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    Default Geez, guys seem to really want a lot to part with $20

    I have been doing a lot of reading on hustle hut, SCJ, and various other parts of these websites. The ladies are trying to figure out how to make more sales, as am I.

    I have it figured out!! All the ladies have to do is:
    1. be stunningly beautiful- fake breasts are fine as long as it looks natural. Not too much make up, but some to enhance a lady's natural beauty. Light perfume, but not too much ect.
    2. Have a great body and be in good shape. Not too thin not too heavy. So this means spending a decent amount of time in the gym everyday, and watching the diet closely.
    3. Take care of hair, skin, nails etc. This will run her about $8000 a year, but that is what a girl has to do to make money right??
    4. Flattering, stylish and original costumes. Shoes that are flattering, but not too high or too low.
    5. A polished stage show demonstrating grace and althletic skill, as well as being sensous, and enticing. She should smile, despite not being able to earn a few dollars for her efforts. She should appear to be dancing just for herself and her own pleasure.
    6. When she appraoches the customer, she should be confident, but not arrogant. She should make him feel like she wants him without being too over the top. She should engage in light conversation, but never let him forget her deep sexuality, and that she is indeed worth $20 (and a tip if, and only if she can keep him feeling this way through the dance).
    7. She needs to be able to keep the guy coming back time and again, by staying in contact via phone, or email on a regular basis. Spending about 10-20 minutes per customer per day on this endevor alone. Then the customer might come back and spend another $20 on her in the future.

    And that pretty much is what the guys are asking for here on the forum. I know $20 is a lot of money. I have to fork that over, and a lot more to my gym, my personal trainer, my chiropractor, my accountant, the IRS, the club (in house fees), the DJ, The bouncers, The housemom, The valet, My tanning salon, my beautician, my nail tech, and what's left over I have left to live on.

    I would just like the guys who go to clubs to appreciate what we ladies go through to bring a good show to you.

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    Default Re:Geex, guys seem to really want a lot to part with $20

    Great post, ParisLove!

    I totally agree with you! So many guys seem to think that all of us are making $1000+ a night on a regular basis, and I've never had a $1000 night in 2 years of dancing. It really bugs me how some guys will want or expect our phone number, email address, etc. because they got one dance from us! Don't they realize that we are there to work?

    And you are right, we invest a lot of money and time in this business and I don't think a lot of customers realize that. Dancing involves tanning, getting our hair cut/colored/styled, getting our nails done, buying makeup, costumes, and shoes, and going to the gym(I used to belong to a gym, but 2 years ago I bought a $400 treadmill from Sears and it still works great. I've definitely gotten my money's worth out of it already! Now I just walk on my treadmill 4-5 times a week and lift weights 3 times a week. I save a lot of money by not belonging to a gym, and I like working out in the privacy of my own home too. ) All the little things that we have to pay for add up fast!

    Not only do we have to spend a lot of money to keep ourselves looking good, but it also takes up a lot of our time. Tanning and working out eat up 2 hours of my day!






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    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115463#msg115 463 date=1085864723
    Great post, ParisLove!

    privacy of my own home too. ) All the little things that we have to pay for add up fast!

    Not only do we have to spend a lot of money to keep ourselves looking good, but it also takes up a lot of our time. Tanning and working out eat up 2 hours of my day!
    Not that I didn't understand your point (most of us do know that looking good takes a big effort), but if it helps add any perspective...

    I don't tan, but working out eats up about 1.5hrs of my day ... it is not so much to look good, but to have the energy I need to be successful at my job (and because I enjoy life a hell of a lot more when I am in good shape). I don't spend as much as you do, but I do spend a reasonable amount on clothes for business, and books/materials outside of work to stay current in my field.

