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    If you have signed a pre-nup, I would tell her to get out.
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    LOL, Cardinal

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    oK I may sound harsh. lol

    Something tells me that it's not going to go over to well with your wife..that your asking a bunch of strippers about what to say to her..lol

    You say you love your wife very much..BUT..Does she know that you come on this board to ask US STRIPPERS for advice about her? Would she freek? If she's the type that's jealous of your car ..I can only imagine the WAR you will get when she finds you hang out with strippers..lol. But you love her very much..good for you..she obviously is one of those greedy nasty wives who can't get enough attention or anything even though your bringing home the $$$. Women like that DRIVE their hubby's away. Does she keep herself up..hair, skin, weight, style? I get soooo sick of these wives..I really don't have anything good to say to these women...I have NO remorse when I say..SHUT the FUCK up and let him drive his VIPER!!


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    There are 2 sides to every story.

    Here we have a man about to turn 40, driving a hot car which is kept in the garage all winter. Now he comes to a stipper message board to ask advice about his wife he loves so dearly? hmmmm

    When was the last time you took your wife for a drive in this hot car? Do you take her out in it at all? or is this strickly your car?

    Jealousy usually stems from insecurities. Perhaps she is concerned about the extra attention you draw to yourself while driving this car?

    Reverse the roles. If she was driving a hot car just for personal choice, how would that effect you?

    Seems to me that without hearing both sides of this story, it is very difficult to take either side....

    Keep the car, talk to your wife, and include her (and the kids?) the next time you go "joy riding"!

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    chill out. Shes probally saying it because she feels neglected. Maybe she wants A NEW VIPER. You can't expect to have a nice toy, and for her not to have one? You are married!
    So what, she gives you a speech, see what happens when you ask her if she wants a new z4, m3, corvette.. something of sorts.

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    hey holiday.. don't be so harsh. there are always two sides.

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    Ok this is all pure specualtion but........
    It sounds like she feels you love your car more than her. Do you by chance spend more time with or on the car than you do her ? Do you spend more money buying stuff for the car than you do for her ?

    I think it would be very, very hard to feel like an object is more important to you than your wife. I bet that's why she wants you to sell it. It sounds like a test of what is more important to you~ her or the car .

    Maybe you should try caring for your wifes emotional needs as much or preferably more than your car's upkeep


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    Quote Originally Posted by HolidayOnStage link=board=27;threadid=8708;start=msg102572#msg102 572 date=1083187060
    oK I may sound harsh. lol

    Something tells me that it's not going to go over to well with your wife..that your asking a bunch of strippers about what to say to her..lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer link=board=27;threadid=8708;start=msg102583#msg102 583 date=1083188423
    hey holiday.. don't be so harsh. there are always two sides.
    oK..I'm harsh.. but I have seen too many of these poor wives have the hubby bring home the bacon..pay her car payments give her diamond rings..blah blah blah and she still is ungrateful and wants more more more. PLUS these wives are usually the FIRST ones in line to bash me or us for being hmmm..dirty, no good strippers! I am just making a stab here..that SHE would NOT allow him to be in this forum if she knew.

    Ok..true I wonder about a 38 yr old, happily married guy is coming to this particular board for answers and I wonder if he's that type of guy squeels his tires at the corner in his viper to get the girls to look..WE all know that it's NOT impressive unless we are 14..lol


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    Quote Originally Posted by HolidayOnStage link=board=27;threadid=8708;start=msg102572#msg102 572 date=1083187060
    Something tells me that it's not going to go over to well with your wife..that your asking a bunch of strippers about what to say to her..lol
    Funny, I was thinking the same thing. My other thought was you were just here to try an impress. Anyway I hope you get things worked out if you truely love her.

    Oh one question- What kind of car does your wife drive?

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    BUY her a viper so she is not jealous, stop ignoring her, and quit trying to impress the girls outside the jr. high!!!! j/k
    "And when your'e crawling over broken glass to get to me, thats when I'll let you stay." -me

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    My BF is 39 and bought himself the Lexus hard-top convertible last year. I went through a phase where I felt like I was coming second to "that damn car". Even the other day, I was cooking dinner, and he was spraying something on the tires to make them blacker!?!?!?!?

    But most of the time, we don't argue about the car anymore because he has agreed to compromise on some things. I am not sure why this was the appropriate site for this post, but I can relate!!! Here are a couple of suggestions:

    1) Wash your car once or twice a week, or after every time it rains a la my honey, but leave the real work to pros - have it polished/waxed at a shop. He was so into playing with his toy that he wanted to do it all, but we finally agreed that the 2-3 hour projects should be outsourced. Wash it and dry it, rub your leather, and leave it at that.

    2) Try to do it when she isn't around. I understand that the perfect "warm, but not sunny or windy" day only happens once in a while, and take it when it comes; but all else equal, wash your car when she is at work/out with friends/getting her nails done...

    3) Ask if she will join you. She might just be happy that you want to spend that time with her. Sometimes I sit out front and have a cigarette, sometimes I wash tires or the interior. Sometimes I park my ass on the couch and don't go. But he always asks.

