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    THREE times in a matter of about three months me and a fellow dancer (who almost always gives me a ride home at closing), have been followed.

    And it's always really obvious. It's 2am or 4am, no cars on the road and these headlights right in the rear view mirror. We notice right away, so go on a long, winding drive all through the area, avoiding where we are actually going, to see for sure if we are being followed.

    We lost one car by driving around and around, another time a car would NOT stop following us so we pulled into 24 hour Walgreens and went inside. We did some shopping, waited for a while and then it finally left. They probably figured we might be calling the cops.

    One time, it was earlier when we left and there was too much traffic to notice, but when we pulled into my driveway, these two guys pulled in right behind us and before we even got out of the car, these guys came up to the car and started to talk to us, asking if we wanted to "hang out" with them. They had obviously followed us from the club--I only live a mile away from it. We backed out quick and drove away. Went somewhere else that night since they'd seen where I lived.

    What the hell are people like this thinking? It can't be that uncommon if it's happened that many times in such a short period of time. And they aren't being shy about the fact they're following! Do guys really think that by following us to our destination that we will really want to hang out with the freaks? These guys literally sit in the parking lot and wait for girls to leave and follow us. Pathetic! And scary!
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    OH DAMN...that is scary...

    Next time you see it...call the cops and have them meet you at your house...or an arranged place....try and get the plate #

    Be careful...there are lots of crazies out there

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    Quote Originally Posted by AinNY link=board=27;threadid=10001;start=msg120561#msg12 0561 date=1086891026
    OH DAMN...that is scary...

    Next time you see it...call the cops and have them meet you at your house...or an arranged place....try and get the plate #

    Be careful...there are lots of crazies out there

    Exactly!!! Make sure you always get the plate number, and make it obvious to them that that is what your doing. Also, drive to the nearest metro division.
    Absolute freakin Morons, or even worse.......psychos!
    Its good that you are always aware of your surroundings.

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    It's a good idea to know where some police stations are as well. When one of these freaks follows you drive to a police station instead of driving round and round.

    They stop dead in there tracks and drive away- when they take off try to get their tag number and type and color of the car .

    Stalkers are looking for victims not women who take charge of their safety.

    Hope that helps. Stay safe out there !

    PS- here's an article on what to do if you are followed:

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    If you live 1 mile from the club,thats part of your problem.For now,until you can find something further away,use it to your advantage.
    If your being followed,return to the club.You should never be the last one out at night so there should always be bouncers still there ready to eat this guys lunch.
    If you house is to the left,always leave to the right,then turn around when your sure nobody is following.
    Stop at a well lit gas station or store near the club,make sure your not followed,then head home.Be aware of your surroundings and who is in them.
    This happens alot im afraid,you will always have to be on your guard.Smart ones can get your address from the internet just by your plates on the car.
    Own a gun,own a dog to you warn you when you might need to use it.Above all,just be careful.

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    The only thing I worry about is that cops aren't going to be sympathetic to women out after 2am, ESPECIALLY if they find out the woman is a stripper.

    How do we protect ourselves from cops who could give a shit about us then? Do we shoot them with our guns? Obviously not.....more solutions!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tigerlilly link=board=27;threadid=10001;start=msg120571#msg12 0571 date=1086895637

    ....Stalkers are looking for victims not women who take charge of their safety.

    PS- here's an article on what to do if you are followed:
    http://www.roadandtravel.com/safetya..._followed.html
    I have been followed a few times in my dancing career, so I know the feelings of vulnerability that you guys are talking about. This is a bit unorthodox, but then again I get crazy when I feel that my life and safety is threatened: last time I got followed/stalked, I did the exact same thing back to the perpetrator. Sure, there could be legal and health risks, but f**k it. The cops ARE biased if you're a stripper and why not make life "out of order" for the psycho and turn the tables on him/her. As Henry David Thoreau once said, "When the dog is chasing you, turn around and whistle for it."
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    Does your club's management not clear the parking lot before you guys leave? They should. At my club we are not allowed outside the dressing room until every car has been out of the parking lot for a certain amount of time. I guess it would be a problem if you were leaving before closing though

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    I usually take the bus (hobo stripper!), which is a good thing because I have to walk a ways from the club to catch it, so people don't know where I'm going or follow me.
    In Italy I had a father and son team follow my cab home from the club one night and start trying to romance me (together!)- it was one of the freakiest things ever. I literally slammed the courtyard door in their faces, and had them kicked out when they showed up at the club the next night. I wish I had handled it differently, but thankfully they didn't show up again.

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    Be careful! I was followed home one time and robbed of my night's earnings at gunpoint.

