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    Default What is intimacy to you?

    Luna Maiden started a topic about Porn affecting men's ability to have intimacy. I started wondering how do people define intimacy. I wonder if we are all talking about the same thing with the same definition.

    How do you define "intimacy"?

    Have you experienced it within the terms of your definition?


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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    intimacy, to me, is the private stuff shared b/t you and your lover. the closeness you share, also, while you're having sex. like for example, if something embarrassing happens (just saying!), you can laugh about it w/ your partner and still carry on. it can even become an inside joke later.......also, you see the person as an actual person, not an object.

    Have I experienced intimacy? yes, differently w/ each person I've loved.


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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    For me:
    Intimacy is feeling comfortable with your "true" self around the person you love. It is the feeling of no fences or barriers or no holding back as you would with others.

    Belonging together.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    intamacy can be anything....from talking to showing affection to making love...its different for every person/relationship.

    Being intimate can be just talking to someone, you dont even have to be in a relationship with them. If you open up to them you are being intimate.

    Its the same as how you would define cheating....cheating can be anything(even flirting or just talking)...its based on certain people's perception and feelings.

    These are two things that cannot be difined generally for everyone.

    To me, being intimate is just being close and opening up to someone...in any form. I can be intimate with a girlfriend, a female friend, a male friend, a family member. If that makes sense

    Just my opinion.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    1) Sharing the same peanut butter and jelly sandwich

    2) Playing phone tag

    3) Being stuck in either end of chinese finger torture thingie

    4) Scavenging for night crawlers late at night

    5) Listening to Beastie Boys

    It doesn't get much better than that.

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    Intamacy = closeness. Sex is letting someone inside your body. Intamacy is letting them inside your soul. Nirvana is when you experience both at the same time.
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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL link=board=1;threadid=10149;start=msg122810#msg122 810 date=1087338608
    Intamacy = closeness. Sex is letting someone inside your body. Intamacy is letting them inside your soul. Nirvana is when you experience both at the same time.
    wow very well said.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL link=board=1;threadid=10149;start=msg122810#msg122 810 date=1087338608
    Intamacy = closeness. Sex is letting someone inside your body. Intamacy is letting them inside your soul. Nirvana is when you experience both at the same time.
    Couldn&#039;t have said it better myself.

    I have been intimate with two people that I once loved.... it was very different with each one, but it is also a rare thing that doesn&#039;t come along very often.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    intimacy = when you talk on the phone the day after, she doesn&#039;t have any form of auto, small kitchen or household appliance repair in mind, loan needs, nor does she need help moving.

    It doesn't matter if you're somebody in this world, it rather matters you mean the whole world to somebody.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    \In"ti*ma*cy\, n.; pl. Intimacies. [From Intimate.] The state of being intimate; close familiarity or association; nearness in friendship.

    ok... i cheated... but I really like the nearness in friendship part...

    for me its the talking, the secrets and such....

    heres some more:
    in·ti·mate1 ( P ) Pronunciation Key (nt-mt)
    adj.
    Marked by close acquaintance, association, or familiarity.
    Relating to or indicative of one&#039;s deepest nature: intimate prayers.
    Essential; innermost: the intimate structure of matter.
    Marked by informality and privacy: an intimate nightclub.
    Very personal; private: an intimate letter.
    Of or involved in a sexual relationship.

    I dont like it when it has to be forced though... my ex wouldnt share at all.. it could be attributed to our breakup, but then many things could be....

    my husband and I will talk of many things, our historys, our future, kids, sex (we talk about what we liked and didnt like about what we want to try, its fun).....

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    For me it&#039;s how i felt when my ex touched me. I miss that.

    Pamela

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    What a great group of people. Just checked in to my room in Atlanta and had to wire up to SW.

    Intimacy is great. It&#039;s just being who you are and knowing that someone loves you unconditionally and you love the FOR all of their faults and quirks not INSTEAD OF!

    It&#039;s making love to someone and the thrill is looking in each other&#039;s eyes and loving them with all you have.

    Isn&#039;t life a blast?

    It took me quite a few years to find it and understand it. But when you do, it&#039;s like being a blind person and understanding the color blue.

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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    I think that intimacy is enjoying the act as much as the person you are doing it with. Can be sexual, doesn&#039;t have to be.

    You can have sex with someone because you want to have sex. You can have sex with someone because that&#039;s the way they let you be close, not because you were all that interested in sex. I think sexual intimacy is when you are with a person you enjoy as much as the sex.

    But non-sexual intimacy is great too. Like when you are with your best friend and not doing anything special and you still have the best time! To me, that&#039;s intimate.

    It&#039;s not just the act or just the person, intimacy is when you feel good because you get to do THAT with HIM/HER, and it wouldn&#039;t be as wonderful any other way.
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    Default Re:What is intimacy to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by sitri link=board=1;threadid=10149;start=msg122974#msg122 974 date=1087356977

    Intimacy is great. It&#039;s just being who you are and knowing that someone loves you unconditionally and you love the FOR all of their faults and quirks not INSTEAD OF!

    It&#039;s making love to someone and the thrill is looking in each other&#039;s eyes and loving them with all you have.

    Isn&#039;t life a blast?

    It took me quite a few years to find it and understand it. But when you do, it&#039;s like being a blind person and understanding the color blue.
    That about sums it up for me too..
    Deanna is the first person I have ever allowed myself to be totally intimate with, now I know what I was missing all these years.

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    To me, intimacy is something that is purely non-sexual. It&#039;s being able to say whatever I feel, scream my head off, cry if I need to, to him.

    It&#039;s glancing at him from across the room, and getting the whole weak-in-the-knees sensation, all from merely making eye contact with him.

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    Beautiful stuff, folks.

    The best portrayal of pure intimacy, IMO, is the Kieslowski film "Red", where Irene Jacob and Jean-Louis Trintignant spent half of the movie just talking, easy as you please, in a room while the sun goes down.

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