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    Default What are you really like?

    A pair of chance comments got me thinking that this might be an interesting topic. It's well known that a lot is lost in strictly written communication- verbal inflection, tone, gestures and facial expressions which serve to more fully express your thoughts. Do you think you come across online as different than you are in real life?


    Every site I've been on saw me as fearsome in my ascerbic wit and tenaciousness, as well as knowledgeable on a broad range of subjects and opininated as hell. That's fairly accurate. Velvet, who knows me well IRL, says that I am much more mellow than she anticipated, however. I guess that doesn't translate well in written words.

    How about you?
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    Default Re:What are you really like?

    The same, and different. At the same time.

    I tend to be really sarcastic, which only comes off so-so in written communication. I have a sort of dry wit, and that is another thing that is often mistaken for other stuff online.

    The honest answer, though, is "I'm not sure." You'd probably get a better answer by asking someone who knows me IRL, because any answer i gave would be biased.

    I'll say you've seen warts, and regular me, as well as geek me (I geek over comics and some movies). But I dunno if you've seen the real me.

    That's a good question.

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    Great topic, Lilith! I've often wondered the same.

    I tend to be different online than I am in real life. I tone it down a little for the net. One reason is because online, like you said, it's hard to interpret what comes out in writing. Sometimes I can say something very smartassed, but it comes across as mean and uncaring. So I use quite a bit of restraint. I've had a few online people mad at me because they've misinterpreted something that came out of my fingers.

    I take part in discussions that I either have great knowlege in, or some interest. I normally like to refrain from talk of politics, because for one, I'm not very educated in that area, and two, I'm really not interested. But, if I feel strongly about a certain incident that has occured, such as the recent beheadings and things like that, I'll speak up.

    One thing I don't do online or off, though, is lie. I see no point in it. I've met a few people offline, only to find out that they are nothing like they claim to be. That bugs me. I'm an up-front person who will tell someone like it is, if they like it great, if not, it's no big deal.

    I also love to joke around, and laugh. I've been through too much in this life not to. I'm entitled.

    In the past 3 years or so, I've met 2 great guys. They could pretty much tell you that I'm a little different than the way I act online. Again, it's the restraint thing. But, they say I'm different in a good way. One of them is my very best friend, who in the past year has become good friends with the hubby also. That's definitely a plus.

    Of course, there are some days where Hubby would love to sign on to his computer and message me so that he can catch some of my "online niceness", because he claims I'm not all that nice offline. But, eh.

    So I guess I'm the same, yet a little different when you meet me.

    I'm definitely interested in seeing other posts, this is a great topic!

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    All I have to say is you will find out at Stripperfest 04 LOL. Can you tell Im excited? Can you tell Im excited? Can you tell Im excited? Haha
    You think you know... but you have no idea!

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    Something tells me Pisces (The poop bananna lady) just may be excited for SF...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiannon link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127814#msg127 814 date=1088143718
    Great topic, Lilith! I've often wondered the same.

    I've had a few online people mad at me because they've misinterpreted something that came out of my fingers.
    Before I say what I'm really like I just need to say Rhia if you have upset people cuz of the stuff coming out of your fingers you should see a dr.
    Now, what am I like offline? I would say I'm almost exactly like you read here excpt for the fact that when I can see your expression I am much much worse. I'm also a lot more sexually driven offline, my life revolves around my penis so to speak.

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    Actually, i'm a lot like Rumplestiltskin.

    Where's my gold ladies?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127842#msg127 842 date=1088147399
    Actually, i'm a lot like Rumplestiltskin.

    Where's my gold ladies?
    ya mean yer short and wear a funny hat?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blade is a D.j. link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127836#msg127 836 date=1088146683
    Before I say what I'm really like I just need to say Rhia if you have upset people cuz of the stuff coming out of your fingers you should see a dr.
    Hahaha you know what I mean, bastich.. lol


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    OMG! Madcap - I had tears in my eyes I was laughing so hard at your post! The poop banana lady <--- you crack me up!
    You think you know... but you have no idea!

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    Default Re:What are you really like?

    This is a cool topic.

    I&#039;ve met a lot of people "IRL" that I first met online and a lot of them say the same thing....that I&#039;m different than they expected

    First, they are surprised by how tall I am. I&#039;m not a giant, but maybe I sound short online? I&#039;m 5&#039;9" and wear heels.

    Also, I&#039;m very quiet. I&#039;m not shy, but I don&#039;t usually speak unless spoken to. I just don&#039;t usually have a whole lot to say and I don&#039;t like to interrupt in groups. On the internet, you are all privy to my unsolicited opinions.

    I know if I went on this stripperfest, I&#039;d be such a lame-o loner. I&#039;d be all by myself not wanting to talk to anyone for more than 5 minutes. I can&#039;t stand small talk with strangers. Obviously, I put up with it for work, but it&#039;s not me outside of work or the internet.

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    I&#039;m a dork. A complete dork that has a hard time controlling my tones and demeanor when it&#039;s appropriate. I&#039;ll totally make a cop feel stupid for pulling me over when I am in one my "moods". . .and of course get a ticket for being an impossible bitch.

