Lilac666, Don't think I'm awful for saying this, but... (ha! how's that for an intro!) - Everybody worries about what their bodies will look like post-child bearing and pretty much everybody hates something about their body that happened in the process. But what I hope you will realize when you eventually have kids is that once they're here, nothing else matters as much as your children do. IMO, that's how it should be and if you don't feel that way, you shouldn't be having kids. That's not meant to harsh - it's just how I feel. And don't make the breast/bottle decision before you've even imagined having kids. You're not pg now and not planning to be. You're just thinking about pregnancy and childbirth in terms of how it will affect you. I think that once you decide to have kids, get pregnant, etc., you'll be thinking about your baby and you'll do what's best for him/her without letting your body image interfere in that decision. If you really want to make this decision so early on, then do ALL of the research. Read the baby books and studies on breast/bottle, talk to moms who have done both - don't just take a survey of ppl whose boobs crapped out and ppl whose didn't. There is so much more to it than that. Raising your children the way you see fit is infinitely more important than blobs of fat that are gonna flop eventually anyway. You may still decide that bottle-feeding is what's best for you and your child, but PLEASE don't sell out on the nursing experience because you're too vain to give it a chance. You may actually enjoy the bond that nursing can provide. Bottle-feeding is fine if that's what works best for you, just do it for the right reasons.
Another thought - it sounds like you've pretty much already decided not to nurse. But it also sounds like you're considering a boob job either way. As long as you enjoy it and eat a healthy diet, breast-feeding is definitely better for your baby. And formula is gonna cost you a shitload of money and you'll go it through it like water... So, $4000 for a BA versus $4K plus A LOT more for formula - doesn't seem like all that hard of a decision.
One last thing - parenting is all about sacrifices... and you don't mind making them. You might've looked better before you had kids, you might've enjoyed going out at night or eating the 'good desserts' without occasionally having to hide behind the counter (lol, any mommies hear me on that?

) - But what it comes down to (or should, IMO, if you're really meant to be a mom) is that you would trade all of those things the world over for a chance to mold this perfect, untainted little piece of the future... Make sure you think about being a mom, and not just about banking at the club when you make this decision. You can be a great dancer and a great mom, but please make the latter your top priority.
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