    As for the opinions of guys you are reading on this website and SCJ... I don't think most men are necessarily as conscience of what they want at an SC as what is being expressed here. And even what is being expressed here, there is not complete agreement. Every guy is a little different and every guy weighs things different (for some looks are more important, for others attitude, for others friendliness, etc.) It is just like real life, you can't be all things to all people. I would say take the opinions that you read here in a postive way. Ultimately none of us are perfect at our jobs, and all of us have to make improvements to ourselves to get ahead, but it does help to receive insights from others and try to incorporate them in our daily business.

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    Great post Paris!!

    Part of the reason that these men love us is because we DO take the effort to work out, get our nails done, etc.....its what their civilian women don't have......if all women invested the money that strippers do to look good.....our earnings would suffer!!

    And I've had some $1,000 nights, its a great feeling, but if you really create an algorhythm of how much of that cash stays in my pocket, ie Net Income, its probably $700 (with proportionate deductions for beauty expenses, etc.....)

    $700 a night is not too shabby LOL

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    Gees, when I read that, it just sounds unbelievable. If you want stunning beauties, look at a magazine with touched-up pics. We are real people. We can look great, but I have rarely seen a dancer look stunning. You guys want supermodels up there or what? Maybe if we made supermodel money we would be supermodels! Polished, excellent stage shows go for $10,000 a day, buds.

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    Default Re:Geez, guys seem to really want a lot to part with $20

    Actually alot of them expect most that out of a dancer just for a $1 stage tip. Others can't even be bothered with that, they expect it for free

    And the best part is they want all that + high mpg for a measly $20 and even then many can't even be bothered to do the min of follow the club rules

    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115463#msg115 463 date=1085864723
    And you are right, we invest a lot of money and time in this business and I don't think a lot of customers realize that.
    Oh no they realize it, it's just that most don't care

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    Default Re:Geez, guys seem to really want a lot to part with $20

    The flip side of Paris' comments ...

    How much strip club earnings potential does it really take to "break even" versus working at a straight job today ? If you figure in the time it takes for working out and tanning, all the non-deductible peripheral expenses like hair, nails, makeup, tanning, gym membership or buying your own equipment ... then you figure in all of the stage fees and tipouts ... then you figure in income taxes and self-employment taxes on what's left ... and then you figure in what you have to spend on health care etc. which would be covered if you had a "straight job" ... I really wonder where the "break even" point falls these days.

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    most of us 'civilian' chicas don't have the $100+ to spend every two weeks to get the hair and nails done...and some don't have the $30+ to spend a month on a gym membership...

    just thought i'd throw that in there...
    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Topaz link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115507#msg115 507 date=1085870524
    most of us 'civilian' chicas don't have the $100+ to spend every two weeks to get the hair and nails done...and some don't have the $30+ to spend a month on a gym membership...

    just thought i'd throw that in there...
    Sure you can. I've worked in the office before and paid for all of these things...

    You just need a better paying 'civilian' job or a way to supplement your income..........

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    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115457#msg115 457 date=1085863643
    I have been doing a lot of reading on hustle hut, SCJ, and various other parts of these websites. The ladies are trying to figure out how to make more sales, as am I.

    I have it figured out!! All the ladies have to do is:
    Actually, I would tend to disagree with some of the items on your list.

    1. be stunningly beautiful- fake breasts are fine as long as it looks natural.
    Implants and sunning looks are a huge myth of success as a dancer. I can't even begin to count how many dancers I know who are somewhat average looking (but pretty) that are A or B cups who make $1000 a night or more. Looks help, but they are far and away not a prerequisite for success in this business. In many clubs, you have tons and tons of "10"s, so being beautiful with implants doesn't set you apart from any other girl in the club. You are just one of many. In that situation, it's your ability to communicate, your ability to sell, the level of self-confidence you have, and your personality that will make you money.

    2. Have a great body and be in good shape. Not too thin not too heavy. So this means spending a decent amount of time in the gym everyday, and watching the diet closely.
    This will fluctuate depening on the person. Some people need to work out more to stay in shape and others don't. My personal trainer works with a lot of dancers and he tells me that he reccomends a lot of them work on cardio more than anything which is not only a great fat burner, but also helps endurance and conditioning. There are many great workouts that people can do to stay in shape that doesn't require a gym membership such as jogging, although belonging to a gym is always a good idea.