    4) There is a standing rule: I get as much "love" as the car. Work up a sweat washing it, and ask her to shower off with you...
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    ok.. its simple.. she wants you and more time from you, and you are lucky for that if she is what you say she is!

    the viper comes second, its just a car!

    get a ferrari and then ask this question again...


    oh and VEGAS.. LOVE THE POST!

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    Quote Originally Posted by vegasvixen1 link=board=27;threadid=8708;start=msg102623#msg102 623 date=1083192353
    BUY her a viper so she is not jealous, stop ignoring her, and quit trying to impress the girls outside the jr. high!!!! j/k
    Yeah at 38 you should at least be cruising the high schools... geesh...
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    I cant believe the fact that he has a hot car and posts on stripperweb is an issue for any of you. ??? It may be an issue for his wife is she were to find out, but again, whats the problem?
    So he loves his car. Who the hell wouldnt love to drive a VIPER! hello?
    And the fact that he posts on here doesnt mean he is cheating, or that he doesnt love her. Sure she may get upset, but links is a good guy (from what I have read, and chatted with him).

    Anyway, just explain to her that its a hobby of yours in the summer. Take her out in it once in a while, etc...
    Good luck

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    Men are attached to cars. Plain and simple. I speak as a wife who has witnessed the car attachment.

    I bought my husband a new truck two years ago as a gift. His old car was getting older and was breaking down more. He always made sure that I had a nicer car to drive back and forth to work to avoid me getting stuck somewhere. (I drive a newer toyota camry) At the time, he was driving a 1988 Toyota that had almost 200,000 miles on it.

    We drove by a car lot one day and he fell in love with this White Ford Ranger XLT truck. It was a great deal. The next day, I went back to the lot and I bought it for him because I knew he'd never buy it for himself and two, because we really did need a good reliable second form of transportation. (I'd also like to add that I took it to a mechanic for inspection before purchasing it and I got one hell of a deal on the price)...

    So I tell him I am sick of him driving a junker and we go and sign the papers and he gets the truck. The truck is washed up to three times per week and a nice stereo system is put in the truck. Its souped out, and he is picky about food etc in "his" truck.

    Now, I love my hubby more than anything, but automobile infatuation gets the most of guys. I always have said give a guy a car and a woman and he can die and go to heaven. Such is the case.

    Now comes the hard part. Asking to drive the truck. Twenty questions follow. How long will you be gone, where are you going, don't get it dirty, etc. I laugh. I tell my hubby he cares more about a steering wheel and four tires than me. I'm kidding of course. I know better than to make such a silly assumption of a truck being more important than me. I know differently. BUt its fun to mess with him and give him a hard time.

    I guess to make a long story short is this: I'm happy my guy is happy. If he came home tomorrow with a harley I'd jump for joy, if he surprised me and bought me a new car I'd be happy, but bottom line is this: If you can't have some enjoyment in your life, what's the point? Uptight people are people who can find no joy. Joy and happiness is what makes life worth the effort. Life is too damn short to be upset over a material object or anyone else's opinions etc.

    I laugh and kid with my hubby about his religious regime of car washing and how he baby-s his vehicle. I am glad that he has something to enjoy. I may not get to drive it very much, and that's fine by me, I didn't buy it for me, I bought it for him. And, since he always has made certain that I have had something decent to drive from day one and always took the second car to get to and from work, I figure he deserves to gloat a bit.

    If your wife is that upset about a car, I am sitting here wondering what she'd think about you being on this board. But, I don't think that that's a bad thing, I've chatted with you as well, and you are a great guy (so another one here in favor of asking advice here!) Not sure what to tell you. But if my hubby had a Viper, it sure the hell wouldn't be sitting in the garage all winter, we'd be out enjoying it together. I hate the "second childhood" line. I say its bullshit. Anyone can have a young at heart attitude. Hell, my grandma drives a Mitsubishi eclipse and she's 70 something. I know my grandpa wouldn't be saying she's going thru mid life.. she's just a young at heart person like everyone should be.

    Life is too short to be uptight over a car.

    Just Gynger's point of view.


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    Great post gynger! I agree and I have had the same feeling about "my" car before. I have been considering buying a 68 camaro convertible for the same reasons, hehe.

    Thanks for the details links, to me it just sounds like your wife doesn't understand what your car means. Gynger certainly has a better grip of it. Not sure how to get her to understand thou.

    Good luck with your wife and car.

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    Do you ever let her drive it? She may be just trying to give you a guilt trip to let her drive the car.

    I know that if my SO went out and bought a Viper or any other fast car, I would be very upset. Not because I think that he wouldn't pay any attention to me, but because he'd probably lose his drivers license within the first month of having it from too many speeding tickets!! LOL

    Men are to cars as women are to diamonds. To each their own. If the wifey is upset about the car, though...it's probably not about the car but another issue and this is her way of trying to get your attention. Maybe a nice long conversation would be in order??

    Oh, and have fun cruising down the highway in that nice lil viper.

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    Thanks tampa girl
    "And when your'e crawling over broken glass to get to me, thats when I'll let you stay." -me

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    maybe you should spend more time with your wife and treating her as nice as you treat your car and less time washing and waxing googling at the car.........your wife is more important than your car.......it's a chunck of metal....

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