I applied at Deja Vu in Seattle tonight (to start in mid-June) and the manager said he would call me on Wednesday. It seems like I may get the job, which will be nice, as I have to quit my present job in the first week of June. The problem: I am 19, have lived in Seattle for about 9 months, and have parents who live about an hour away. Since I obviously need to continue paying rent, my mother keeps asking me if I've found a new job. What should I tell her? My parents freaked out and made me quit when they learned that I had gotten a job as a strip club WAITRESS last year, so I know the idea of dancing won't sit well with them. I figured I could just lie and say that I was working in a restaurant or a drugstore, but I know that lying like that will somehow end up blowing up in my face (in the form of one or both parents saying, "Hey, Jae, let's go down to that restaurant that you work at and have something to eat").
Should I just give up the idea of dancing altogether? I'd really rather not, as I'd like to have the experience. Additionally, I think I'm a responsible adult; I pay for my own expenses, work, and attend college. I just really don't want to upset them more than necessary, nor do I want them to embarrass me somehow by coming into work and forcing me to quit. Agh. Help?
Sorry for the long-winded question, thanks in advance for any help, and Happy Mother's Day to all the dancing mommies out there! xoxo
P.S. I do realize that this question was already asked, but the other woman was 31 and married; I'm still technically a kid, at least in the eyes of my parents.
-one more thing I forgot to add- Does anybody here work at the Vu in Seattle? One dancer told me the club gets $120 every night, which sounds excessive...but I really can't find anyplace else in the city to dance besides the Lusty Lady (and I'm not interested in dancing nude for little more than minimum wage).



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I plan on starting in two months (tick tock tick tock), so I'm gonna start trying to phrase it now... Or should I just let fate take it's course? But if you're trying to communicate that you're a responsible adult and you want their respect, isn't it better to 'fess up and do it the way they taught you to? I'm struggling with this big time. Ughh, 22, married, 2 kids, and still terrified of my mother. OTOH, my mom and I have talked about going to a counselor together (yeah, we have some things to work out) - LOL, maybe I should tell her and then go to counseling to help smooth it over. Ooh ooh. Now THAT might be a way to go. Everyone, send your mothers into counseling!
: - OK, I've decided... I'm gonna think of something brilliant to say and just tell her... LOL, "Ask for me tomorrow and you shall find me a grave 'man'"...



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