I was just curious if anything like this had ever happened to anyone on this forum..........I work with this stripper and lately she starting to look like me, play my music, dress the same way I do......I was curious how you guys handle this?




I was just curious if anything like this had ever happened to anyone on this forum..........I work with this stripper and lately she starting to look like me, play my music, dress the same way I do......I was curious how you guys handle this?
Yikes.. That's creepy. Very "Single White Female"-ish.
I've never had it happen with another dancer, but I did have a friend that did that kind of thing. Even went so far as to hit on the hubby (who is now the ex hubby). He didn't go for it, of course, but I did give her a piece of my mind (and my fist).
I'd definitely talk to her about what's up, but that's insane.
--Georg Christoph Litchenberg
Maybe she just admires the way you work and is trying to do what you do. I k now when I first started I picked a mentor...even though she didn't know she was mentoring me.
Identity theft is something different. You don't even have to know the person to do it. It's taking their personal information and opening lines of credit in their name to steal from them.
I think you can admire someone and not try to rip them off, so I don't think you necessarily have anything to worry about.
This sort of thing used to happen to me alot at school and when I was in my teens, lol. If anything it kept me on my toes to keep being original and unique. Sometimes I'd create a stupid look that I didn't acctually like or want to keep. When people copied it I'd laugh to myself and then move on to doing something I did like. At one point I had a friend who people would call, 'Jo the 2nd' after me. I found it almost infuriating! We'd meet to go out somewhere and she would be dressed exactly the same as me and even cut and dyed her hair like mine. I was relived when she got a job which required her to look 'smart' lol!
Probably though you should pull the girl aside and say you can't help noticing that she seems to be copying you, and it's not good to be a clone, (though try and be more tactful if you can!) Then ask if she needs help with putting together costumes and a stage show etc. If she's copying you then she obviously looks up to you somewhat, so be nice! (-:
I agree with Aussie, copying someone is a form of flattery, but it is very upsetting. I have this thing I do at work and one of the noobs started coping it and doing it all wrong; she actually started hurting the guys when she did it. So I finally confronted her about it(mind you I had about 7 shots of Cuervo and wasen't so nice) but she said that she saw me do it and make money so why couldn't she? I told her that when she grew up and became a real dancer she could do whatever she wanted; till then don't try to play with the big girls.
I know guys I'm soooooooo mean "" ';:::;' "" grrrrr!
But it really pissed me off, anywho she got fired anyway for working at 2 different clubs in town. Actually she got fired from both of them cause our bartender went to the other club and fired her there then when her mgr came over and asked what was going on, he fired her when he found out. But what can I say? Try talking to her, she may be new or in a big slump, if so then try to help her(that is assuming that you like her).
Kitana




You guys are great...........with the advice
My boyfriend's mother tries to be me. I'd rather a dancer copy my style than someone three times my age. She cut and dyed her hair like mine, buys clothes I like, tries to go out with my friends and I....very strange woman.
I agree it is a form of flattery, and it's almost considered trend-setting. Sometimes it can be taken too far. Here's my weird story:
I used to have a specific look, which was just me not really knowing any better.
My stage name was very garish and so was my look and music. I had long brown hair that I crimped, wore a black lace, long sleeved leotard, and black patten leather boots. The look was rather extreme, but that was my money making uniform at the time, and it just worked for me.
So I went to another club for a few months, and when I came back, the DJ asked me what name I was going to go under. My reply was, "How about the name you have always known me as? (duh)"
He just laughed and said, that name has been taken.
I'm thinking who the hell would want that name!
When they called to stage the chick who has taken my name, she was wearing a long haired brown wig that she had tried to crimp, a very similar LONG SLEEVED, BLACK LACE LEOTARD, AND THE EXACT...EXACT SAME BOOTS! She had used one of my pole tricks and a floor move as well. Since our musical taste was similar, she used some of that too.
We looked absolutly nothing alike, and our attitudes were completly different as well.
Luckily I had given up the look for something new, but I could do nothing but feel disgust if I was near her in the dressing room and she could tell. She almost burst into tears one night and apologized, she said she just thought I was cool. Personally, I thought it was creepy!
The deal is, stripping is one of the only jobs in the world that you can make a lot of money at and be a complete individual. There is no uniform, you can wear whatever you like. I think people need to explore that and take it beyond the limit.
I have seen some dancers observe and use my money making techniques, but that is totally different and I encourage it. That to me is more flattering and keeps me challenged to come up with something new.
What I do not find acceptable is if someone has a certain gimmick or line they say that is completely original. I just looks tacky as a reflection on the dancers, especially if the same guy hears it from two different girls.




Now that's creepy!!! I hope mine does not go that far.
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