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    I've been dancing in a club for 3 months already and I still don't feel good about myself. I know dancers are supposed to be the most confident people in the world. But I'm not happy with anything I have. I look in the mirror and cry. I look into my emotions and personality and I cry. I don't feel good about myself or anything I have to show for myself. This is really affecting my income. I'm not happy and other girls at work take advantage of that. They take my regulars, take customers that take interest in me. I work at a no grind club and these girls do this stuff. I don't because I don't feel like I should. I am definately not a money maker and I just am not happy lately. What should I do about this?

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    Hi rican asian.Well Iam really sorry you are so down on yourself.You are right this will affect your income.If you dont feel you are worth buying the guys are not going to either and thats you biggest assest.Believing in your product(YOU).Well, I think its important to identify why you feel this way and work on it.Do you have depression?This could very well make you feel this way.Maybe you should see someone.You are worth it.Buy your self some new outfits and maybe work out, get your hair done.But try to find out your problem and get help.Good luck.

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    This is how I look.
    Last edited by GirlFriday; 10-16-2004 at 07:20 PM.

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    What is wrong with how you look?You are beautiful.I think you just have depression.Because there is nothing wrong with how you look.Once you take care of what you need to get the inside to match the outside, you wil be fine.

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    Just took a look at the pic you posted, if you where in the NYC area, you would make a lot of money, asian girls book like hot cakes here, its crazy

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    You look great. What's the deal? Why are you worried?

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    There is really nothing that we can say to help you. If you do not believe that you are not ALL THAT, you just simply won't be. You should really start investing in yourself. I had a bad night at work the other night and I started getting depressed. In this line of work, it is hard because we deal with so many turn-downs. It's hard to not eventually to take it personally. What is your most favorite thing about yourself? Is it your eyes? Find out how to make them more stunning!! Is it your legs? Show them off more!! Is it your smile? Really work it!! I spent some time today thinking about the nights that I rocked the club and really made good money. And you know what? I had my eyes all done up (so I was confident about them) I had my hair straight and silky soft (so I was confident about that) and I had a dress that really showed off my legs (so I was confident about them). Then I went onto the stage and showed everyone what was so great about me!!

    At the end of the day, though, none of that matters if you do not take care of yourself...what I mean by that is: what do you do for YOU when you are at home? Do you take those nice long hot baths? Do you go for long walks on beautiful nights and just breathe in the relaxation? Do you take time to lay in bed for half the day reading a book and relaxing? Do you go to the gym, not because you have to, but because you really love that aerobic/yoga/pilates class? When I am feeling the worst about myself, it is only a reflection of how I have not been taking care of myself during the week. You really are beautiful...just believe that and you'll begin to see it, again, yourself!!

    Take care of yourself!!

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    I think I know what's wrong, guys. I don't spend enough time with MYSELF. I don't take walks, I don't ever really relax, maybe that's what I need.

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    Ever stop to think ladies that maybe you're in the wrong business (at least as of now)...
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    Maybe you need to work in your self-esteem and really discover yourself and what it is inside you that you live for and have a passion to do!

    One of the biggest problems you can do with an internal problem like that is confess it in!

    Once you ADMIT and talk ABOUT the problem you've already lost the battle!

    You must talk to your problem (or inner insecurity) and and declare that you are in charge and NOT the problem...

    As far as stripping I think that is probably the worst job for a person lacking internal confidence and that if you don't get out and take a time out that problem is just going to multiply infinitely and get worse....

    ***Stripping won't create yor confidence it will ONLY magnify what you've already got!***

    And letting other girls take advantage of you is going to enforce your problem and really make you BELIEVE you are really NOT worthy of mens' time (or yourself)....!!!

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    Wow. You actually gave her some pretty good advise.Iam somewhat surprised since you were trying to script your product in the other thread you didnt come off as helpful and less condesending over there.

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    It's all in your head, honey - you look great!
    I agree about the depression - could very well be the case.
    Also, since you are new, I'll tell you that I have seen many new girls start in the biz and think they will get rich overnight and when they see that that doesn't always happen, and that it takes time to build regular customers and learn how to hustle and make good money, it can get to you real fast and you can get really down on yourself.
    If you are not confident. it will show and you won't make $$$!
    GL2U!!!!

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    Its seems to me that you are depressed sweetie..... I just read your other 2 threads that you created in the body business section and ladies section and you i believe you have some self esteem issues.

    I agree with hip hop baby-doll, maybe right now stripping isn't the job for you. This kind of job sometimes will help to boost a women's confidence and sometimes it will bring it down. If you are in an enviorment which is making you unhappy, then you need to get out.

    You need to take time out for YOU.... having no confidence in your self is the worst way you can feel. It doesn't matter how great ppl tell you, you are or look... the fact is if you don't believe it, it wont make any difference. I know i have been there and it was horrible..... I felt like this through my early to late teens and it was worse because i went to an all-girls ( single sex ) school. I became very depressed, felt ugly, i was suicidal, i cried every day and never wanted to go out, i was VERY paranoid. I really believed that ppl on the streets were talking about me ALL THE TIME...... it was hell!

    Talk to somebody.... anybody ( who you can trust ) it can really help and make things seem clearer to you. You need to sit down and figure out what it REALLY is making you unhappy in your life. Are you doing things which you arent happy doing? Are there things you wish were doing which you are not? Is there anybody in your life who is making you feel unhappy or bad about yourself? Are you happy with where you are at in your life? Has anything happened to you in your past that you havent confronted or dealt with? Are you around negative ppl who you dont actually like or want to be around? Be honest with your self and then make small changes.

    Good luck to you and if you ever need to chat, hit me up.

    Oh and last but not least, you are beautiful! start believing it.

    hugs
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    Hi Rican,

    Dancers are definitely NOT the most confident people in the world. However, I think due to men's adulation over our bodies, most of us are very comfortable being naked. Are you taking in the POSITIVE feedback you get at work? Cause I know you must get it -- you have a great figure!

    I feel bad that the other girls have already caught on to your insecurities. Be careful about that, because it makes you vulnerable. When you are in the club, believe that you are beautiful. Tell yourself you'll complain about what you don't like when you are home, but when you are there, appreciate every part of yourself. Believe me, your constumers DO.

    It's funny, the girls that talk badly about other girl's looks are always the MOST unattractive girls. Don't fall into the trap of believing what your "competition" has to say about you.

    Good luck!
    Let your indulgence set me free. - Shakespeare

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    I think u are absolutely gorgeous!!!! I sometimes go into clubs with my husband as customers and we would definitely give u all of our $$$$$ .... you have no idea how in demand u are by being asian! you need to work your ethnicity girl!!! you are so beautiful!
    "And when your'e crawling over broken glass to get to me, thats when I'll let you stay." -me

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