I just thought I would add my 2 cents worth about why men go to clubs. As someone who has been in and out of clubs for over 20 years, it is interesting to see how what I look for has changed. That “I am 20 years old and I want to see what it looks like” guy and slowly been replaced by an “over 40 and I want to remember what if felt like to be young” guy.
In reading the posts, I think a little marketing 101 in terms of the approach would help. I hesitate to using the car analogy but I think everyone can relate to it. It is always so easy to focus on features, “Is my ass tight”, Should I get bigger boobs”, While these things matter, I say that what men come in for is a “feeling”. That “0-60 in 5 seconds” Porsche or the “comfort of a Mercedes” ride. I hate to break it to you, but I have seen tits before…Don’t sell the body, it’s right in front of me. Sell me on how I will feel when I see the body in motion.
The men with the money are probably 35+ and successful. In general, we have anywhere from 20 to maybe 40 years of life experience more than you do. We have probably been getting dances since you were in diapers. I mention this, because while you may use your favorite hustle to get a dance or 2, chances are you will be done in 2 dances if you get one and a lot of money will be left on the table. (or should I say in the pocket) hehe.
So here is what I would suggest,
First, you have to quickly identify why the man is there and understand the feeling he is trying to achieve. Success, youth, independence (i.e. escaping the wife for one night). The best way to do this is to study MEN. I recommend you get the audio tape “Men’s Passages” by Gail Sheey” It is based on interviews of over 100 men at different ages . Know your customer.
Title: Men’s Passages Read this book if you are ready to face the music.
Rating: 5
Review: Reading this book is a necessary gut-wrenching experience. Nobody likes to hear exactly the idiotic things we men sometimes do. Especially from a woman...right guys?
Sheey is right on the money. You will find your father, brother, GRANDFATHER and buddies all here. As well as yourself. And *that* is the gem this book will leave behind: finding yourself, situating your thoughts and realizing that you are not all that crazy..that, yes, you can stay in the saddle or get back on it. You are hardly alone.
Two comments: One, don't take the age ranges literally (Sheely advises the same thing). Two, enjoy the book while it lasts, because "the meaning of life" is not described at the end of the book. The book reads like a novel at some points, BUT it is not. If you get to the end and are still clueless. Put it down and think hard. You will get IT. Read it. You will be glad you did.
Title: Iron John
Today's sensitized male may be in touch with his "feminine" side, but, writes poet Bly, this "soft male" possesses little vitality and is hobbled by grief and anguish. To achieve real masculinity, Bly argues, men must cultivate a fierce tenderness to be found neither in the macho/John Wayne model nor in the "interior feminine." Taking as his starting point the Grimm fairy tale "Iron John," the author sets forth an eight-stage initiatory path whose steps include remembering one's psychic wounds, communion with a mentor or "inner King," becoming a lover, reviving one's inner warriors and receiving a "second heart." Bly avoids cant as he ransacks Jung, Freud and Reich; referents include Greek, Egyptian and Celtic myths, the Parsifal legend, Blake and Amerindian ritual. A wise and healing book full of fresh insights, Bly's odyssey will help men grapple with identity, fatherhood, relationships and such crises as addiction and divorce.
Copyright 1990 Reed Business Information, Inc.
These two books will give you insight (hehe) into the older man. Think about it, anytime you want to become an expert in something, you take a class and/or read about it to study it. If you are making a living at this, shouldn’t you be an expert on men? Pole tricks are good, but there is more to making money.
Second, I can’t tell you how many dancers I’ve seen that are a “one trick pony”. They ask if you want a dance, you see it, and then the second, third, and fourth dances are like “Ground Hog Day”. The same thing over and over and over again. Umm no thank you. Saw that butt before..
The best dancers approach it like a musical with several acts. THAT KEEPS IT INTERESTING!. You don’t have to script it, but a theme is nice interspersed with dialogue Build to the rousing climax in scene 4 and then the wind down in scene 5. If a girl came up to me with a 5 dance musical approach, That would get my attention! (and $100 bill plus tip.) Why not have several different approaches based on what that guy wants?
One of the best dances I have ever seen was at Brandi’s in Vancouver. Center Stage was a dancer by the name of Chelsea Brooks. She had a set that was unbelievable. When the dance was done there were so many $5 bills on the stage it looked like fall in the money tree forest. And, it was totally rehearsed and perfected. Why not do that for private dances? How many successful plays do you see where people get up and ad lib? None. Talk about memorable, I still remember her name. She even gave out posters to a couple of lucky guys..Thank you very much. What a professional.
Anyway, a few random thoughts.. for what they are worth.



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