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    Do all of you who are married wear wedding ring to work?
    I have heard that some man may be attracted, because of that (not sure though).
    I’m just not sure if I want to wear it, just because I don’t want to loose it.
    On another side it is like a little protection, no? people may thing that I’m going home to someone, instead of being alone ( even if I’m far away from home).


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    no way! It will kill yourmoney! We are selling the fantasy of singleness. Though girls on the other hand seem to gravitate towards men with wedding rings, guys don't. I never wear my ring to work!

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    I never wear my wedding rings or my good watch. I'm afraid I'll lose them.

    For the most part, my customers know that I'm married and it has never affected my money. However, if I get the sense that I'm sitting with a guy who has issues with married dancers, I will say I'm single. (This has happened maybe three times in twelve years.)
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    At Thee Dollhouse we had a rule. All girls were single with no kids because Onyxxx is right, were selling a fantasy.
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    I have known a few entertainers who wear their ring.
    This only seems to work on the Older more mature looking entertainers when it comes to money,it seems to hurt the younger ones.
    I have also seen many entertainers who (just cant live without the ring)have it on one of their piercings.
    Most of the time it was a dangle belly combo thingy that looked tasteful.
    I also knew a entertainer who used her "other ring".You could see it thru her Tbar,or at least the outline.
    At first I thought it looked kinda retarded,but it sure started a helluva lotta conversations for her on stage that transferred to the lapdance room.She would flick "click"it with her fingernail and guys would go nuts!They lined up at the VIP room for lapdances.

    The "ring"question always sucks.There is always some guy on the other side,holding the other ring.Even if he says he agrees with not wearing it,it still kinda hurts.Its a very emotionaly charged subject between entertainers and their spouses.

    Its a shared decision.Both must be ok with the decision.


    good luck.


    P.S.wearing the zsa zsa gabor elbow gloves doesnt work btw,its very expensive,and you can still see it anyways,and after the first night they look like crap,even the black ones.I have seen this solution tried and failed many times.Save your money.

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    I also never wore my wedding rings at work. Most of the men want to think that you are single and advailiable even if you are not. Wearing a ring seems to messed up their fantasy.

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    I'd recommend you not wear your ring, although I never check for such things. One of my favorite dancers is married. It doesn't seem to bother either of us. She's actually become a reasonably good friend within the limits of what a married woman with a 2-year-old can be.

    The interesting thing I have noticed though is the "subtle" way some dancers seem to check for various things. I've felt hands moving surreptitiously to my left ring finger, clearly looking for a wedding ring. I'm not sure why. Another checked for the extra wrist band for the "VIP" room that I wasn't wearing. She led me there anyway. Another, after a few barely perceptible, but perceptible, explorations of various pockets asked in near horror, "where's your wallet?" I had it. I swear.
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    I don't think I'll wear mine because I think it might screw with my pole work and I'd be afraid of losing it if I kept it in my locker, but I know I'm gonna look down at my hand five million times a day and feel naked without it (or have a coronary thinking it fell off or something). I like the idea of the piercings though. I think it's too heavy for my hood ring, but I really like the idea of putting it on my navel ring!

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    Nah, I never did.


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    NO WAY!I ALWAYS leave mine at home.That's something your hubby gave you when you both agreed to take this life journey together.It's TOO sacred to wear at the club.
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    I am engaged and I don't wear my ring to work. I don't want to worry about losing it, and I agree that we sell a fantasy of singleness. I do say I'm single when men ask, but I might stop because I'm SO sick of "give me your number then." Yes, this 22 year old college senior would LOVE to date your 55 year old semi-retired self...*SIGH*. I've finally started saying, "I don't date men who to to strip clubs." lol, it gets a laugh. Ultimately it's up to you though. A few of the dancers at my club wear their rings and do fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=27;threadid=9874;start=msg118910#msg118 910 date=1086594776
    NO WAY!I ALWAYS leave mine at home.That's something your hubby gave you when you both agreed to take this life journey together.It's TOO sacred to wear at the club.
    thats funny i feel it's to sacred to take off, which i never have since he put it on my finger.

    almost 100% of guys never notice it! i do however turn the diamond of the engagement ring pointing down so it isnt so noticable. i've only been asked about my ring 3 times in 3 years.
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    From a guy and client - we don't look. We don't really care...but unless we have gotten to know you, it is true that we do not want to hear about your boyfriend, husband, or children. The ring doesn't matter, but I would personally leave it at home out of fear for losing it. If I was a dancer, that is. Or female. I'm not either one.

