I've heard different opinions on this. A few people have said you shouldn't ask a customer if he wants to tip you after you dance and others have said you should.. What do you do?
I've heard different opinions on this. A few people have said you shouldn't ask a customer if he wants to tip you after you dance and others have said you should.. What do you do?
hmm. this is a hard question. Usually if a guy WANTS to tip, he will.
Some women disagree, and make good money off asking for tips after a dance??
i just think if he is paying 20 plus for three minutes, i shouldn't be too pushy, especially if he might become a regular.



Some guys never go out to strip clubs so they dont know thats its the polite thing to do to tip a dancer after the lap dance. Even if its $5 its still a way of saying "thank you". I never ask for tips... not even after the lap dance - thats just being rude. There are some newbie guys who will ask before or after the dance whether they should tip you and I say "if you would like to it would be appreciated". But if he has the balls to say "if I give you a big tip will you give/show me a little extra" then I tell him that I am not involved in that kind of business and politely decline. If he persists on asking I kick his butt out of the lap dance room. Our club has a policy that if a customer touches you after you telling him to stop or persistently propositions you for extras the you have every right to kick them out as long as you let managment know right away. The will NOT get their money back!
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it's ok to ask just don't demand one or get pissy if he declines to tip.
I belong to the school of "asking" no matter how politely you word it, is demanding, and guys will find it annoying.
Though I was kind of ticked at this one guy that his friend bought him a dance, handed him $30. Dances cost $20. What did he think the friend wanted him to use the $10 for, a pizza afterward??![]()
"I still have my name
I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
Every single thing I've never known"
It is true that we find it to be extremely annoying. I would tip on a dance that was 20, though. The place up the street charges 40 for their dances. $8 to get in....tip the door girl.... $6 for a beer.... $various for stage tipping....$40 for the dance.... (oh yeah...don't forget tipping the damn BATHROOM dude).... 10 minutes in the place and I've spent a half-day's salary.
tipping is a good thing, that is how i make the majority of my money. i ask for tips up front. you have to so you don't get dicked around. i know the locals where i live are chaep skates. i make most of money off of out of town men. it works for me, though i like to get myn money's worth for being ass naked for money. people are paying to see me naked. that's the nature of this business. and i have to go to work and i'm so tired. then i have to take a drive to nyc.![]()
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Elle brings up a good point here girls. The fact of the matter is that if you ask for a tip, it is going to send a message to the customer that you expect one. Some guys will tip, although reluctantly, but whether they do or not, a lot of them will immediately put you on their "never again" list.Originally Posted by tampafldancer link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg120809#msg120 809 date=1086943111
You have to ask yourself is that 5-10 bucks worth the possibility of forgoing possibly hundreds of dollars in future dance sales from him. For that reason alone, I advise gals not to ask. With some guys in fact, you won't have to.
You ask for the tip upfront? Is this along with the standard dance price?Originally Posted by daphned link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121454#msg121 454 date=1087084462
Does that "chaep skates" title still apply to guys who've bought a dance from you, (perhaps several) but will only pay the standard price for each? Not exactly the way I'd want to treat people who've helped put money in my pocket.i know the locals where i live are chaep skates.
In other words, you work hard for your money but the people who are in attendance at your club just kinda picked it off a tree on the way in. I see.i make most of money off of out of town men. it works for me, though i like to get myn money's worth for being ass naked for money. people are paying to see me naked. that's the nature of this business. and i have to go to work and i'm so tired. then i have to take a drive to nyc.![]()
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Perhaps you're making more money off out of towners because they aren't as familiar with how you operate as your local customers are. The latter perhaps isn't as generous because they are turned off by what they see as an entitlement attitude on your part.
Maybe your luck with the locals would change if you'd leave the option of tipping, (and when to tip) up to their discretion. To me, a gal who doesn't expect a tip is more deserving of one, not to mention my continued business.
Former SCJ now in rehab.
I think that at least one guy of the crowd should always tip a dancer who is on stage. As for lap dances, 20 per dance is a good amount of $$$; unless you work in a club that takes a percentage of your dance money on top of a house fee. If that's the case you could find a club with better management or simply tell the customer about your situation up front. I think that most guys would be understanding.
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I dunno, a lot of the guys around here would still consider $10/3min a nice chunk of money.
"I still have my name
I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
Every single thing I've never known"
Luna, its $20/3 minutes around here which is an even nicer chunk of money.Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121573#msg121 573 date=1087119328
A tip should never be asked for, IMO. As with any service worker, a dancer can only hope that a good job will motivate generousity in the customer. Personally, I tip often and well but its mostly driven by my affection (sorry, cant think of a better word) for the particular lady or if Im trying to get a new (to me) dancer's attention
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
Dallas here...$30/song nude here in Denver. I get jacked a lot if I don't get my money up front. Last week a guy replied "No Dallas, it is $30 for a lap dance." I said "No, it is $30/song." Because I did not get the money up front, for two songs, he gave me 30. Usually I will get $100 for 3 songs. I like those...
I have however, had two incedences where the guy was so excited that he ejaculated in his pants. I definately feel if they cum that it is bonus and very deserving of a good tip!
Big D
Yeah, I meant that saying "you see, big generous man sir, I only make $10 out of the $20" wouldn't exactly equal "I need a tip!" to most of the people around here, as $10 per song is still really good.
I would honestly really like to work somewhere that doesn't take a cut, if I actually got $20-$30 per song with a higher stage fee I'm beginning to think it'd be worth it. There are nights were I do NOTHING but brief conversation, private dance after private dance and still only go home with less than $200 [which, yeah, I know it is a nice income, but definitely not what some girls around the country, not even providing extras and such, are making].
"I still have my name
I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
Every single thing I've never known"
At my club I try to take that into consideration. I want a dancer who has hung out with me for the evening to go home happy. It may seem weird to some but I am sensitive to the dancers earnings. I want my ladies to go home thinking "FBR took care of me".Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121741#msg121 741 date=1087157932
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.




