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    I don't know why I just came up with an odd question but it seems fun to see what you all have to say. What do you wish you knew back when you were younger. I am only 20 so I was just curious =)

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    How to find "Mrs. Right". It took me 30 years to figure that out.

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    That life was going to get really tough at times, and to just hang in there and realize Im not the only one that goes through tough times--I wish I knew when I was younger that life wasnt easy-- I wasnt shown so many key things for my survival when I was growing up--but once again Im sure Im not the only one who wasnt shown things as a child that would be helpful inmy older years--some things we just have to learn on our own I guess

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    Oops, answered wrong... lol

    I wish, that at that age, I would have known how to weed out the "fake" friends and stay close to the ones who were real all along.

    Also wish I would have been more open about my feelings and told my grandfather how much I loved him before he passed away. (I know he knew, but to have said it all the time would have been so much nicer and given me a form of assurance that he DID know)
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    I wish I knew that after high school, no one gives a shit how popular you were in high school!






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    My father was sick for a very long time and died just before I stepped my foot into this scary world. . I guess what I'm saying is I wished he warned me about some men. Sigh...had to learn it the hard way.

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    Oh God, there just isn't enough space to describe all the things I wish I would've known at 20 that I know now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117366#msg1173 66 date=1086277215

    Also wish I would have been more open about my feelings and told my grandfather how much I loved him before he passed away. (I know he knew, but to have said it all the time would have been so much nicer and given me a form of assurance that he DID know)
    :'(
    Lexi, I feel the same way. My grandpa just died in January and I struggle with those feelings every day. It was only at his funeral that I realized just how awesome of a person he was and just how much of his personality lives on in me (especially the stubborn side!).
    I'm only 22 and there's already so much I wish I would've known just a few years ago... how much gossip can hurt, some friends aren't worth trusting, and to really think things through before you take a risk.

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    I wish that I would have known just how tuff the world is.

    I wish I would have shown my mom how much I loved and admired her. (She passed 2-1-99)

    I wish I would have known just how much work really goes into a marriage.

    I wish I had been able to grow up in one place. (Dad was in the military).

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    oh girl!!!! so many things but mainly:

    I wish I had been more independent and had not stayed w/ my 1st boyfriend from the time I was 17 until 22. bleh. hate him now and feel like I wasted a lot of time and didn't explore my options. I'm happy w/ a great b/f now, but wish I had more self confidence and had "played the field more during those ages." LOL.

    Also, this is a biggie: I wish I wouldn't have accrued soooo much credit card debt. it holds me down now and all for what? a room full of clothes and stuff??!! not worth it. bottom line, my advice to you is watch your spending. you'll thank yourself later!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117366#msg1173 66 date=1086277215
    I wish, that at that age, I would have known how to weed out the "fake" friends and stay close to the ones who were real all along.
    I'm with Lexi...That's one thing I wished I had known how to do.

    The one thing that has been bothering me the most lately is I wish I'd known I could TRY to follow through with my dreams that others said were unrealistic...Instead I gave up. Now, I am about to turn 30 and looking back, those dreams don't seem too unrealistic after all...
    Like the car, I'm exotic, erotic, and expensive....

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    Quote Originally Posted by SexyJess link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117429#msg1174 29 date=1086286062

    Lexi, I feel the same way. My grandpa just died in January and I struggle with those feelings every day. It was only at his funeral that I realized just how awesome of a person he was and just how much of his personality lives on in me (especially the stubborn side!).
    I'm only 22 and there's already so much I wish I would've known just a few years ago... how much gossip can hurt, some friends aren't worth trusting, and to really think things through before you take a risk.
    I know the feeling... I know that you will feel a lot of this (since your gradnpa just died) but time heals... it wont make it go away, but you will be able to handle it better. I have always had a soft spot for grandpas...they are the best and they are sometimes better than fathers. When I was little, I used to wish that he would walk me down the aisle one day (instead of my dad) but now thats not possible...
    Ahhh gettin emotional here... lol

    Im glad though, that we all learn so much in short amounts of time. Yeah we can repeatedly make mistakes, but eventually we learn. I know I have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giselle666 link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117449#msg1174 49 date=1086287621
    oh girl!!!! so many things but mainly:

    I wish I had been more independent and had not stayed w/ my 1st boyfriend from the time I was 17 until 22. bleh. hate him now and feel like I wasted a lot of time and didn't explore my options. I'm happy w/ a great b/f now, but wish I had more self confidence and had "played the field more during those ages." LOL.

    Also, this is a biggie: I wish I wouldn't have accrued soooo much credit card debt. it holds me down now and all for what? a room full of clothes and stuff??!! not worth it. bottom line, my advice to you is watch your spending. you'll thank yourself later!

    G.
    WOW! You totally just described me to a T! I was with my bf from 17 till 23 (even lived together)!
    And the credit card thing...same thing. When I was 18 I maxed all of my cards out before Christmas. lol I did eventually pay it off and my credit is great again, but still..wish I hadnt done that.

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    I'm only 19 and already I'm regretting the fact that I distanced myself from my family. I'm trying to work my way back in, but saying I Love You to my mom is still hard.



