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    I love reading how to overcome objections!!! This place is soo cool....I am slowly building my self to go back. I think no matter where you are ther IS potential you just have to par take in it. I wish when I was foolish and dumb when I was 18 I knew how to do this game.
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    Since i Live and work in Las Vegas... I collected the Telephone numbers to the local nevada Brothels I printed them onto regular paper and cut them out they ask for "extras" i give em an extra, piece of paper that is. then i get up and say "have fun".

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    tell them to go see a prostitute, I'm here to get you excited and you go to them to finish ya off, my last club had a massage parlour up top, it was a separate business but owned by the same guy, we had strict rules downstairs, it really did make things easier for us for some reason.
    Okay - male pig perspective here - Prostitutes are easy...you know you've got one in the bag. No hunt....no thrill. Strippers, however, are not as easily attainable...although as we all know, there are some who are willing. We say - rock on, and we hope to get one. Now, that's a generalization. I have never tried, but the offer has been there a couple of times. Was it exciting? Hell yes. It some very twisted fashion, it's almost a compliment....albeit a backhanded one. MOST men are not saying "I think you are a whore because you are a stripper." (Note: I said most.... not all. Some most certainly have indeed said that to you.) What these men are saying is they are on the prowl and they hope that you will lean that way...just for them....because they are different.
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    If you are willing to waste the time. Say "Then McDonalds is pointless because they do not serve filet mignon."
    I agree with Emily and others, move on ASAP.

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    Kelly-in what state do they allow a massage parlor above a strip club. Thats even over the top by SF standards. I've seen them advertised before.

    And yes dances really are only about starting the motor, you shouldn't compromise yourself. Just use some of the already mentioned tips to keep him interested to get as much money as possible and then cut him loose and move on..

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    grrg, I was just complaining about this today, because that was basically the opinion of my ex and it always makes me grumpy. He called me "a prostitute who doesn't work" once, to imply that was worse than a prostitute for not "finishing the job" so to speak!
    Anyway, I haven't really found a good way to counter this, the other day I had two customers, one was like "I'm just not gonna spend $20 if I can't touch breasts."
    Another: "The only time being able to see naked women in of itself was exciting was when I was 16 and wasn't allowed, now there's no fucking point, it's a waste of money."

    My response both times was just "sorry you feel that way" and walked off, but does make me feel like snot.
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    Here's an approach that works REALLY good. A dancer I know here in Vegas taught me this one that she does quite frequently. When a guy is persistent about extras just stand up, look him right in the eye, and VERY LOUDLY (so everyone in the area hears) say, "I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE NOR ARE ANY OTHER DANCERS HERE AND NO I WILL NOT GO TO THE VIP ROOM AND HAVE SEX WITH YOU FOR ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY. I'M GOING TO GET A BOUNCER." and just walk away. This does a lot of things. First of all, it humilliates the guy, but not in a way that is really bad. You just called him publicly on his crap. It also puts other dancers around you on notice that you, personally, don't put up with it and that maybe they need to cut it out.

    She was actually yelled at by another dancer one night in the locker room for doing this because the other girl did do extras and had no problem with doing so. She was pissed because she was about to give a BJ to a customer for money and he backed down from the deal. That night, the "extras" girl was fired by the club btw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancerWealth link=board=9;threadid=9912;start=msg150766#msg1507 66 date=1091816638
    Here's an approach that works REALLY good. A dancer I know here in Vegas taught me this one that she does quite frequently. When a guy is persistent about extras just stand up, look him right in the eye, and VERY LOUDLY (so everyone in the area hears) say, "I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE NOR ARE ANY OTHER DANCERS HERE AND NO I WILL NOT GO TO THE VIP ROOM AND HAVE SEX WITH YOU FOR ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY. I'M GOING TO GET A BOUNCER." and just walk away. This does a lot of things. First of all, it humilliates the guy, but not in a way that is really bad. You just called him publicly on his crap. It also puts other dancers around you on notice that you, personally, don't put up with it and that maybe they need to cut it out.