    5. A polished stage show demonstrating grace and althletic skill, as well as being sensous, and enticing.
    Depending on the stage performance, it may make a slight difference, but in most clubs it won't mean squat on your ability to make money. Many dancers think that by doing tons of pole tricks and such will generate more money for them when in reality, the only group of people who really admire great pole work are other dancers. Most customers think it's cool, but it doesn't have the impact that many dancers think it does. The smaller the club, the more important the stage work, but in large clubs, if you are dancing on stage, you are just wallpaper.

    She should smile, despite not being able to earn a few dollars for her efforts. She should appear to be dancing just for herself and her own pleasure.
    Agreed.

    6. When she appraoches the customer, she should be confident, but not arrogant. She should make him feel like she wants him without being too over the top. She should engage in light conversation, but never let him forget her deep sexuality, and that she is indeed worth $20 (and a tip if, and only if she can keep him feeling this way through the dance).
    Well put.

    7. She needs to be able to keep the guy coming back time and again, by staying in contact via phone, or email on a regular basis. Spending about 10-20 minutes per customer per day on this endevor alone. Then the customer might come back and spend another $20 on her in the future.
    10-20 minutes a day? I think that's a bit odd. Having a simple website or Yahoo profile showing where you are dancing etc. is a good idea or even a pager number with a recording is fine. Talking 20 minutes a day to each regular customer is, in my opinion, a bit silly. There are much better ways to keep repeat customers in to seeing you.

    One thing you did leave out in your list though is the ability to close a sale. If you want to make money in this business, or any sales related business, knowing how to close is the single most important factor to success. All the rest is just icing on the cake.

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    lol paris great post and katrine i agree with you 110% i work as a receptionist at a dentist office and i dont make amazing money but i have enough for that gym membership, tanning membership, and to keep up on my nails not to mention supply myself with many other things, its a matter of saving and financing watching what your spending on and saving to make payments, i think alot of normal females just dont want to deal with the hassle
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    it's kinda hard to save when you don't have enough to pay bills...and there's no money to save...but whatever...
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    I'm glad to see that you guys got a kick out of this post. DancerWealth- I meant this post to be tounge in cheek, and didn't think that any woman would go out and work like this 40 hours a week.

    My hubby made a good point after reading this post. Strip clubbing is a luxury. Like particpating in sports for a hobby. You don't see people hanging around the golf course without enough money to play, or just enough money to buy a round of golf, but not enough to invest in clubs etc.

    The other main difference in our business from other businesses is that if business is slow, management tends to hire more girls in hopes of generating more business. What other kind of business does this? I can't think of any.

    Our business is some what unique in this reguard. People come into strip clubs without any intention of spending money on strippers. DancerWealth will probably disagree with me on this, however Vegas is a different world. I have even had guys ask me for money so they could have another drink ??? Then I hear management say they are doing what it takes to get us more money, they are bringing on more girls. Now how exactly does this fix the problem of the club being slow? Maybe getting rid of their least desireable dancers might be a better move. The managment at the club that I just left (big showclub in Oregon) was letting girls that really were 3-4 on the scores scale, work the prime night shifts just to have more bodies to parade around. I feel that everyone should be a ble to work, but if a girl is missing teeth (or rotting teeth), way overweight, and not at all coiffed - why is she working at a so called "classy show club"?

    I guess I am just venting a bit. But if any club owners or customers are out there reading, please try to understand that we as dancers put a lot of effort forth to bring you a good show, 24/7 in some cases, and are shown contempt by our audience, by club management, and by society in general. Sometimes I go home thinking that if I worked in a bakery for the same number of hours I would have taken home twice as much money and a lot less emotional baggage.