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    Yup, I'm with Candy Apple on this one, bouncers should make sure the premises are clear before allowing the dancers to leave. I suggest you ask a bouncer to accompany you then tip him so he can take a cab back to the club.



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    Sapphire- I am actually in S. CA, but it didn't happen here.

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    Wow, that is very scary. But that's happen to me TOO many times, I can't stand it. I actually had one man sit outside of my house for two days straight....I called the cops and I haven't seen his ass since.



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    Wow...this is scary! I wonder what goes on in men's heads. "Maybe if I follow her home, she'll hang out with me." Uh...no.
    I live 75 miles from the club. I don't keep my hometown a secret, as it makes for an interesting conversation, but I ALWAYS say that I stay with a friend who lives close by on nights that I dance (I only stay with her on Fridays, but they don't need to know that). When I'm driving home (on a dark, deserted highway, lol) I keep a careful eye on my rearview mirror. Half the time I go through a Taco Bell drive thru or something for a soda, just to be safe. I also take a different route to my neighborhood if I even THINK I might be getting followed, haha, I'm really paranoid.
    Candy Apple, I hope it doesn't happen to you again. Be careful!

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    Totally freaky! Yeah what the hell goes thru these guys heads? What wack-jobs!! Anyways I have been followed before. It really doesnt scare me... Im one of those "I dont take shit from no one" type of girls haha. Its retarded. Every night after leaving I stop at the gas station which is a 1/2 mile away from the club, Its basically a pitstop for most of the dancers when they leave so they can get gas, cigs, etc. The guys at the gas station are really friendly and know that I work at the bar so if I did get into a situation theyd be able to help. Another thing is that there is usually a cop standing at that station looking for speeding and drunk drivers so it usually scares and psychos off. I have to take alot of back roads to get home but I know where the police stations are so if I see someone follow me I just pull in. Just like AinNY said... GET THE PLATE # (if you can). Our club doesnt do what CandyApples club does (which is a really good idea) but I always have the bouncer take me to my car. He wont let me leave until there is no one else hanging around in the parking lot. If your bouncer isnt as friendly give him a few bucks and Im sure he'll take care of you. Even the DJ has kept me safe. Be aware of what is going on around you. STAY SAFE!!!

    One more thing... as soon as you get into your car lock your doors and always keep your cell charged and with you - should be a no brainer.
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    About every three nights I work I get a ride from our door guy or the manager (males). Of course I've never been followed those times. Hence, I don't believe I am being stalked specifically, it is just guys who hang out in the parking lot at closing time and wait for one (or more) girls to leave alone.

    This happens a lot where I work. Maybe it's just a Houston thing. It didn't happen too much in Vegas (most patrons were tourists, not in their own cars, and not schooled well enough in Vegas geography to be driving randomly around the city.) A lot of crazy shit goes down in the clubs in Houston so maybe guys think that they will take the chance that girls will ACTUALLY think it's cool that guys thought it would be cool to follow girls to their post-work destination.

    And of course cops would never take us seriously, ESPECIALLY if they know job description. No point in calling even with a plate #. Must have proof of injury or threat to well-being to even make a complaint.
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    I've been going to one of the local SCs frequently enough that I'm beginning to have an idea of which dancers are in the club just from the cars in the parking lot. One who is very secretive about her first name has a personalized license plate that you don't forget once you see it. Another couple drive twin corvettes (they usually dress alike, too.), etc. I was talking to one of the dancers who told me that she has an older car now, but plans to by a Mercedes. She plans to keep the older car just for driving to work. I've always called that "urban camoflage". You know, not doing or having things that get you noticed. I know that it wouldn't take any real effort to find out the who or where of any of the dancers in the club, but I think it's a lot like the idea of putting a club on a car steering wheel. If one is a little hard, they move on to the next one. So, for all the makeup, glitter, and big shoes, great! But, blend into the population as you exit the club. The dancers that I've seen before they are, as one put it, stripified, can blend pretty well.

    Much like parking in well lighted areas, not walking alone, etc help everybody, I would reccommend not driving ostentatious cars. And, I would certainly avoid personalized plates.

    Be careful. Take care of yourselves. I think you know that most of your customers aren't dangerous. But some might be, even to those who have the "i don't take shit from anybody" attitude. Precaution works better than confrontation.
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    A friend of mine who has a gun company is going to give me some 50,000 volt stun wands to sell on consignment...

    If anyone is interested in getting one, or has some feedback on their effectiveness, let me know!!

    I think he is going to give me 3 to start, and they will be $40-50

    The drawback with the stun wand is that you have to be very close to the attacker, but unlike pepper spray, it WILL incapacitate them for sure..