Really easy way to handle tips in a convenient, relaxed and voluntary way.
Mention the tip at the time of quoting a dance price. Plain and simple. The SF ladies almost ALL do this and it's become pretty routine.
Much along the same lines of asking for the tip upfront, it's just you arent expecting the tip at this time. Just throwing it out there so as the customer knows tipping is customary and once all is said and done, a tip afterwards would be a nice thing.
"It's $20 for a dance. If I do an extra-special job and you like me, a tip afterwards is a very nice gesture!" and leave it at that.
Roll it into the initial sale and do so in a zero pressure way. Tipping customers will tip this way. Non-tipping customers enjoy the dance and can either buy another or move on to the next dancer.
It doesn't matter if you're somebody in this world, it rather matters you mean the whole world to somebody.
Providing tips for stage dancing is completely understandable and appropriate.
Asking for tips for dances in addition to the standard fee (I'm used to $20/dance) is about as tacky as the stupid tip jar at my local burrito stand.
That's an excellent way to go about informing the uninitiated."It's $20 for a dance. If I do an extra-special job and you like me, a tip afterwards is a very nice gesture!" and leave it at that.
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Thanks for replying. I never asked for a tip after a lap dance and have never thought about doing that. I happen to think that's rude too. I had meant do you think it's okay to tip after you get off stage. When I asked this one customer if he'd like to tip me once he said it's rude to ask a customer if he wants to tip you and as he was handing over a buck he says I was going to tip you anyways and if you were a waitress would you ask your customers if they'd tip you there? I said no and that I'm sorry for offending him.
I don't understand, if you're offstage, and you're not doing table-side dances, I don't know why're you're being tipped. Unless the place you work doesn't allow onstage tipping - in that case, perhaps walking up to the customer and saying "did you like watching my stage set?" will tip them in the right direction, not directly asking - if they aren't going to tip after that hint, don't bother.
[I dislike guys that do the Strip Club Lecture inside the club, but that's just me] Don't worry about it. And I HAVE heard waittresses, as people are leaving, exclaim "what kind of a tip is this??" Obviously it's not courteous, but everyone in the service industry has probably done it at one point or another.
"I still have my name
I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
Every single thing I've never known"
Alot of the customers don't feel like walking up to the stage. This is what the dancers told me when I first started dancing. After I finish dancing I'll walk around and shake everyone's hand and ask them how are they doing..Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121939#msg121 939 date=1087192576
It's all pretty simple. If you ask for a tip, you will probably get the dollar - and you will also lose a lot of lap dance possibilities. The customer's question about "if you were a waitress" was right on. Personally, I am sorry that you don't get to keep the entire 20 from a lapdance. However, it is still 20 for me, regardless of how much you get to keep.
At my job I pay taxes, medical, dental, etc. That's part of the cost of living. I don't ask my boss for a tip. The reason the lapdances are 20/song is that you have to pay house fees, tipouts, etc. If you didn't have to pay all of that, then they'd be 10/song.





I wonder if she may be referring to doing a post stage tip walk. Around here, dancers are required to do this.Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121939#msg121 939 date=1087192576
A lot of guys (like the beer nursing crowd) hate it, but if I had a good vantage point of the gal's show, I don't mind coughing up a buck. Helps me screen for potential lap dance candidates.
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Former SCJ now in rehab.
Not true, there are plently of places where dances are $10 a song and girls STILL have to pay fees. And I pay taxes, medical and dental too!Originally Posted by StripperTips link=board=9;threadid=10020;start=msg121954#msg121 954 date=1087196336
I don't ask for a tip outright, but I always say after a dance (say if the guy got 2 at my current club, where they're $25 each) "so that was $50 for both dances, and any tip beyond that's up to you". And guess what? Nine times out of ten they DO tip. Usually I get $30 for one and three twenties if I do two or some variation therein depending on the club.
No one is making them tip, I just say they have the option if they especially enjoyed themselves. I don't think there's anything tacky about it, especially in this business where we're here to make as much as we can, and I'm going about it in a forthright, honest matter.
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what about places where you pay upfront? Unless you've mentioned the price of the dance beforehand [which happens sometimes, but sometimes not] there isn't really any reason for you to bring up money again unless you are trying to get a tip.
And yeah, I pay housefees and tipout too in addition to only keeping $10/dance - currently I'm a student so dental/medical is paid by parents. The house fee is really low, though, I imagine it'd be higher if the girls kept the $20 to induce girls to do more dances - if you know you won't have enough to pay the house fee until you do 4 lap dances, you're kind of induced to sell those, aren't you? Wheras if your fee is percentage, at some point you feel like "why am I bothering?"
"I still have my name
I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
Every single thing I've never known"
Okay....I'm hearing some of you say "What's wrong with me asking for a tip?"
I'm saying - there is nothing wrong with it...you will probably get it...all I'm saying is that it is possible that it will undercut your further potential earnings. It has nothing to do with what is right....or your profession...or your house fees. If someone holds a door for me then holds out his hand for a tip, I will give it to him. But it annoys me. It completely diminishes what, to me, the point of a tip is. So yes...I will give you the tip...but next time I'll probably use another door.
at my club the dj helps the girls get tips if the stage tipping is low i will never go around and ask for tips this RUDE i have seen it done and its horrible NEVER I REPEAT NEVER DO THIS Alot of times a guy might not have tipped but wants a dance now if i went over and demaned a tip from him he might of been tuned off. Just chill the money will come.![]()
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