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    if had known how to avoid men like my father when i entered my teens...instead of falling head over heels for them...i wouldn't have had so much heartache then...or so much bitterness now...

    i also wish i had known how to capitalize on my assets and abilities...some of the problems i'm having now probably wouldn't exsist...i've spent so much time being the 'good girl'...didn't get me very far...
    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

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    When I was six years old, my first grade teacher told my whole class, "Making mistakes is not bad, as long as you don't make the same mistake over and over." I am happier when I look at wrong turns in life as learning experiences...
    I too stayed with one boyfriend from age 18 to 21. He was rotten. I am glad I got that out of the way then, though, because now when I date I am genuinely happy when a guy treats me right. I don't take it for granted. And I always let them know how much I appreciate how good they are to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117452#msg1174 52 date=1086287867
    Quote Originally Posted by SexyJess link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117429#msg1174 29 date=1086286062

    Lexi, I feel the same way. My grandpa just died in January and I struggle with those feelings every day. It was only at his funeral that I realized just how awesome of a person he was and just how much of his personality lives on in me (especially the stubborn side!).
    I'm only 22 and there's already so much I wish I would've known just a few years ago... how much gossip can hurt, some friends aren't worth trusting, and to really think things through before you take a risk.
    I know the feeling... I know that you will feel a lot of this (since your gradnpa just died) but time heals... it wont make it go away, but you will be able to handle it better. I have always had a soft spot for grandpas...they are the best and they are sometimes better than fathers. When I was little, I used to wish that he would walk me down the aisle one day (instead of my dad) but now thats not possible...
    Ahhh gettin emotional here... lol

    Im glad though, that we all learn so much in short amounts of time. Yeah we can repeatedly make mistakes, but eventually we learn. I know I have.
    omg..talk about getting emotional. I'm just getting home from the hospital, where my grandfather has been these past 2 weeks. I've been there every day, since i've been back home from school, staying from morning until evening. I dont want to get into all the details of his condition, but it is SO incredibly hard to just sit there and watch my grandfather deteriorate (mentally and physically). But at the same time, i cant seem to leave his side. *sigh*

    heh..i dont want to go off on a tangent...so i'll stop. but i do agree, you dont know what you've got til its gone. I wish I knew how precious time is with the ones you love...and also how short that time can be...


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    1. play more and worry less
    2. less use of credit cards
    3. tell people how you feel more easily
    4. learn to play poker better!
    5. get better at indoor gardening. some things get harder as u get older

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    My number one thing I wish I knew a long time ago:

    Life is too short to care what other people think, and don't change for the sake of others.. be yourself.


    Many more come to mind, but I guess if I could go back in time as someone else and give myself some advice it would be what I just said and also to tell myself that enjoy being young, don't try to grow up too fast because before you know it, time will have passed you by.

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    I wish I had more motivation and ambition, knowing it would pay off later. I did excellent in school, and always had lots of extracurricular activities going on, but I really wish I cared enough to excel at dance. I was always talented in ballet, jazz, and modern, but just didn't care. I could have been a professional western-style dancer. At least I do dance professionally( stripping and bellydance) but its not quite the same and the stripping is not respect as an art......

    I would have also not taken so much shit from the girls I thought were my friends at the time and been strong enough to be independant...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gynger link=board=1;threadid=9787;start=msg117674#msg1176 74 date=1086317452

    Life is too short to care what other people think, and don't change for the sake of others.. be yourself.
    Thats a great one. I've been living by that "mantra" forever now. Thank God I have balls to say that I dont give a damn about what anyone else thinks of me! I'm glad I like the skin I'm in and like myself.

    One thing I wish I knew was to enjoy being a kid! I tell my friend Lindsey (17) all the time to not try to grow up too fast. She will get it eventually. Life was so much easier when my biggest fear was having monsters in my closet! I miss being 10 haha. I miss the days without having to pay rent, auto insurrance, worrying about gas prices going up, ect.
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    I wish I had known that the world is full of BS, and that life is too short to take, or add to it. That my opinions, though not embraced by the masses, are mine and therefore right for ME. That it's okay to dig in your heels, clench your teeth and not give in on something important to you. No matter what people think. I wish I had known that the people who are always remembered are very rarely liked.
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    OK, I haven't read all the responses thus far (tipsy - sorry, small attention span!!) but here's my list:

    1. nobody is perfect
    2. even though I'm imperfect, I'm still lovable
    3. even though others are imperfect, I still need to love them BECAUSE of their imperfections, not IN SPITE OF them.
    4. addictions are tough!! always remain aware.
    5. you will feel old before you think you will.
    6. i've always known that black is the "perfect little outfit" for any occasion - took me a few years to figure out that I can wear that black with my own style and it will still be perfect.

    there's more, but as I said, short attention span when I'm tipsy.

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    I wish that as a teen I hadnt always thought everything in life was so dramatic and deppressing. I wish I had known then how hard things could be when you are doing everything on your own..I wish I had just taken time to enjoy the freedom of no bills and actually paid attention in school.
    I also wish I would not have cut my damn hair so that it would be long by now and not at some weird inbetween stage ( I know that that is shallow but I was just thinking how much I hate my damn hair)
    I also wish I had taken the time to tell those I have lost that I loved them.
    I wish when I first started dancing I had saved money and maybe invested instead of wasting 3 years away. Thank goodness I started young so I can make up for lost time.
    I wish I had screwed up my damn credit....
    the list is endless ....but thats off the top of my head.



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    Have to agree with everyone who wished they'd taken more time to have fun when they were younger. Once I got to college I was so focused on school and trying to finish as fast as I could so I could be a "grown-up" with a real job. I finished my BA in 3 1/2 years and worked 40 hour weeks for just over minimum wage at a hotel from my last final until graduation, then jumped at the first "real" job offer I got. That was almost 10 years ago to the day.

    Not that I'm unhappy with where I am today (independent, living abroad), but there's a part of me that says I should've spent more time with friends, been more involved in my community, and not been so hung up on growing up, cuz at 32 I sometimes try to do things I had the chance to do at 22, and find it would've been much more fun 10 years ago

    Also agree with the CC debt thing. Plans are that by the end of next year I should have all of my college loans and credit cards paid off. It was the result of a "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality during the '90s when everyone bought stuff as if they were rich, even if they weren't. Took me til my debts were over $40K before I got my head on straight.
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