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doc-catfish link=board=27;threadid=9076;start=msg108173#msg108 173 date=1084333291
In short, we guys don't like being called "rejects" any more than you gals like being called "stupid". I think in both these threads, some controlled hostility was bound to happen.
That's the entire problem.. too many people have tried to "bend" her original post to somehow fit a context into themselves, then go off spewing about something totally different.
She recognized and affirmed that normal rejection is cool by her.. she even identified and praised the nice, sweet customer and stated guys like that
"make the job worthwhile", etc.etc. It was specifically towards those that hesitate, hem-and-haw or as she put it:
"as though he wants me to feel really grateful that he is gracing me with his cash.". It was even pre-texted with a mini-rant disclaimer.
Then everyone from coast to coast jumps in here and suddenly bends themselves into that reject mold then attacks. sigh. Truth being, I doubt there are ANY gentleman (or ladies) here that fit into her description. That quotient usually trolls ASPD or local/extras forums and bring a nice chip on their shoulder with them into the clubs. Most of the men here either work/have-worked in the biz, or at least know one or more strippers "behind the glitter" and some understanding of the job. It just seems to me to be evolving into a pathos satiation session of using this poor woman as the outlet.
Obviously, normal rejection chips away at newer dancers and there is obviously some of that involved too, but I fail to see how requests for pics and public humiliation references offer much support to help someone grow from this. This coupled with how usually overbearing outward 'conceitedness' is generally a result of the opposite in reality- those that have to verbally confirm their hotness constantly generally have stronger, reality based self-esteem issues of the reverse.
And yes, of course the source of rejection DOES alter how one recovers from such. Come on guys, let's get real here. If you are rejected from a rather unattractive woman at a bar, it's a totally different feeling from rejection from an attractive woman. One is hard to fathom, the other is more acceptable. The trick is to let neither effect one's self-esteem, and pick yourself back up and carry on.
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