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    Hi everybody knows i just started dancing i was never in a strip club enviroment before and i am so upset. Let me tell you I am a descent dancer i make good money and seemed to have beed ecepted by the custmers I like stage dancing thats fun but what happens on the floor and in the vip room is what bothers me. I flirt with guys who pay tons of mony to me for dances they tell me the love me one guy put his a gold ring on my finger and told me it looked on me and that he was falling in love (For real!!!) he paid me over hundred dollors for dances and drinks then he left mad becuse i would not go home with him. I feel guilty becuse i feel likeing I am conning drunk men out of money. I still think dancing is for me i am just breaking in to the scene dose anyone have any advice for please be kind i am just up set right now i know that is just how it is.

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    Just don't lie to them. There are plenty of guys out there that don't need to be promised the world and accept your relationship with them for what it is (a fantasy to stay in the strip club).

    You can keep your self-respect and still get a $100 out off a guy....more, even.

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    Look at them like ATMs...you will meet many men who will spend far more then 100 bucks on you.....
    be honest..they will respect you and you will respect yourself more....
    Realize that you are a fantasy to them..and help them realize it as well...
    dont feel guilty ..if you live like that...this industry will chew you up and spit you out .....
    just be you .....



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    Im always honest, but I am still there to fulfill a strip club fantasy. Im not above going along with him and letting him give me his money.
    Men that get mad because you wont go home with them are idiot! He came to a strip club, WILLINGLY spent his money on you, then became upset because youre a stripper, not a prostitute?? His fault, not yours!!


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    Also be wary. Actions like these from some customers are NOT always genuine. They will sometimes deliberately plant the guilty feeling in you so that you will probably change your mind later, especially if he senses you are new or vulnerable. Remember, not all men are idiots. Some like to use their charm to get into the minds or knickers of girls and mess them around. This man may even have had a smile on his face after he left the club if he believed that you fell for his 'game'.

    This is when strippers need to have a heart of stone and not always take these feelings personally. Just take it with a pinch of salt. Still be nice to him when he comes in and such, but never imply you'll do anything for him, espec. to ''make up'' for him leaving sad the last time.
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    It sounds to me like he is trying to take advantage of the fact that you are new to the business. Be careful when dealing with dirtbags like that.
    A strip club is not a brothel. Any guy who has the nerve to insult a dancer by asking her for the services of a prostitute is not worth your time.
    What I say to guys like that is - I only work inside of the club. Let me know if you want another lap dance later. Then just smile and walk away and start talking to the next guy.
    Just because we are strippers that doesn't mean that we will allow rude guys to treat us with disrespect. You have to stand up for yourself.
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    thank you for all you advice i am trying real hard to adjust to this i hope it gets better

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    Another good line (if you say it with humour not spite) to use on those that blur the line between stripper/exotic dancer and prostitute is

    "That's like trying to order KFC at McDonalds however if you are ready to order a Happy Meal from me.. I can do that"

    This says in a rather humours way that you are not a prostitute, the club is not a brothel, it won't ever happen however if he is willing to purchase what you will do (a dance) then you are more than willing to provide that service.

    Don't worry about those guys who leave un-happy... it is THEIR choice to do so. They could've chosen to leave happy but they decided not to... nothing to do with you.

    Just provide them with what you promise. Work with integrity.


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    also, remember that some men are just ignorant and there's nothing YOU can do about it. my boyfriend works w/ a guy who (when they passed a strip club on the hwy) said that he had "gotten kicked out of there several times." my bf was like, why? and he said, "if I'm gonna drop $500 on some chick, she better be willing...." my bf said he felt like slapping the guy. just remember who these "customers" are: like this guy just got out of jail, etc..... ignore men like this and move on. don't feel guilty. they came into the club, didn't they?!

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