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    I am a new dancer at a dive bar in a miltary town I have been dancing 2 weeks the first week was fun everyone was welcoming and i was learning a lot the secound week is hell I have been called a cock blocking whore i have been threanted by the other dancers they want me out of the the club i don't understand why I do not cock block i stay out of everyones way and i don't make nearly as much money as the other girls the club is alway slow and there are more dancers then paying custmers (we get a lot of broke guys in for the free beer specials) I know the other girls are making it so i don't get any stage tips also. They are rude they count there money in front of me to make feel that they are better then me. Now this have backfired on some of the girls becuse there were some custmers that have bought dances from me and told me that they found the other dancers to be to bitchy and money hungry. All i want to do is be a dancer it has been a dream of mine for a long time and i don't want to give up Please help me ??? ???

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    Default Re:dancers forcing me out of the club

    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 link=board=9;threadid=9382;start=msg112138#msg1121 38 date=1085081173
    1 - i have been threanted by the other dancers they want me out of the the club i don't understand why

    2 - the club is alway slow and there are more dancers then paying custmers
    #2 is most probably the answer to #1.

    I have no idea how you can best deal with it though; most likely others here have a better answer to that.

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    Is there another club in your area? If so, I would high-tail it over there ASAP. That's ridiculous and you shouldn't have to put up with that shit. It's not worth it to try to make friends with these bitches. Get out and go somewhere less hostile. i'd be willing to bet that the hostile environment is one reason why you're not making as much money.

    I hope there's another club you can go to. Good luck, sweetie!
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    I'm assuming that there are different degrees of "new girl" treatment that take place when new dancers first start to work at all or most clubs. My advice is if you can't find another club, just stick it out for a little while longer and see if they get used to you being there and perhaps once they figure out that you aren't going anywhere, they'll leave you alone. Also, if you feel that they are being excessively threatening to you or doing more than they should, perhaps you should address management with your concerns. Other than that, I'd say ignore them and make friends with the customers because the girls aren't paying you anyhow. Good luck to you sweetie!!

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    Thank you guys for your help i did find anthor club Its full nude i danced there last night and i liked it and much more money. They guys at this club actully watch the stage scince we go nude and i liked it I hope i can get along with the girls i want NO trouble.

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    Ok, I'm not THAT new to the dancing scene but have never heard the term "c*ck blocking" in my club. I've only heard it on SW. What does it mean exactly?

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    i have the same prob. i've been at a new club for 2 months and still no one speaks to me good luck....and wish me some too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelEyezXYZ link=board=9;threadid=9382;start=msg112265#msg1122 65 date=1085102971
    I'm assuming that there are different degrees of "new girl" treatment that take place when new dancers first start to work at all or most clubs. My advice is if you can't find another club, just stick it out for a little while longer and see if they get used to you being there and perhaps once they figure out that you aren't going anywhere, they'll leave you alone. Also, if you feel that they are being excessively threatening to you or doing more than they should, perhaps you should address management with your concerns. Other than that, I'd say ignore them and make friends with the customers because the girls aren't paying you anyhow. Good luck to you sweetie!!
    Exactly! If there isnt another club in your area, eventually it will pass. I've seen girls at my club treat some new dancers horribly, some leave, some dont. Those that choose to stick it out are eventually ignored, then accepted. It's a stupid thing, but it's just how it is. Dancers can be brutal sometimes!
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    It's the nature of the business. A few dancer's here on the board have friends in the clubs. I did not. I also when i started in south Florida was called names, and i DID take customers. Get tough skin, do your job only. You are not there to make friends, they wont pay your bills, the customers do! The other dancers do NOT own the customers, make your rounds, don't butt in on other dancers and customers. Look for a regular at the club...Always, go to him. and all the guys!

    Hold the head up, and never make eye contact with an dancer who talks shit. Stay clear, and walk the opther way as they count their money....Who gives a shit.

    Anyway, you are already being told a few are bitchy! Great start. Go on ignore with the jealous dancers....It works.

    Remember, you are only there to work, then you go home, screw them. Get the GUYS!!! Also, dress and do your hair different at times....Don't know why, but it helps build up a clientel. Think this shows dancers and customers you are not afraid of change!!!!

