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    I just don't understand my roommate at all. Every where I go, she tells everbody that I strip. She tells her friends, family, & the worst... strangers!!! It's just always dripping out of her mouth ~ it's usually out of her mouth within the first 5 minutes of a conversation. If we go out together & I start talking to somebody - she'll be like "Oh, guess what she goes!?" Or if I'm paying for something in singles "Where do you get all those ones!?" It's starting to pinch my last nerve!



    She just always hints to whoever's in ear shot of what I do. I've not once been able to take her out without someone new learning of my occupation choice. It's starting to actually RUIN my meeting of new friends & guys.

    I just wish she'd zip her lips. :lipsrsealed: I need to find a way without bursting on her...

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    Well maybe she is just jealous that you can do the job and she does not, or maybe she is jealous, when she see that you can take care of you self ( can she do that? ) or is that the money envy? Anyway you should probably talk to her nicely and tell her, that you feel uncomfortable when she talks about your personnel stuff and if that does not help, then I thing that friends like that are not worthy because you can not trust them.

    Ps: that’s my opinion though.

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    Ps; try not to burst on her, because then it may be even wurst.

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    Does she think that strippers are the only people in the world to have alot of ones? I was a bartender for awhile and had tons of them! She's just jealous.


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    Just sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her straight out that she doesn't need to advertise to everyone and that it makes you uncomfortable when she announces it all the time. Keep your composure and hopefully she'll understand.

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    OMG I had a friend like this once. It used to drive me crazy. We'd be at a party or something, and meeting all kinds of new people, and she'd be like, "yah, we're in school, and I waitress part-time at TGIFriday's, but Kali, she's a stripper!!" and then look at me and back again to whoever we were talking to with these big "oh-my-goodness-what-a-scandal" eyes.

    Eventually I talked with her while we were just having a casual lunch together, and I was told her in effect that there is more to me than just shock value, and that although I don't mind people knowing what I do for a living, I'd prefer if they get to know me a little better first. Also tried to clue her into how FUCKING ANNOYING it is to be at a party and have random guys be like, "oohh, why don't you give us a little example!!" When I pointed out how irritated she could get at drunk guys just hitting on her at the bars, she finally kinda got it.

    It took a little while and some reminders, but she finally toned it down.

    Good luck!
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    It may not be jeoulousy at all. Rather it could just be admiration. My suspicious is that she think what you do is pretty cool, so she likes to tell everyone because it's a neat topic of conversation. What she may not realize is that every time she does, it hurts your feelings. You don't need to give her grief over this though. By doing so it may really hurt her, especially if she's doing what she's doing out of love. My advice is you just sit her down and let her know nicely that you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't let the world know about this topic every time conversation is struck. Although there is nothing to be ashamed about working in this industry, there are those who unfortunately look down on dancers as lesser human beings and you have to be selective to a certain degree as to who knows this. I know many dancers who don't care at all about letting everyone know they dance, and there are those who consider it a private part of their lives. I think you need to explain this to her in a nice way, over lunch or Starbucks or something. Done in a nice and polite way, she'll appreciate it much more and probably will stop doing what she's been doing out of respect for your friendship.

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    My ex friend used to do this all the time. I felt like punching her face everytime. And the worst part, is that she is a dancer now too. She is "soooooooooooo" proud to be a stripper that even when shopping at VS, she will mention it.
    Ugh.

    Now before anyone gets their panties in a bunch, I dont mind what I do, but I sure as shit dont want it broadcasted all over the place, especially to snotty bitches who sell me undergarments.

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    I think it's admiration, too. She senses your goddessness. It takes a special woman to do what we do.

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    probably a combination of admiration and envy...in that she wishes she could do it too.

    she probably thinks you're some amazing badass, and she thinks that by telling people about you, your awesomeness will rub off on her.

    but it does seem annoying as fuck. tell her about it. say that you don't want it to get to the wrong people (like pervos who might attack you), so she needs to stop telling anyone at all if she values your safety. if she continues, you should get a new roommate...and tell them you're a bartender.

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    This is a pet peeve of mine too. I have more then once had conversations that go: "Misty, this is so-and-so, So-and-so, this is Misty" "Wait, you're the stripper right?" "Yes, it seems my reputation precedes me."

    While it can be frustrating sometimes, I've learned just to shrug it off. I've yet to had anything bad come of it. I kinda chalk it up to the fact that a lot of my friends are male, and they seem to think that me being a dancer is the greatest thing they've ever heard of. Most of my female friends are a little more discrete about it but ask me a lot more questions about it in private. Some have even admitted hidden desires to try it. I think your friends attitude is, as others have said, a mixture of admiration and envy, and she probably also brings it up because its a novelty. It does make easy conversation fodder. I highly doubt that she even realizes that it bugs you. Talk with her in private about how it makes you feel. Once she realizes your side of it, she'll probably tone it down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Misty link=board=27;threadid=9963;start=msg120839#msg120 839 date=1086948926
    I kinda chalk it up to the fact that a lot of my friends are male, and they seem to think that me being a dancer is the greatest thing they've ever heard of.
    Shaaaaaaaaaaaah....it's like dating the prom queen. "Hey GUYS! I know a STRIPPER!"
    "You lucky bastard!"

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    This is where you start singing the "I like my job, how about you" song
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