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    I was just at the doc. the other day, and decided to call my ex to see if he'd been with any one while we were together, simply to know if I'd really need the other tests or not since I have no insurance and they cost so much individually.

    Anyhow, he blew up at me and asked me how I could ask such a rediculous question, then proceded to tell me I wasn't a respectable lady, What the hell is wrong with me, to lose his number, and that he never wants to talk to me again.

    He said he never slept with anyone while sleeping with me, and if I had anything it would have to be from cheating on him. Well, I never did cheat. Then I told him if he can talk to me like an adult he can call me. His reply was " I'll call you, I'll call you something allright, but it won't be your number."

    And then he went on to say that I never loved him, and he didn't understand how I could have any friends at all. And to go on he said he has love for me but " only the love that God requires me to have for anyone. I love you as much as I love any bum on the street, but thats all."

    I on the other hand managed to stay entirely calm, and tell him " whatever makes you feel better, you go right ahead and think that way."

    To make a long story short, I discussed it with my mother, and she believes nobody gets that upset unless they are guilty. What do you all think?

    P.S. I told him he had a lot of expensive things of mine and if he could just pack them up and leave them with a mutual friend of ours that would be great. He insists we exchange things in person. I really don't see the point. He says to make sure he's not responsable for anything thats broken. I feel this is a load of crap, but am wondering why he truely wants to see me in person.

    What a jerk.
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    Wow. I can't tell you whether or not he's guilty. Regardless no one should talk to you that way-that's horrible. Good luck!

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    Sounds like he's very,very guilty. just speaking from experience of having people blow up on me like that who were very guilty of the same exact thing actually.
    Good Luck.
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    What a creep

    Respectable lady wtf ???
    I think it's very respectable to know your status.

    I'm sure it hurt to hear someone you've cared about say those things. It was very nasty and insecure of him.Sorry to say but I hope you do lose his number

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    I'd say he's guilty. I was in the same situation with an ex. We broke up for a couple months, and then got back together. I asked him if he had been with anyone while we were on our break, and he blew up, saying "what kind of guy do u think i am? blah blah blah" eventually...i broke him down, and found out he did sleep with someone while we were apart (a girl he knows i hate). gRRRR, the fucker.

    anyway, its better to be safe than sorry. get the tests done. and dont listen to his bullshit. you asked a simple question, you didnt deserve to be bombarded with his immature blabbing.

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    Yeah, he may very well be guilty. That blowup was suspicious as hell. But no matter what, his words were petty and mean. You're much better off without a guy like that.

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    A little bit of a guy's perspective...

    Quote Originally Posted by Fawn link=board=1;threadid=8917;start=msg105354#msg1053 54 date=1083731757
    He said he never slept with anyone while sleeping with me, and if I had anything it would have to be from cheating on him.
    Yeah, he's guilty. He already covered a base with pre-denial LOL. Why would he do this? What a 'tard.

    P.S. I told him he had a lot of expensive things of mine and if he could just pack them up and leave them with a mutual friend of ours that would be great. He insists we exchange things in person. I really don't see the point. He says to make sure he's not responsable for anything thats broken. I feel this is a load of crap, but am wondering why he truely wants to see me in person.
    I'm with him here. If it's to be a clean break, leaving valuables with a 3rd party opens up WAY too many loose ends down the road. You can't hope to have closure on this unless it's in person, face to face, and you're allowed to voice any grievances with his delivery of items at the time.

    What a jerk.
    Absolutely. I hope lots of soft-serve ice cream or frozen yogurt is being administered. You deserve so much better and I'm glad you're done with this jerk.
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    Polecat took the words right outta my mouth!

    I hope you feel better hun!

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    Me three !

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    if he insits on meeting in person I would go ahead and do it, but bring an older brother or someone and meet somewhere neutral not at one of the places you guys live...

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    yeah, I'm surprised he would need "closure" judging by his reaction when you asked a simple question. Not respectable??!! girl, you are very respectable for trying to take care of your biz. lots of girls skimp on getting tested for stuff cuz they don't wanna know. his reaction was out of line. you're already the better person, especially if he cheated on you during that time. I would take a friend or someone if you meet up.

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    I have to say that as far as getting your things back than I would do it in person. I would also say that having someone go with you would be safe on your part. It is often hard during this phase of breaking up so if nothing wlse have a friend with you for emotional support.

    also, is there any way that you might be able to go to a planned parenthood for these tests? It is usually less expensive. I dont know if he cheated or not and neither do you, so I would take them just to be safe.

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    You can also get the tests at anonymous testing clinics which can be less expensive. Do a web search for them in your area.

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    Planned Parenthood was more expensive then the clinic I went to. I went to womens whole health clinic here in austin, and after checking around in the phone book, it is the cheapest for a pap. The doc told me if I went to the rbj building downtown it could take a month, but it would only run $15. They however only test for std's and dod not do pap's, so I spent a lot on that at the womens clinic.

