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    Default When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    . . .what do you do?

    I met an English professor at work on Memorial Day. He had just the kind of face I like. His eyes were open and caring. He really listened. Our conversation was going along fabulously. I actually liked him and felt comfortable around him. It was a strange situation. As dancers, we are trained to separate emotion from our interactions to maintain professionalism. It was harder this time. He asked for two dances and they were very akward because of all the vibes I was catching. He understood his position as a customer. As soon as the dances were over, he tipped me extra and left. I wish I would have at least given him my email address.

    I was troubled that I found a person that attractive and danced for him and took his cash. I'll probably never see him again.

    What happens when you feel sparks with customers? Should I have just asked for his #? I'm confused.
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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    I used to work at a non alcohol club so the customers were pretty young..... not to mention HOTT!!!!! Even though I found many guys there physically attractive, I only caught "sparks" for one. He used to come in to see me a lot, and it became more and more awkward every time I saw him.
    I would never ever date a customer!!!! But that's just me. I did feel embarassed for liking this guy...but it was infatuation and nothing more. What it came right down to was I was someone else at work and my real life is completely opposite so what could there have ever been between us. The two of you may have been catching vibes, but the reality of it is you know absolutely nothing about eachother..... and there's a good chance he was also pretending to be someone else..... just be thankful you didn't give him your number and then find out later he was a deranged stalker.

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    At the very least you should have told him to come back in to see you and given him a day you know you'll be working. And then added that you weren't looking for more dances or money, just wanted to see him again. The dancers I've met have always said something like that the first time I met them. Then later on email or numbers are exchanged.

    "I was troubled that I found a person that attractive and danced for him and took his cash."

    I don't see any reason to be troubled at all. You both had a good time, who cares about the money.




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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    I've had this happen. I wanted them. I never saw them again.

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    I agree with DF. Business and pleasure rarely (and shouldn't, as a general rule) mix, but it is pleasant when pleasure temporarily intrudes on your work. If you're attached currently, then don't feel guilty. It's not where you get your appetite that is important, but that you eat at home. No pun intended. If you are single, then you need merely decide if you want him for business or pleasure, and then detach him from the other. A simple, "Actually, I don't much care to do business with you, but I would love to invite you out to lunch. Perhaps then we can get to know each other under more real circumstances?" should easily place him in the private pleasure catagory. "It's so lovely to see you; not often are we blessed to have a customer who we genuinely enjoy, and I hope you realize how nice it is that I've found one," would let him know that this is strictly business.

    For the record, this happens even to the best-behaved girls. In my case, not once, not twice, but three times. I married one and the other two were kept strictly business (until, of course, I was in the privacy of the dressing room and free to squeal and sigh to my heart's content).
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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    The other day I met the most attractive half-brazilian half-french musician who was in the club. He was kinda shy and seemed a bit out of place. I noticed he was pretty much just sitting with his other more rowdy friends. However when I was onstage he came and tipped me a $20. After I was finished with my set I went over and thanked him. He was so nice, open, attractive, and very sweet. I left to go to the bathroom and by the time I got back (I ran into a regular for about 20 minutes) he was gone.

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    I have felt attraction at times to certain customers but it usually doesnt go very far. I have a boyfriend and i love him. I just try to keep my impure thoughts out of the club when i see a hot guy. It is hard sometimes though! (no pun intended!) LOL
    Few people understand the psychology of dealing with a highway traffic cop. Your normal speeder will panic and immediately pull over to the side. This is wrong. It arouses contempt in the cop-heart. Make the bastard chase you. He will follow. Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    I think this is going to sound more brutal than I mean it.

    I've told more than one guy with a extra loud thump in his heart from a visit to a club, "Don't get wrapped up in it. Accept it for what it is. Of course, it's possible to get a romance. Anything is possible. But just accept it for what it is."

    Sauce for the goose, sauce for the gander.

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    well I agree and disagree. I met my hubby in a club after all, gave him a dance and everything. I had never been out with a customer before.
    I would take it slow and definitely separate customer from love interest as soon as possible.
    Either way, it will work out!

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    Quote Originally Posted by Juliette_deSade link=board=27;threadid=9799;start=msg117578#msg117 578 date=1086307047
    . . .what do you do?


    What happens when you feel sparks with customers? Should I have just asked for his #? I'm confused.
    We sell the drug called fantasy.
    Drug dealers dont sample their own stuff.
    The feelings you had are the same feelings you want every person that you entertain to feel,only you did it so well,you got some one you.
    Enjoy the moment,shake it off,press on!

    Many will try to disagree with this statement.

    Relationships born in a club wont last outside of it,and for a very short time inside it.
    That includes relationships between customers and staff of the club.

    Im guessing less then 10% work past 3-5 years.
    Focus on your set goals.Keep your worlds seperate.

    I will add this though,the very very few relationships i have seen that do work,They really friggin work.

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=27;threadid=9799;start=msg117589#msg117 589 date=1086309269
    I've had this happen. I wanted them. I never saw them again.
    Thus is the ball life tosses us sometimes.

    I live by the 90%-10% Rule. 90 percent of all humanity are some form of asshole. Being an asshole knows no race, creed, color, sexual proclivity, gender etc. They abound everywhere.

    When you find someone who is in that 10 percent who arent an asshole (which is a criteria determined by you and you alone), you try tooth and nail to keep them part of your life in some way. It doesnt matter if they are black, white hispanic, gay, straight, younger than you, older than you etc. In my life, those people within the 10 percent are few and far between.

    I would say to Juliette that if someone is within that 10 percent, it only matters if they are a customer if you have a strict personal policy not to mix business and pleasure. That works for some, not for others - you again determine that. However, customers by the nature of the game arent usually fully who they are when you meet them - just like dancers are not. You would need interact multiple times with your English Professor to determine if he shows enough of his true character to be worthy of the 10 percent (using my analogy). If you never seem him again, just remember that one visit does not a man make.

    Hey you are lucky - he could have been a smartass long haired History Professor

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    Default Re:When a customer is truly attractive. . .

    See this is why I rarely go to a club as a customer. Being as hot as I am I have the ladies dropping like flys at my feet and they all want me.
    Lol actually when the spark is there, it's there not much you can do about it except 1)admit it and do something about it or 2) ignore it and hope it goes away.Don't beat yourself up for taking the guys money, it is after all your job. Maybe the proffesser will be back and y'all can talk and whatnot, if he doesnt come back in well you have what most of us guys have after seeing "the one" who makes our heart beat faster and our palms sweat... A good ole fashioned fantasy.

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