    Don't get me wrong, I like my job and I am good at it. I really do try to impliment most of what I outlined above. But no human can act in that manner all day everyday- I bet even the blessed virgin got PMS from time to time.

    thanks for listening

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    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115816#msg115 816 date=1085963930
    The other main difference in our business from other businesses is that if business is slow, management tends to hire more girls in hopes of generating more business.
    Actually, that's their BS excuse for bringing on more dancers. The truth of the matter is it helps them hit their bottom line dollar figures at the end of the month at the expense of ALL dancers. DJ's, bouncers and other club staff are two thumbs-up to this idea as well since it means more heads x tip percent/minimum.


    Our business is some what unique in this reguard. People come into strip clubs without any intention of spending money on strippers. DancerWealth will probably disagree with me on this, however Vegas is a different world.
    Not just Vegas, but I'm sure many other cities as well... and it's getting worse.

    Other forms of night entertainment have been increasing cost to adjust to the economy (i.e. run like a real business), whereas stripclubs are usually owned/managed by individuals with the business savvy of really well trained monkeys.

    I'm absolutely floored to be in the city looking at entertainment options to sit and have a drink- and out of a list of five nightclubs and two stripclubs, the stripclubs are $5 to $10 cheaper to get in on a weekend night at normal cover. Add to the fact if you throw a cigarette at the homeless guy outside, they'll toss you a free pass or discount coupon card on top of that for the stripclubs.


    The managment at the club that I just left (big showclub in Oregon) was letting girls that really were 3-4 on the scores scale, work the prime night shifts just to have more bodies to parade around.
    Like above, it makes the club's cut significantly higher by most payout models to have 20 dancers on shift paying fees versus 15. If you create a fixed amount of dollars wandering into a club, more dancers almost always is going to yield more cash in the pocket of the club, and less cash in the pocket of the dancers.


    I feel that everyone should be a ble to work, but if a girl is missing teeth (or rotting teeth), way overweight, and not at all coiffed - why is she working at a so called "classy show club"?
    Likely because that classy show club has bouncers that can be tipped to look away, or more private room options.


    please try to understand that we as dancers put a lot of effort forth to bring you a good show, 24/7 in some cases, and are shown contempt by our audience, by club management, and by society in general.
    In ALL industries- the hardest, most personally rewarding, enduring and impactful work is always the most thankless. Just realize that for every public, overheard or verbal condemnation, there are a dozen silent cases of complete gratitude or admiration.

    When you go to a restaurant and have a perfectly prepared meal, perfectly cooked and seasoned and high quality- how often do you make it a point to comment to the chef? Yet chef's know the art of their trade and can have the same pride in their accomplishments without the public adoration. The only feedback they ever receive is negative... but for every negative, there are hundreds of satisfied and returning customers.

    Dancers are only one of many reverred professions that usually don't hear much of their praises, but surely get to experience the negative. This is what provides balance once you are able to identify and understand this. It surely doesn't go unnoticed, even though it may not necessarily always be expressed.

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    im sorry you feel that way topaz never been in that situation ive always made enough for bills plus and i dont have anything but a high school diploma
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    Quote Originally Posted by Topaz link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115808#msg115 808 date=1085961716
    it's kinda hard to save when you don't have enough to pay bills...and there's no money to save...but whatever...
    But obviously there is no problem saving up for the excuses....or whatever...don't blame the fact that we make bank for your problems Topaz, lots of people can't pay their bills and being a stripper is not a solution for poor decision making and planning....not trying to start a flame war, but whatever.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115895#msg115 895 date=1085984630
    Quote Originally Posted by Topaz link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115808#msg115 808 date=1085961716
    it's kinda hard to save when you don't have enough to pay bills...and there's no money to save...but whatever...
    But obviously there is no problem saving up for the excuses....or whatever...don't blame the fact that we make bank for your problems Topaz, lots of people can't pay their bills and being a stripper is not a solution for poor decision making and planning....not trying to start a flame war, but whatever.....
    It could also be due to being in a bad club. I know that my last week which I didn't even make enough to pay my weekly bills (not totally my fault - some of the responsibility lies with the club) was due to a poor choice in club. Whilst other dancers were making money in this club.... ultimately it wasn't the club for me.