    As for meeting him, I refused and told him I do not owe him anything other than his belongings, which would be at a mutual friends. He said " no, we're gonna do this in person." I told him that his anger only showed his guilt. His reply "guilt is a feeling, and I have none of those for you."

    Well, he waited at the friends house, and did not answer my call, so I called there and let him know that his belongings were on my doorstep (along with my giant brother). He never came to pick them up.

    I dropped them off at the friends house, and pick up mine, along with a not written like a puzzle with 16 hidded messages on it. things such as " this is all your fault. Queen screw up. I shouldn't have wasted tthree years with the likes of you. You ruined us. etc,etc."

    I had a good laugh. I feel bad that some one I once cared so much about could act this way towards me, but at least I'm not still with that lunatic.

    He never evn cursed at me through our whole relationship. I didn't see this one comeing.

    Well, I decided to do some thing a little childish too, instead of just leaving it at that.

    I wrote the sweetest, nicest letter, saying things like good luck with your life, and , I only wish the best for you. I figured he'd feel like a real jackass after seeing just how respectable I could be for not saying things like fuck you, or calling him an idiot.

    well, I deleted him not only from my phone today, but also from my life. The jackass has been erased.

    Thanks everyone for your input.
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    Tantrums over break-ups are for 8-year olds. As are nasty notes. The only sad thing is that some other poor creature is going to wind up having to deal with this space cadet sooner or later.


    EDIT~ Reread the original post, either he's DAMN mad at you over something (and you'd probably know what that is, unless it's that he's mad at you having the audacity to not want to be with him, or he's got something else going on in his head. I'd say he's got a few skeletons in there).

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    he sounds guilty of somthing.. men do that to turn the topic off of them and on to you..

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    GUILTY take it from me and you a fool if you belive anything he says. trust me he will cheat and cheat and cheat till he makes you age ten years in six months. drains the life out of you. its because of men like him that most women dont trust men like me. remmember im a man i could be lieying to. what it all boils down to is no matter what anyone writes to you. your going to do what you want cause you in love or lust or what ever somtimes its easyer to just let go and start over. starting over is scary somthimes but in the long run you dont waste your time and years living a lie.
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    He's guilty of something alright. Your mom is right, nobody gets this upset for nothing. It was classy of you to make a clean break. It's in your best interest to go for a complete physical no matter what the cost. Not just a pap smear but a blood test for everything. I did this when my ex and I broke up. Everything was negative but I feel 100% better and it's worth it to have a clear mind for the next relationship. I also say use protection. Before enter into non safe safe sex both should have a complete physical results on paper to show each other all is negative and even then use a condom. There's so much to be carefull about, bisexual or men on the down-low, drugs you name it and guys still hate condoms and will remove it even when you put it on them. Goodluck with the next guy.
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    If you two were still together and all seemed well and he blew up over this question then I'd say GUILTY for sure. But in this case if I understood you right he is your ex, and he might just generally be angry with you and used this contact from you as an opportunity to vent some of the anger he is feeling towards you. I guess I would say if unsure, get the tests.

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    Fawn,
    Not to throw off-topic, but what is the full name of the clinic and how much do they charge? I've been going to PP in South Austin and they are not cheap, I agree!!

    Good luck with your asshat ex!!

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    You can never really read another person's heart with 100% certainty, but I'd agree with everyone else that the odds are very high indeed that he is guilty. It would definitely be crazy to trust him given the way he talks to you and behaves.

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    Guilty but he'll probably plead the 5th. You are wayyyyyy better off without this jerk! Dont let any guy EVER talk to you like that again. In your position I would still get all the necessary tests... you never know. Good luck!
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    Thats the two worst things a person can do...Lying and Cheating...

    Only thing worse is Lying about Cheating. I'll never understand it or accept either of them. I dont care if you want to F somebody else....go ahead and do it...just tell me about it. I wont be mad. I'll open the door for you, give you a condom, and say goodbye...we can still be friends.

    You shouldnt have to put up with that shit. It does sound like he's lying, but you never know. He also might just be really upset. Either way it doesnt matter since you are done with him. Good luck with your tests.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trix link=board=1;threadid=8917;start=msg105406#msg1054 06 date=1083741710
    I'd say he's guilty. I was in the same situation with an ex. We broke up for a couple months, and then got back together. I asked him if he had been with anyone while we were on our break, and he blew up, saying "what kind of guy do u think i am? blah blah blah" eventually...i broke him down, and found out he did sleep with someone while we were apart (a girl he knows i hate). gRRRR, the fucker.

    anyway, its better to be safe than sorry. get the tests done. and dont listen to his bullshit. you asked a simple question, you didnt deserve to be bombarded with his immature blabbing.
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    id think he was guilty for sure, good luck let us know what happens, id probobly get the tests 2 just in case, he seems to paranoid.. somethings not right lol
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