This is an excellent thread and I for one have enjoyed reading the thoughtful responses. In my previous post I asked the ladies to provide some first hand examples of Sugar Daddy sans sex experiences. They responded with several from their own life experience. I still believe that guys like those described are as rare as hens teeth but apparently my "one in a zillion" statement was a bit of an exaggeration.
Doc raised an interesting point regarding a Sugar Daddy versus a High Roller. Too me, a High Roller spends tons of money at the club on tips, drinks and dances. Some spread it around amongst lots of dancers while others concentrate their spending on one or perhaps two dancers. There may be a little outside the club contact (emails, cell phone calls to confirm schedules etc) but essentially their relationship is defined by the club boundaries and their activities are limited by them. Sugar Daddies, on the other hand, are much more deeply involved in the lives of their Sugar Babies. Yes, if the lady happens to be a stripper, there will likely be club interaction but on a different level than what is typical of customer/dancer relationships. Chances are when he comes in, it will be just to see her. Maybe they will do some dances and maybe they wont...most likely they wont. She will sit with him the entire time he is there, talking, having some drinks etc. Other dancers will scratch their heads wondering why this otherwise hard hustling dancer will sit with some guy for hours and not do a single dance! If you watch carefully while youre at the club you will likely see examples of this.
Is this healthy behavior or a slippery slope for both parties? Hell, I dont know. Right now, Im in a quasi-Sugar Daddy relationship with a dancer who has been my favorite since the first of the year...Miss D to those few of you who may have read my posts on the Blue Site. I say quasi because the level of money spent, while significant, has not reach astronomical proportions. We see each other once or twice a week, inside and outside the club depending on circumstances. Sometimes money changes hands, sometimes it doesnt, again depending on what is occuring at the time. Im very comfortable and delighted with how our relationship has evolved as is she. The reasons are plentiful.
First and foremost, we respect each others boundaries. We communicate often but at the same time carefully with due regard for what might be going on in our personal lives. No late night panicky phone calls from her to me or psycho phone calls from me to her.
Physical connection is awesome but being on the same level intellectually is icing on the cake. I own a very successful business. Not bad for a hillbilly from KY LOL She is working on her PHD (not stripper shit...for real). We can interact at a very nice level. I tease her that she acts old (read mature) for her age and I act young for mine. I think weve met somewhere in the middle. And that is a nice place to be.
Lastly, money is not an issue. I dont keep track but if it turns out I wind up spending $20 or 30K on her this year its not that big a thing. Its not my life savings nor do I think it will constitute hers. If we stopped seeing each other tomorrow life would go on for both of us.
Arriving at this point took some work for both of us. I know that there is a small part of me that is introspective...flinching a bit at paying for what is mutually enjoyable. On the other hand though, there aint no free lunch as one of the other posters mentioned. I act freely and totally understand what I am doing. She would be stupid to turn down the benefits of those actions.
A final comment. A couple of you guys are trying to lay a huge guilt trip on the dancers for having customers that spend loads of money on them. To those of you who know me this may seem out of character but I think the ladies would be stupid not to take the money. Why in the world should they have to go through the mental and emotional exercise of wondering if the guy can afford to spend the money? Short of him coming to the club with his barefoot, pregnant wife and five dirty faced kids in tow, I dont think strippers should have to make those kinds of calls. Its business pure and simple. I give her a purchase order she provides services.
Have a nice evening.
FBR



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(damn, now i gotta push those devil horns back in!)

Looks like we will never hear thoughts of why those with the most $ spend it. 

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