over your schedule. I had been at my club for a while and they were very willing to work with me to find a schedule that allowed me to do both. Other clubs give the dancers no say at all, and some make you wait until you have a bit of seniority before you get to decide when you work. Still others make you work there for a month (or 6) before you get a Friday night. I worked at one club where every dancer was required to work one day shift a week.

    When you sit down with management to discuss when you are available, be completely up front and stress that you would like a specific schedule so that you can perform BOTH jobs to the best of your ability. Good Luck.
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    I have no kids, I'm 20 and still with my P's (YUCK!) My mom got on my case last night cuz she caught me up in the story I told her about goin to a friends house, cuz she talked to my friend. oops. I think the management will be pretty cool in letting me choose when I work. I already told em that I work at another job. I am definetly keeping my secretary job, for the benefits (When they finally kick in) and for the sheer fact that it's a solid back up. Waitressing and dancing isn't a steady source of income (I found out when I waitressed) IT sucks cuz sometimes you bank, others you leave with enough for gas. SO with the other job I have that back up that if I'm not makin squat at the club I'll at least be able to eek by (I"m managing with the money I make at the secretary job, it pays my bills and I have a little bit left over) So dancing is just an alternate source right now. I hope it brings in quite a bit during the summer cuz I'd like to pay the crapload of debt off that I have. That was my main reason for starting to dance......debt
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    Angel, you might want to consider the fact that you could probably directly purchase the same sort of insurance and benefits coverage that your office job employer is providing for you at a cost of somewhere around $400 per month, with 100% of that cost being tax deductible from your dancing income. Not that I'm trying to talk you into anything, but if you have back bills to pay off and want to be able to afford your own apartment, you might want to take the time and do the math in regard to working 160 hours a month for $7 per hour (after taxes) plus $400 worth of benefits, versus quitting your secretary's job and working 160 hours a month for $20-$30 per hour or more (after taxes) at a dance club and directly purchasing the insurance coverage for yourself.

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    I was thinking the same thing as Melonie. there's no reason to keep a job you don't like just for the benefits because you can buy them yourself.

    As for job security....i think it's overrated. give yourself an ample rainy day fund (I think 6 months is good in our business) and you should be fine.

    This is, of course, if you want to dance full-time. You don't have to be a 9-5 slave!

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    Hi Emily! How's Philly?
    It's cautious and smart to try dancing and not quit your day job, but if you are making money, I would buy that insurance and not spread yourself too thin. Better to have one good job than two that you can only give half your energy to.
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    Hi Jenn....Philly is good, I guess. I have a love-hate relationship with this city.

    I debated a long time about quitting my day job, but it was also what I went to college for and all that, so it was a big deal to leave it. In the end, it was worth it. I work half the hours and make twice the money.

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    I have worked full-time as a corporate proofreader for the past seven and a half years. I've danced on and off for the past twelve. For the last few months, I've been doing both. I usually dance Tuesday nights, Thursday nights and a weekend night or two. I'm a night owl anyway, so this schedule has not killed me. (Yet. I'm not getting any younger!) There's no way I would give up my day job. First of all, I really enjoy it. Also, the benefits are amazing (huge corporation, and I've been there FOREVER). I make decent money at my day job, but I really enjoy dancing. I did not, however, enjoy it when it was my sole means of income, but that's just me. The fluctuations of the industry were just too stressful for me.

    The money I now make dancing goes directly into savings for retirement and college for the kids. I know I won't be able to keep this up forever, but by stretching myself a little right now, the whole family will be better off in the long run.

    (Sorry, I think I kinda got off track a little with this post!)
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    I like to keep my day job so I can say I am a secretary. I'm not lying. Not to mention I really don't want to get burned out at the club, which I tend to do cuz I get stressed when the money isn't definite. Plus my mom is on my back right now cuz she overheard me talkin about dancing so I had to think up a quick lie and say I HAVE been dancing.....at a local bikini bar, which calmed her down a bit, but I think she's keel over if she found out the truth. Now I feel guilty lying to her. And she has a hint at what I'm doing. DAMNIT. I wanted it to stay secret. *Sigh* oh well, I'm gunna try and move out as soon as possible anywayz. And get a trunk to just keep at work so she doesn't come across my duffle bag. UGH! This crap always happens to me, I just don't have any luck!
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