    Good luck, PS, best advice, never get into a yelling match, they may try to provoke you, walk away. You will be TOP DOG GIRL!!!! Makes ones who want a "fight" feel small when they dont get their fight. Your not alone, feel good, they are jealous, lots of women would love to have a women jealous of them, and it seems you threaten their work! Good for you!

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    Thank you guys so much for you encougment i am glad to have this web site

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    Does "cock blocker" mean a dancer who will just sit there and chit chat with customers with out getting paid? If so, that does makes it impossible for other dancers to have a chance with those customers. I have seen girls like that in the club and it really is annoying.
    I think that it is important for everyone to work together so that these guys realize that we are there to do a job. If a customer is not buying dances then he is wasting our time -- and that is unacceptable. It is very important to let the customers know that we won't allow them to take advantage of us.
    I personally won't talk to a guy for more than one song if he does not agree to buy a dance or offer to pay me for my time. It should not take a guy more than 5 minutes to figure out if he wants a dance from you. You can always go back to him later if he's not ready.
    Maybe those girls did not tell you the solution to the problem because they were afraid that you would make more sales than the more experienced girls.
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    Default Re:dancers forcing me out of the club

    pamela thanks for the advice and support!

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    Default Re:dancers forcing me out of the club

    Chances are the other dancers are insecure or jealous..... let their rudeness pass and chances are they will get over it

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    I have been dancing at a local bar for a half a year now. When I first got there I was welcomed & all and then I started to notice I was getting the cold shoulder after about a week. No biggie. I'm the youngest dancer at the place so obviously there ae some older women who are jealous & insecure. I've had things stolen, been b*tched at, name called, and gossiped about but it doesnt really bother me. I started to notice a pattern, whenever a new girl comes in she is automatically loved and welcomed and then it dies down til the next newbie comes in. Another thing with this bar is that we have so many faces coming in and out that most of the time the regular dancers expect the newbies to leave on their own, but once they start to see that you are staying put... they start trouble and try to get you out. I've stuck with this bar only because I know I can hack the BS - it doesnt bother me. They are rying very hard to get me out of there but I'm putting my foot down. They usually have little clics and groups. I try to keep away from other dancers and keep it down to a bare minimum of small talk but thankfully Ive found a handful of girls who are more accepting towards me and we hang out outside the club aswell... the funny thing is that they didnt like me at the beginning. Try to keep this motto in your head - it helps me "come in, dance, make my money, go home". I love gossip and all but if you get yourself involved in it youll get yourself into trouble. Dont talk about any of the other dancers unless theyre nice things... TRUST me people talk all the time and it WILL get back to them.
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    A cock blocker is a term we stole from guys. Guys use it to describe someone (usually another guy) who does something to 'block' a guy from attempting to hook up with a girl. Blocking the cock. LOL

    We've kinda stolen the term to describe a dancer who does something to block another dancer from a customer's money, usually in hopes of getting him for herself. This can be done by 'staking' a table, running in front of you as you're on your way to a guy, jumping on the lap of a guy who just tipped you on stage, telling a guy not to buy from someone else, trash-talking other girls, jumping on a guy's lap as soon as you leave him to go on stage, etc.



    Best thing you can do (if you're in a decent earning club) as the newbie being picked on, is ignore it. The girls mean nothing to you and they will eventually get tired of picking on you and move on to something or someone else. Also every new girl has to go through the initiation period while the other dancers scope her out. At some clubs it's worse than others. Obiously at the slow club it's worse. Stick to yourself and keep smiling. Ignore the bitches like they're not even there.

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    Just to help clarify it a little more "cock-blocking" is also called cut-throating is some areas. Some places it's no big deal but some places it's enough (if you do it all the time; and on purpose) to get you stuff tore up you run out of the club or beaten-up, you car messed with or you throat slit in the parking lot. (not that that happens frequently). but i hope that helps
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    I am new to dancing as well and I have had some rudeness and jealousy from other dancers. I know my dancing is not that good yet (I&#039;m working on it) and I am somewhat shy, and the shyness is just what this one dancer is trying to walk all over me. I knew this girl didn&#039;t like me from Day 1, while most of the othe dancers were nice. Now she is telling this other girl who I have become friends with that I am talking about her. It&#039;s ridiculous and I have heard that this girl has a drug problem and some other issues but she doesn&#039;t need to take it out on me! I am pretty much just going to look the other way, not make eye contact or talk to her or anything now though because I know that SHE is the one who has the problem, NOT me!

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