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    I was wondering how the dancers handle keeping your customer relationships at a professional level. For example, you want to build a close relationship with a customer so you can get dances etc but how do you keep the customers from getting to wrong idea and asking you out outside the club. For example would you
    hold hands and things of that nature to develop the closeness. Just something I thought out about last time I was at a club.

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    I don't know. It depends on the customer where we draw the line. I am very careful to emotionally distance myself from relationship-seeking customers. It's all coquettish play anyway. I try not to let emotions get involved at all. But I am the most Dominatrixy dancer at my club/ My role is clear cut and pretty simple.
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    Default Re:Intimacy, where to draw the line

    Sometimes it can't be helped and the regular-customer will seek a relationship outside of the club environment. I usually stick with the "I'm busy on my days off" line.... however it is the beginning of the end when the regular-customer does seek more.

    As for how I create the intimacy, I will be more sensual with them, remember little things about them, etc. I don't do the holding hands thing unless I'm showing the patron to the lap dance area/room.


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    Default Re:Intimacy, where to draw the line

    Mick, strippers have to be careful not to do things that can be equated with bf/gf activities (unless of course that is what they are seeking with a particular customer) OTOH it has to be tempting to do so if the dancer senses it will get her more money. Quite the paradox.

    My fav and I see each other both inside and outside the club. Im very fond of her as she is of me. However, we both understand that the foundation of our relationship is money. She is very good at keeping that straight in her mind. I'm not quite as compartmentalized but if I start "feeling the feeling" all I have to do is make a mushy post on the blue site. The other Junkies kick my ass back in shape

    There are several threads here on the pink site that talk about the delima a dancer faces when a good customer goes RIL. I'm sure its a sad moment in their lives but Im proud to say that most have testified to handling the situation with brutal efficiency. Dont prolong the agony...just cut him off post haste. Customers are like buses...yeah you might miss one but there'll be another one coming around the block in five minutes

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    I define sex as the joining together of two bodies and intimacy as the joining together of two souls. You rarely find either in a strip club. But some times intimacy grows if you spend enough time together. I've been fortunate enough to have had that experience. Intimacy is a question of openness, not something usually found in a strip club. It's often faked but it's still fake. Personally I prefer honesty to fake intimacy.
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    It depend on the guy with how you can handle them asking you out . I would never hold hands with a customer at the club every other guy in room is gunna think that hes your man . I just igore them when they ask me out or i get offended like oooh so thats why you hang with me ? Do you think tht i am like that is that what you want so on . If they don't come back oh well there are always more right

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    Default Re:Intimacy, where to draw the line

    Customers ask dancers out for one simple reason, because many of you will sometimes say yes. A guy becomes your regular because he really enjoys spending time with you. It's only natural then that he will want to get to know you better and that means getting together outside the club. I've been a regular for 3 different girls over the years and I've socialized outside the club with all 3. I'm not sure I would be interesteed in being anyone's regular if she didn't think enough of me to get together socially once in a while. I certainly wouldn't tip her as well.
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