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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    I am from Europe and once a year I go to USA. I love the nude dance clubs and love this kind of entertainment. These clubs are not allowed where I live.

    So I have seen a lot of clubs and I usually spent 1000$ in a week for lap dances. But I have stopped spending money on lap dances for two years. The reason is the behave of the girls. Each dancer asks for more money. Some dancer refused to do lap dances for the regular price and wanted me to pay her overcharged price. As a tourist I am not interested in discussing about the price. Today I met no dancer who accepted the regular club price. I prefer more than one dance but I don’t pay a fantasy price.

    I don’t understand that. In my favourite club the business became slow – a few years ago it was always crowded. It is a great pity because I love lap dances. At the moment I only sit at the stage and watch the show.

    Many girls react unfriendly when I say no and even some girls react unfriendly if I need a break after one dance. So that’s why I don’t want lapdances anymore. But I still love the show on stage.

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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    Not everyone's into it, but then i have to ask why he's even there...

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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    ^ he's there "to look at some pretty ladies take some clothes off and dance"

    these are the types of guys i come across most...
    -the guy who really can't afford lapdances, but wants to see naked chicks, but usually will tip.
    -guys who could afford it, but just aren't in the mood, but are polite and do tip, and may come back and buy dances if he enjoyed himself.
    -the guy who could easily afford it, and lots of it, but gets kicks out of leading you on, and rarely ever even tips, not even the best girls. this guy is usually late 30s/early 40s and relatively trim and attractive. at my club, guys who fit that description are 98% a huge waste of time. the 2% of the time he isn't, he will not settle for any "imperfect" girl, and usually won't give the "perfect" one much anyways.
    -the guy who probably could afford a few dances, but would rather just grope you and say "we'll dance in a little while"...as soon as he says this (he'll only say it if you ask him to dance first)(and if he is trying to grope you, polite guys may be sincere), walk away. he is not going to buy dances, and you have no reason to keep getting groped by him. he only tips girls who don't already know to avoid him.

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    I wouldn't totally write the guy off right away, though. I had one guy who came in day after day and never got one dance from any girl. I was just about the only dancer who would sit and talk with him (mind you, I only did this for a few minutes at a time since I was working the floor). But, I constantly kept going back, chatting with him (he was a great conversationalist) and see "how he was doing". By the last day that he was there (a tourist/conventioner) most of the girls just ignored him: Since I had stopped by and chatted and joked around with him for the majority of the night, he handed my $600 in cash. I was a bit taken aback (wasn't expecting it at all), but he told me it was because he just wanted to "get to know a dancer's personality" before he bought dances/handed out money. So...that was nice.

    Not many guys will do what this guy did...but, it DID make me look out for the guys that the girls were ignoring. Another guy was sitting in the back for over and hour when I went up to him. He said, "Since you are the first girl to approach me all night, you get all of my money." That was another $500. He wasn't dressed nice...but he was very interesting to talk with...

    The point is simply: Don't write off someone who isn't spending money. Don't spend all of your time with them...but make them feel as if you SEE them and enjoy talking with them...sometimes they'll surprise you.

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    For my own reasons I rarely get lap dances I prefer to be nice and like to have someone to sit wih and chat awhile and I do tip for their time usually the same price as a lapdance so on Tiger Lilys Scale I guess I am the polite guy.

    It is not that I cant afford it I have many friends in the industry and of course being on the boards you recognize the hustle but I prefer to have a drink or 2 and just intelligent conversation

    Also when I usually tip a lot of them misunderstand and stand up and start stripping they seem confused that someone wants to just sit quietly and talk and not even have them strip but still I will usually go through 500-1000 a night that I go to the clubs as I like to talk

    But I also know of many that go with just enough for the cover in their pocket and about 20 bucks in singles so everyone is different and that is what intrigues me I like to people watch and hear the dancers stories albiet probably 80% of them are false but I treat them all the same I am there for entertainment and as long as I am entertained I am happy.

    I actually met my last 2 SO while being a customer in the club

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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    Odd.

    I don't go to a strip club unless I want dances and am prepared to spend a bunch of money.

    Otherwise, it's like taking your car to the mechanic when you don't really want it fixed.

    But I'm sure I'm just weird that way.

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    I once was talking with a guy who was buying me drinks.. and we got on the subject and I decided it was time to ask for that dance... he pulled out a wad of cash and away we went.. half way thru the dance, he said,

    "we need to stop"
    So, I figured (oh hell.. here we go again) and he says before I can say anything:

    "this is too hard. I can't touch you and I want to pay you as I know this what you do, but this is my first dance and I know I am not going to get anything out of this other than a dance, so let's just stop and I will pay you for your time instead."

    So, to make a long story short.. some guys have it "figured out". He was a nice guy, paid me VERY well for the evening, I was able to do other dances for others, but he wanted my company and that was ok too.

    I guess some guys don't want a dance and that's ok, it doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the scenery- most of the ones I refer to will tip you.. its the ones who just come in and get the free look from the bar and do nothing that irritate me.


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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    @NikkiD: "Some guys are just cheap bastards."

    What does that mean? Is it expected to buy lapdances?
    Or is it not allowed to sit at stage without spending money on
    lapdances?

    I can afford dances for 50 $ if it has to be but I don't pay 25 $ if the girl is snooty or the girl only says two words "wanna dance?" or if she beg for a tip.

    Further I've learnt that the lapdance was never good when I asked the girl. So I'll never ask the girl anymore.