    She was actually yelled at by another dancer one night in the locker room for doing this because the other girl did do extras and had no problem with doing so. She was pissed because she was about to give a BJ to a customer for money and he backed down from the deal. That night, the "extras" girl was fired by the club btw.
    Beautiful...love it!

    Yeah, I've done a variation on the above myself and it tends to work.

    I don't waste time with the guys who say they won't spend X amount of money if they can't do whatever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat View Post
    You can do it San Francisco ROB style..

    Tell him you'll definately fuck him.. Once in the VIP, take his money and immediately walk out telling him, "There. You're fucked. Enjoy the veal."

    If he bitches to management, he'll get some free passes.. big whoop.
    I LOVE IT HAHA!!!! I so wanna use that line!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by DancerWealth View Post
    Here's an approach that works REALLY good. A dancer I know here in Vegas taught me this one that she does quite frequently. When a guy is persistent about extras just stand up, look him right in the eye, and VERY LOUDLY (so everyone in the area hears) say, "I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE NOR ARE ANY OTHER DANCERS HERE AND NO I WILL NOT GO TO THE VIP ROOM AND HAVE SEX WITH YOU FOR ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY. I'M GOING TO GET A BOUNCER." and just walk away. This does a lot of things. First of all, it humilliates the guy, but not in a way that is really bad. You just called him publicly on his crap. It also puts other dancers around you on notice that you, personally, don't put up with it and that maybe they need to cut it out.

    She was actually yelled at by another dancer one night in the locker room for doing this because the other girl did do extras and had no problem with doing so. She was pissed because she was about to give a BJ to a customer for money and he backed down from the deal. That night, the "extras" girl was fired by the club btw.

    I like that line i will use it!!!lol Dum bitches......
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    More and more guys are like this now it seems.

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    I suggest Craigslist and laugh at them and walk away. I probably shouldn't because that's probably some stupid offense like pandering or something.

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    Since this thread is alive again...
    How do you handle the guy who's not looking for sex but more of a 'I dont want to get all turned on and go home to my hand'.
    I say you can still play alittle and have fun/ enjoy yourself while youre here.
    Rarely works.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSexKitten View Post
    I suggest Craigslist and laugh at them and walk away. I probably shouldn't because that's probably some stupid offense like pandering or something.
    That's what scares me. I've been saying, "Sorry, I follow club rules" and walk away. I don't want to antagonize him through an insult and cut off possible stage tips that night or ruin the possibility of turning him into a decent customer (which is unlikely, admittedly, but still).

    I've been baffled by the guys who feel compelled to tell me why LDs are a waste of time or worthless after I've asked. I don't need a theory of how it sucks to get worked up without any "outlet" available.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle MB View Post
    Since this thread is alive again...
    How do you handle the guy who's not looking for sex but more of a 'I dont want to get all turned on and go home to my hand'.
    I say you can still play alittle and have fun/ enjoy yourself while youre here.
    Rarely works.
    I've tried, "They're worthless? Really? Maybe you want to try them out one more time?" It didn't work lol. I have a feeling these guys have just helpfully identified themselves as no money, but part of me can't accept that. I'll check in with them later, lean over and say, "How's your night going?" If I don't get any vibe, I'm already standing and keep walking; otherwise, what the hell, I'll ask again.
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    If I KNOW they are big spenders, (and I have the patience) Ill say something like "Oh honey, I could never do anything like that with a stranger."
    Half the time they say "lets go get to know each other better then" and ask for a dance.
    Which I can stretch to a few dances.
    Then when i know I wont get any more money that night, without delivering 'the goods' Ill say "Baby, next time you come to see me, we can have some REAL fun" and wink.

    Usually, however, I just say "excuse me?" and walk off lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by CrescentLuna View Post
    "I'm just not gonna spend $20 if I can't touch breasts."
    "oh...wow. $20 must be a lot of money to you. For most men, that's nothing."