    Hence I'm moving on to (hopefully) greener pastures where I can make "bank" ($800 min. each week - bare minimum).

    I know that it took me alot of guts to quit my old club and even this club... but it is something I have to do if I want to truely benefit from dancing.

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    some guys say £20 for a 3 minute lapdance is a lot, i tell them "im giving it away for £20 honey!"

    hehe!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115895#msg115 895 date=1085984630
    Quote Originally Posted by Topaz link=board=27;threadid=9652;start=msg115808#msg115 808 date=1085961716
    it's kinda hard to save when you don't have enough to pay bills...and there's no money to save...but whatever...
    But obviously there is no problem saving up for the excuses....or whatever...don't blame the fact that we make bank for your problems Topaz, lots of people can't pay their bills and being a stripper is not a solution for poor decision making and planning....not trying to start a flame war, but whatever.....
    in all the jobs ive had, ive always made enough to live on, but because i was never taught how to manage my money properly, i never had enough. i started stripping, thinking that id finally hav enough, but i still dont. i have enough to live on, but not to save up or invest... is it me, or is it the depression in the clubs?
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    Paris, you make some good points.

    To summarize them, basically we get out of this job what we put into it.

    I do believe that many women are just plain sloppy and nasty looking and that ALL women should work out and have a high maintenance look. Working out is key to being healthy and maybe less guys would go to clubs if they had wives that are as kept up as Dr. Phils. LOL.

    As Doc Catfish mentioned on another post, guys work hard for every $20 they get and in a club a dance can eat it up in 3-4 minutes. Most guys have a certain amount they can spend. We can say all we want that the guys are cheap or poor, but we are no better than they are. We're not rich either and most people aren't. As dancers we need to put ourselves in the guys shoes. $20 is a lot to us too, especially if we are spending it every 4 minutes.

    I feel too much emphasis is put on making $1000. For MOST of us, making $1000 a night is like buying a new Louis Vuitton purse, it doesn't happen that often.

    With more dancers than customers and the majority of the customers in the club being in their 20's many times, you can't take selling one dance or making your tip outs back for granted.

    If a guy has been approached by 30 girls and you are number 31, what are the odds of him wanting your services unless you are the one who caught his eye? Guys are pissed with being hounded for dances so much. Who can blame them.

    So the better we look and the better salespeople we are the better chance we have of selling a customer period. Nowadays, looking good and selling well are the difference in making any money at all. Many times going home with $100-$200 instead of nothing is attributed to looks and sales skills combined. The girls lacking that made nothing.

    If conditions are good, low dancer to customer ratio, and more older professional customers than young ones having good looks and selling skills could make you $500-$1000.

    The amount of money made is relative to the conditions you are in.

    I agree that good regulars should be talked to randomly. I don't feel they need to be talked to daily though. Maybe once a week.

    I have 2-3 guys like this and they are important. In one club I book monthly two guys always see me. They are worth $200 each the week I am booked at that club. They call maybe once or twice a week and one e-mails here and there and I always talk lightly with them.

    Whether you use e-mail or phone depends on the guy, but just keeping in touch is important.

    Yes 21st Century fox there is a depression in the clubs. That is why $1000 is not attainable that often.Clubs have lost about 40-50% of the target clientele, professional or highly skilled tradesmen aged 35-65, and these guys represent the largest spending segment of clubgoers. They have been replaced by twentysomething guys and girls who buy few if any dances. You won't make $1000 off of these young punks. Many times you won't make $100. How can you save money with this type of clientele?

    So again, looking the best we can and being the best salesperson is life and death to a dancer nowadays.

