The other day I was watching a program on exotic dancers with my brother. Now I must confess I find it a massive turn on that a girl has the confidence to strip either down to a g-string or naked on stage. Of course I like seeing a beautiful girl naked and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t, but what I like most of all is the confidence and the strong sense of I get that the girls, that they are free of inhibitions. However my brother, who I consider to be is less liberal minded than myself, remarked when I said that I would like to go out with a dancer that he would never consider going out with that “type” of girl. This led to a long debate over exotic dancers in which he argued a number of points, firstly that he would not go out with that “type” of girl, secondly that it was degrading to women, thirdly that it is immoral and finally that the girls who perform as exotic dancers hate it.
I disagreed with him on all these issues, firstly on his point that he would not go out with that “type” of girl. My question was what “type” of girl is that? Thousands of girls perform as exotic dancers and like in every other job, every single one of them is different with their own distinct personalty and thus they cannot be pigeon holed as any particular “type.” I also questioned how he could say that he would never go out with someone who is an exotic dancer? My point was, what if a beautiful girl came up to you in a pub and you both hit off with the same likes and dislikes, would you later discard all that you had in common just because of your, possibly unfounded, perception of what exotic dancers are like.
On his second point that it is degrading to women I was also in disagreement. I don’t consider myself a male chauvinist (I’ll let my readers be the judge of that), I totally disagree with the glass ceiling that exists in most occupations and am generally unimpressed with the majority of men’s failure to embrace the growing power of women in society. When it comes to dancers I don’t think that it is degrading for a woman to display her body, not only do I find it sexually attractive but personally I think the female body is generally much more beautiful than the male. Added to this I don’t see nudity as degrading I modelled naked for a friend of mine’s art project at university and I did not find getting naked for her degrading. If anything I think it works the other way around the dancers in clubs seem to have all the power they tease you and then take your money what‘s degrading about that (for them)? I also believe that when I worked in a department store for a pathetic four pounds an hour a few years ago the total disrespect with which some people treated me was much more degrading than having some guy stare in ore at some girl’s beautiful naked body.
The immorally of stripping is another point I very strongly question. I am training to be a barrister and I know of numerous defence barristers who take great pleasure in getting obvious criminals off. Without getting into the debate over the right to a fair trial which I accept, I think it highly immoral to relish in the release of someone who you know full well is guilty, often of horrific crimes. My point being that in a great number of what the general trend of society would term as “respectable” professions there is a lot more immorality than there is at any gentlemen’s club. I fail to see how a girl showing off her body is in anyway immoral, if anything it brightens up the lives of anyone who is fortunate enough to witness it (trust me few people can say the same about their trip to their solicitor). Then there is the so called biblical side to morality. To my knowledge there is nothing in any of the religious texts about nudity and how evil it is supposed to be, although there is a large amount about being judgmental.
When I was at university I studied history and large amount of the move towards sex and the naked human body as evil was actually during the medieval period where religion, in Europe especially, was being used, very much as it is in the Middle East today, as a tool of control.
Finally this is a question I cannot myself answer as I am not an exotic dancer, do the girls that perform all hate it? My opinion, possibly mistakenly, is that as with any job some of them do it just for the money some of them actually quite enjoy it. I must confess when I modelled nude for my friend I actually quite enjoyed it, being the object of desire for her and a couple of her friends was quite a confidence booster.
I would be very interested to hear what any dancers or anyone else for that matter thinks of this, sorry it gets quite deep but I have only been to a gentleman’s club once and I found it a good night out and pretty harmless. So with this in mind I really can’t understand why some people make such a big deal out of those that work at these clubs


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