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    it's kinda weird for me, I don't know maybe you noticed this either but there's a kind of guys who just come to the club, drink, talk to their friends, the same regulars as he is, sometimes tip, but never ask for a dance. their main argument is "I have never did this, and don't want it". so is there any way to change his mind? because nothing works...
    A bar with attractive women waltzing around is a pleasant environment. For anyone who is inclined to disuade the presence of anyone who is not purchasing lap dances, I ask that you reconsider. There is no reason for them to "stay home." I have seen a few dancers have the attitude that we should not be going into the club unless we have the funds and are ready to buy dances.
    1 - I don't think anyone who lurk at the bar without buying anything at all.
    2 - However, the bar (being blunt...sorry) does not exist solely for you.
    3 - What this all boils down to is if someone is paying the club to be there (entrance fee...drinks...food...whatever) then why is it necessary for him to buy a dance?

    Maybe he just wants to be able to drink in a bar with attractive half-naked women walking around.

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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    Alot of times these guys will find some sucker to sit with them for 3 hours and not pay them a dime for their time. Other times, these guys will offer to pay for your time, but if not... run don't walk. They are a waste of time and are usually broke and only want to stare. If they sit alone long enough they might get the hint.

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    An important possibility that seems to be being overlooked is that some of these gentlemen might be cops/detectives from 80's tv cop/detective shows.

    As some of you may recall, 80's tv cops/detectives were required to spend a good deal of time in strip clubs discussing the details of their case.

    The only interaction with dancers that they permitted themselves was the occasional polite greeting. A lap dance would have been completely out of the question.

    So, please ladies, leave these gentlemen to their important work.
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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    Well i can only speak for myself the resone i dont get dances is because by the time the dancers says do you want i have already busted a nut hahahahahahaha <------ that was a joke.

    I think that if a guy goes to a club he should at least get a dance and i feel that thier should be a one dance minumum becuase most girls dont make a lot of money on stage so i always get at least one dance from a few of the girls when i visit.
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    I am sick of the bird guys........ CHEAP CHEAP CHEAP.... have your wife do a dance for you, it&#039;ll be free

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    LMAO @ Silverback

    Is that could it be Starsky over there in the VIP O shit Huggy Bear just walked in......

    Sorry couldnt resist

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    I am always amused by the assumption that people who do not buy lap dances are "cheap".

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    Well,it&#039;s like this:a guy walks into a car dealership to see in person what he is interested in,but he&#039;s not ready to buy yet.Moral of this statement:some people like to just window shop.You gotta respect that.
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    I think you should respect it...because at some point he is going to spend his money to buy the car. If you make him feel that he is welcome back, then he&#039;ll come back with his money. If not, he will go somewhere else. And he&#039;ll tell his friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StripperTips link=board=27;threadid=9749;start=msg136825#msg136 825 date=1089715484
    I think you should respect it...because at some point he is going to spend his money to buy the car. If you make him feel that he is welcome back, then he&#039;ll come back with his money. If not, he will go somewhere else. And he&#039;ll tell his friends.
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    Default Re:why do some guys not want lapdances?

    Hey now....

    Gotta window shop...



    I so love hot chicks.

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    Madcap,

    dont we all? lol

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    Here is my 2 cents! Since I am from NJ, things are different here. We have the most clubs per square mile in the country. With that, we do not have that many of the so called "show" clubs. They are more of the neighborhood variety. Some are classier than others but they are neighborhood nonetheless. With that, you get certain regulars that go to the bar 6-7 days in a week. They drink like there is no tomorrow every day. They hang out play pool tip the dancers. To them it is like going to a regular bar. It doesn&#039;t phase them that there are dancers or not. They have more money than most, they are not married (most of them anyhow) and they do not get dances. They just cannot be bothered. And you know, who said YOU HAVE to buy dances??? When I go to the store, do I HAVE to buy anything? NO I DO NOT. As for myself, I do not go anywhere 6-7 days a week! But I do go to one club, 2-3 times a week, depending if there is anything else to do. Sometimes I get dances, sometimes I don&#039;t. It all depends on what mood I am in, or what the lineup is. If it is a shitty lineup, why the hell should I buy a dance from someone that does NOTHING for me? Sometimes I actually hang with those regulars and watch a game. In fact the owner sits with us! Why? Because we keep the bar afloat by buying drinks and food and whatever. Think about it everyone, dances are NOT a requirement for the customers!!!! Thank you for your time.

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    Some guys look for the perfect girl to get a dance from and if the club is lacking a perfect looking girl according to their type they won&#039;t get a dance from anybody else.

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    Drinking at strip clubs I get to see hot women comparing to drinking at regular bars which are mostly dudes trying to hook up with a few okay looking chicks.

    Since I don&#039;t want one night stands nor bar fights, drinking at strip clubs is a better choice for me. Also strip clubs serves really good food even after 11pm. I do get lapdances if the it happends to be full moon otherwise I chill and chat with my friend.

    It might feel like I am getting free shows by only drinking and eating but in reality my money is going to the strip club which needs the money to keep the lights on and turn the a/c up so dancers can have a place to work.......most of all, the wait staff who works just as hard for tips and also had to deal with touchy grabby drunks on a bad day.


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    Pei Mei,what nationality are you?
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    What Pei Mei has said has been one of my points for a long time....at least 2 weeks. Maybe even 3. He just put it much better than I do. People are not always being cheap...they&#039;re sitting, drinking, and enjoying themselves. When that happens, we tell our friends. Then our friends come in....and they, too, are potential customers. The only time this should be an issue is if we are taking up space and other paying customers cannot get into your club. If that happens, I can see room for gripe.
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