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    I had my first $1000 night here in Idaho on Cinco De Mayo. Its not common here. A good night here is considered anything over $500 a night.

    I have a part time job working 20 hours a week at 11 bucks an hour and I work at the club four nights per week. I work my part time job because of insurance-I need health insurance and its also a nice refreshing change to be able to work a few hours outside of the club and use my office skills.

    I think that the variables in regards to spending/saving will differ from location to location depending on the market area for the club and such.

    But, I do agree, you get what you put into it. I, personally work very hard to make sure that I look good when I am working. I am always watching what I eat, making sure I am getting enough rest, exercising, taking care of my skin and keeping up.

    When I first started in this business I was a poor broke college student and I still found ways to keep up -home remedies like egg white face masks and oatmeal face masks, and mayo for my hair and I jogged everywhere! Nails, I didn't bother with fake ones (still don't), I did a lot of pole work back then, and the one time I did try them, I broke one so badly that I nearly took off my real nail underneath. So I keep a clear coat of polish on them and groom my nails and keep my toe nails painted.

    One thing I have learned, and I think some of you will agree. This business is feast or famine and you must budget accordingly. So, if you have a $1000 night and you were only shooting for a $500 night, take that extra $500 you made and put it in your savings account. That way, the next time you have a bad night, you have money set aside. I do this religiously.

    I also never invest more than $100 a month into clothes. I buy from other dancers, I trade off with a few of the ones I'm friends with, and I shop around. Bikini's are my main expense, if I feel I absolutely have to have something new, I will buy a new color of g string and bikini top to wear underneath something I already have.

    In terms of my hair, this is really the only major expense I have. I will not skimp on a cheap haircut-I always have my hair done by someone who knows what they are doing.

    All in all, I have no regrets in how much I spend as long as I don't go overboard, and I always pay my bills first then use whatever is left over for savings, entertainment, clothes for my daughter and then last but not least, myself.


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    i really need to start sorting myself out. i average on £500 a week for 4 nights work (6 hours a night) and hav no savings to show for it. ok £100 of that goes back to the club in house fee (£20 a night) but still, i should be able to put at least £100 a week away!!!! i think i hav not been strict enough with myself.

    im going to stop having my nails done, thats for sure. i colour my hair at home by myself and hav it trimmed wen i think it needs it and i go to a cheap place cos the guy there is really good. i stay away from clothing stores cos i know i will end up spending £100 in one store!

    i want to go home to south africa for a month in february for my 26th but the flight is £500 and i will need another £500 for spending money...

    id also like to buy dj equipment again as i miss djing and it will all cost me £1300...

    i hate being so motivated to make £300 in a night and then i end up going home with just £130 or something...

    but i dont work out and i think the other sexy girl in my club makes all the money cos she spend 2hrs in the gym everyday and she looks amazing so i think i shld invest in a gym and maybe ill make more money cos ill feel better about myself too and that always helps
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    If a guy has trouble parting with 20 bucks for a clean dance then he can go to hell. Thats just rediculous, not unheard of though and extremely common these days to my absolute disgust.
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    Gynger, right on with the $100 for clothes! My "club expenses" is about $150 per month for clothes [if I want a new outfit or two] shoes, make-up, etc. I'm not religious about it [DancerWealth was $195, so April was a bit over the limit! ] but it really helps to think "no, no, not today, I'm going to wait until next month for that" especially when I see girls go over to ATM to buy a new outfit 3x a week...
    budget budget budget is the key to success - and budget yourself for your average income, not what you'd hope to be making.

    Oh, yeah, I made $200/week at my cashiering job working full time, and I mean on my feet all day. At least at this job, if I want to goof off I can goof off and it is no one's fault but my own if I make squat. Still, at my old job, I managed to save up for my school year's tuition and books. It can be done, if you're in the right situation.
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    Many guys who are good customers will exchange a phone number.

    They just want to talk. Of course they are divorced. Typically they are older guys.

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