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    how in the world would you lose a wedding/engagment ring if it fits? i've had the engagemt ring on for 4 years and the wedding ring on for three. never once was i worried about losing it.
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    I'm in the minority, I used to take mine off but one day my fingers had swelled and it wouldn"t budge so I had no choice but to leave it on. I've been wearing it for about a year and it hasn't made a difference in my money. Some guys notice it and some don't. The ones who have noticed it usually don't seem to mind, the ones who do are usually young kids, the ones who think they're going to date a dancer. In my experience, the older gentlemen, usualy the ones with money to spend, don't mind at all.

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    I have always worn an engaement ring on my ring finger even before I was engaged and I have always been a top girl werever I worked.If guys asked I would feel them out if hey were wierdos I didnt really think I would ever dance for again I would say I was engaged, if it was a rwgular or someone I thought it would hinder my money with I would just say I use to be engaged still wear the ring or if they didnt notice and I though it might hurt I did what velvet does turn it around ad noone noticed.It is close to 3 carats and noone noticed, so a wedding ring you should be fine.Also one of the biggest money makers I ever workedwith wore her wedding and her engement ring always and it was huge like 5 carat total andshe had huge handes and I would hear the guys ask and she would say yes Iam married and it never hurt her money.Also philly dj I worked at thee doll house for years and wore my ring, many other girls did too.

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    I take the wedding band off but keep the engagement ring on. If anyone asks (and they have) I tell them that the ring was a Christmas gift from a regular and that he would be disappoint4ed if he came in and I wasn't wearing it, so I always wear it just in case.
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    Quote Originally Posted by michele link=board=27;threadid=9874;start=msg119070#msg119 070 date=1086630258
    It is close to 3 carats
    if you say solitaire I swear I will blow a gasket.

    but to answer the question, I don't think you should wear your wedding ring to work. But I wouldn't remove it unless you're leaving it at home.


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    it effects my moola alot.. i get thes why are you dancing when your married bs.. so i leave it at home

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    No saphire I wish. The center stone is a round and its almost 2 carats.I was at an antique shop once and the manager this funny gay guy goes,you need to buy up the store, you and yuor 6 carat ring.I was like I wish.I have really skinny fingers so it looks bigger, like a size 4.And I have upgraded so its not the original.I worked with a girl in chicago who wore her 5 carat to work and it didnt hurt her money.5 carats makes me sick,I want one.

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    uh, yeah. Me too.


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    Quote Originally Posted by michele link=board=27;threadid=9874;start=msg119214#msg119 214 date=1086649555
    I worked with a girl in chicago who wore her 5 carat to work and it didnt hurt her money.5 carats makes me sick,I want one.
    Hahaha I want it to no kidding!

    Anyway thanks guys for all your posts. I have decided not to wear it, as I have my engagement and weeding sailed up to getter, (so wear just one of them may not work for me).
    Ps: Just a little recommendation for this that has many little diamantes around, make sure you let them tighten up once a while as I had already loose one of my little ones, because they loosen up slowly.


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    I just got engaged, and I've been switching the ring to my right hand at work. Like I was telling one of the doorguys, "I know it really doesn't fool anyone, but if they want to talk themselves into thinking I'm available, they can." I'm scared to take it off and leave it at home until I get some good renter's insurance.

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    Doesn't Dancers Wealth teach you to leave the ring on to make more money? I think I saw someone post that here.

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    Would not affect me one way or the other. The good thing about Married Dancers is that you can get an indication that she does not hate men. Man Hating Dancers to me are a big thorn.

    Personally, I like the Single Mother types. Because you can get an idea that the money she makes will be used for her children.

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