    Surprisingly, going for the ego often gets me a couple of dances b/c their pride is butt-hurt and they don't want to be thought of as poor.

    and to those asking for extras:

    "oh, wow, you don't have anyone to fuck you for free?"

    or I just start laughing hysterically and act like I think they're joking. "oh that's a good one! You're so funny. Can you believe some people actually do beg for BJ's in the club? I can't imagine being so pathetic, can you?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque;1487820
    or I just start laughing hysterically and act like I think they're joking. "oh that's a good one! You're so funny. Can you [I
    believe[/I] some people actually do beg for BJ's in the club? I can't imagine being so pathetic, can you?"

    ^^haha! I love this one. I don't know what reaction a guy would give me. I'd be too scared he'd cry or something!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tRoUbLeMaKeR View Post
    ^^haha! I love this one. I don't know what reaction a guy would give me. I'd be too scared he'd cry or something!
    mostly they just blush and stammer a lot. Half the time they turn down a dance, but half the time they try to play it off like they *were* joking and buy a few dances.

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    In the past, I've always said "believe me... I'm worth it," or something to that effect.

    I just had an idea... untried, just brainstorming hustles to keep sane, heh... Compare yourself to a really rich chocolate cheesecake*. Get talking about how some desserts are just air, never really satisfying, but with others, it takes just a little to make you truly feel happy... and that if you ate too much of one of those, it would be a waste of something truly special...

    It might be a worthwhile little lead-up, since food smells are purportedly big turn-ons.
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    i think people like going to parties and clubs and looking like douchebags.

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    Pre dance I sort of lead them on I guess. "what's a private dance like?" "ohh, it's so much more intimate *smile*" (I do majority of dance hustling from stage)

    During the dance it's just "sorry, I don't do that" usually pretty politely unless they're begging. Usually this means they only buy one dance. oh well.

    If they're more blunt, I tend to roll my eyes and tell them to find a brothel and walk away. And proceed to tell the other girls about him. I like the idea of public humiliation lol.

    Be careful what you say though. I got annoyed with someone begging me to go back with him and that he would pay me and all that and asked "all right, so what were you thinking of, anyway?" Later I was scoffing about it to the house mom/management/fellow stripper and apparently that can get you into trouble if it turns out they're a cop, even if you were obviously joking around and had no intention of following through.

    Overall, these guys are a big fat waste of time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    what do you do when custmer tells you that lap dances are pointless becuse they can't fuck you?
    I have always assumed that this is a guy with no money who enjoys being as annoying as possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bambiblue View Post
    I always say..."oh I'm sorry, you must have taken a wrong turn .....this is a strip club not a whore house."
    I say this and direct them to the Wildhorse Saloon (20 minutes away) Then I get the - I dont want a whore line...

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    I've been struggling with this very much lately because the club I've been at (for 2 weeks now) is FULL of extra's girls. I mean crotch rubbing against a guy's mouth and nose while ON stage, fingering in the couch dance area, etc, ....type of extra's, not just a little grinding. When just a couple girls are doing that level of extras, then the other girls can get around it. But when 60-70% of the girls are that way...then the other 30-40% (me) suffer. I'm not in a position to change clubs because of racism in my area if you've read my other posts, you know what I've been through. So I have to make it work where I'm at.

    Obviously...I get asked about "what I do" all the time. I tell them:
    1) God gave you 2 hands...go out to your car and put them to good use (while smiling). They usually laugh at the quick comeback and get a dance anyway, or tip me well while they're in the club.
    2) Sorry, hun, I'm not that kind of girl...and walk away. They'll usually give good stage tips for being nice about it or call me back to the table for "negotiation" which leads to a dance on my terms or good tips.
    3) Or when I'm feeling really cross I say "Sorry I'm not that kind of girl...but she is!"..and point to one of the girls who do it. (that's a dirty tactic, I know and I happily accept the risk). The girl may be not that pretty or have a bad body or lack zest and so the guy can decide if he wants the extras with her, or a sensual dance w/out all that with me. I've won some customers and lost others with this. In addition, some girls get wind and get mad at me (and I don't care) to which I say "Why are you worried about it...I sent you $$ and it's true...right?" It's gets some of them thinking about how much they're doing for $20 and others just despise me for it. So...don't use this one unless you're ready to take the risk.

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