    It also has a nice design and a little velour drawstring holder...reminds me of a vibrator, ha!

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    Katrine wote:
    The drawback with the stun wand is that you have to be very close to the attacker, but unlike pepper spray, it WILL incapacitate them for sure.
    Katrine, you didn't listen! ???

    And then Katrine wrote:

    It also has a nice design and a little velour drawstring holder...reminds me of a vibrator, ha!
    Try not to confuse the two.!
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by SexyJess link=board=27;threadid=10001;start=msg120792#msg12 0792 date=1086939596
    Wow...this is scary! I wonder what goes on in men's heads. "Maybe if I follow her home, she'll hang out with me." Uh...no.
    Actually, that's probably not it. If a guy is going through the bother of following someone home to that detail, there is probably something more on his mind. In our seminars, I actually bring in a good friend of mine to speak for a few minutes on personal safety. He's an advanced training officer for the police here in Vegas and teaches self-defense training courses. I'm really fortunate to have such an awesome person speak about this topic in the class. Many of the things he teaches though are not techniques or fighting methods, rather they are ways that women can get out of situations from stalkers, rapists, attackers, or muggers. He teaches how to walk out to your car safer, how to drive home, how to deter an attacker, you name it. It's pretty freaky stuff what he teaches because there is so much to learn about how psycho guys can actually be.

    One of the first thing he says is what I'll pass on to you...that what I'm about to tell you isn't meant so scare you, rather to just open your eyes a little more to the world around you. Did you know that the majority of women are raped by groups of three men or more? One of the things he asks the class is "how many of you feel a need to have some sort of personal defense training?" and about 1/2 the class with raise their hand. Then he asks, "how many of you have a psycho ex-boyfriend or husband?", "How many of you have ever been followed, or felt that you have been followed home from your club?", and most importantly, "most of you are escorted out to your car by a bouncer, but how many of you are escorted IN to the club from your car at night when you are showing up for work?" These are important things to think about. One thing he always told me is that the difference between an psycho a**hole customer and a rapist is about three beers. Again, just food for thought.

    If anyone wants info on his class if you live in the Vegas area (or even if you don't live around here for that matter) just PM me. I just thought I'd throw that out if anyone was interested.

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    A few simple things you can do to reduce your risk of being stalked/followed...

    - make it a point to use different routes on consecutive nights, especially within a few blocks of leaving the club
    - make a mental note of all businesses along your routes which are open 24 hours, so that you can head for one if you ever find you are being followed.
    - carry a cell phone ... even if you don't dial 911 any stalker who sees you with a cell phone at your ear will probably not take the chance

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    Melonie's comments remind me of the value of deception.
    Know where you are and the safe places. If it is someone other than a total whack-job, just driving through the parking lot at the police station will intimidate the vast majority of stalkers. Know where security cameras are.
    Holding a pack of cigarettes to you ear looks like a cell phone call at 50 yards.
    Knowing the busy intersections/complicated traffic lights can lose a casusal tail.
    Always make sure you have at least a quarter tank of gas.
    Do not look like an easy target!

    Ps Be aware that with Kat's stun gun that some states and cities consider those firearms and require licenses.

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    Carrying a handgun or stun gun can create just as much risk as it is meant to quell. You may be forced into a situation where you have to use the gun on an attacker to prevent him from taking it away and using it on you ! This will land you in court, and you may have a hard time proving self-defense if there are no witnesses, the attacker turns out to be a fine upstanding citizen in regard to criminal record, and the jury is of course told that you are a "stripper", which every housewife knows from Hollywood means a lying thieving drug addicted whore.

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    My SO drives me to and from work almost every night. On the nights that he does not drive me, the valet brings the car to the front door, then bouncers walk me to the car...and as soon as I am in the car, I call my SO and let him know that I am in the car and on my way home. Since it's usually some ungodly hour, it only takes me about 35 minutes to drive home.

    I was followed home one time when I was bartending...I called the police and told them that this person was a drunk driver...and a road rager...said that he was making all kinds of obscene gestures and that he was now following me...and that I feared for my life. They may not take "I think I'm being followed" too seriously, but they sure do act on "drunk driving road rager". The guy was pulled over from right behind me on the expressway. LOL...wish I could have seen that whole thing. I don't know what ever happened to him...and I don't care. Gave me enough time to get home and out of his path. He never did show up at the bar again.

    As for the stun gun/hand gun thing...I would never use it. The person would have to be WAY too close to me...and men can be very strong (no matter how well I do pole tricks). I wouldn't want to chance it either way. For me, the best defense is a strong offense (and making sure that you are AWARE at all times).

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    Whoa, that guy must've had quite an impression being detained



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