    I work like this. . .happy:smile
    sad:frown. Simple. No games. Manipulation makes me roll my eyes.

    I&#039;m known to be whacky and a little bit bossy. Quite honest, both on the web and in real life. I&#039;m prone to psychobabble with interjections of giggling. I&#039;m very sexual in real life, MUCH more so than at work. I am not completely mature yet. I still have a long way to go. A bit of a disaster. Willing to drive 2000 miles for a live show that is coming to Houston anyway. Old school rivethead prone to "fagging out". Also a fag hag.

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    Default Re:What are you really like?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127800#msg127 800 date=1088142404

    Every site I&#039;ve been on saw me as fearsome in my ascerbic wit and tenaciousness, as well as knowledgeable on a broad range of subjects and opininated as hell. That&#039;s fairly accurate...I am much more mellow than...anticipated, however. I guess that doesn&#039;t translate well in written words.
    This is very true of me as well. Especially as a DJ--I am way more casual and a lot more fun than my written speech might indicate, or I never would have made it--especially in Daytona Beach. I have sometimes used three, and on rare occasion four syllable words when working, but only when the woman onstage warranted exactly those words, and would be sure to appreciate them.

    I met my girlfriend on this forum, and when we first started talking on the phone she was very surprised at the difference between my written style and my oral style (hmmm).

    I am also a hell of a lot more easygoing than several members might think, whom I have engaged in sometimes heated debate. If I am in a social setting it is far easier for me to smooth out or ignore entirely differences of opinion--except possibly sometimes with a very good friend of mine from Macon, Georgia. But even though we used to get in screaming matches (especially when I asked him in all seriousness if he was KKK), we still had some great times hitting the clubs.

    I have always been very popular in almost every social climate, except those in which pretentious or extremely macho behavior is the norm--than I get derisive and that usually doesn&#039;t work so well--but f**k it, you can&#039;t please &#039;em all, and some aren&#039;t worth the effort.

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    This is a great idea for a thread!

    Frankly, I am a nerd. In all honesty, if you were to meet me in real life you&#039;d find that my hobbies and tastes are not those of what some would think a "Stripper"/Dancer would do, or like. I like frumpy clothes when I&#039;m not working, I wear glasses 85% of the time and I read text books (History, Psychology and Art) I actually go to school sales to find the latest version of something which was taught. I know, I am weird.

    I get told that I am not what someone expected- I&#039;ve also been told that I intimidate, but I truly do not mean to.

    I am opinionated, and I speak up and I will tell someone straight out just how it is. Some see that as being bitchy, I see it as being honest and straight forward. I also have a quiet side. Before I truly "know" someone, I have to feel them out.. this means I sit back and take everything in- it always blows everyone away because they think I&#039;m shy at first, but then they find out differently. I am a very social person once the ice is broken.

    I can handle just about everything except someone who lies or sucks up to me for personal gain. When I figure it out, its all over and the person might as well just forget even talking to me. I don&#039;t hold grudges, I just choose to not associate myself and walk away. I am always polite even when things like this happen, but no one ever said that you have to like anyone, you just have to be polite.



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    Well I really have no idea how I come off here, other than rather outspoken and opinionated. IRL I am sarcastic, goofy as hell, shy at times and aggressive at times. Pretty quiet in general, but I can talk your ear off once I get going. Serious. Perfectionist. Very self-critical. Know what I like/want and unwilling to accept less. Ambitious. I am also very opinionated IRL and often a bit more direct/outspoken than most guys can handle. etc etc etc

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    Gynger is a geek..haha!

    I&#039;m not awake, but my fingers are typing this.

    I am somewhat more introverted IRL. I generally do not choose to be around large groups, unless I know them, which is different from the person that was soliciting people that I don&#039;t know to come into chat a while ago. There are certain kinds of teasing that I do online, that I would rarely do IRL.

    But a lot of things about me, come across better online, such as when I decide to put up a serious post. I don&#039;t often think of what I want to say immediately IRL, so it&#039;s helpful to organize my thoughts and then post.

    Most things are the same, though.

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    I&#039;m VERY SHY and VERY QUIET. This you&#039;ll find out for sure at Stripperfest

    I&#039;m ALWAYS smiling & happy. Im easy to read....if im not smiling...im not happy.

    You can put me on the dork/nerd list also.

    Im also very sarcastic and I joke all the time. So dont take me too serious. Im never mean hearted in anything I say, so never take me personally if you think it sounds like that....im really just kidding. If I dont joke with you, I dont like you(if that makes sense)....i mean if i cant make fun of you and you cant make fun of me, we&#039;re probably not friends.

    I really lack confidence...and am very critical of myself

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    I think that I am much the same person IRL as online, but I lose my warmth and so all of the things that are really the "same" come across differently - and I seem much less friendly/attractive than in person.

    I think in complex sentences, and so my writing has a ton of clauses - I actually chop almost all of my sentences in half before posting and they are still long. IRL no one accuses me of being Hawthorne-esq because the emotion adds to the statements. (But I am, he is my favorite writer, probably because we formulate thoughts similarly.) IRL and online, I speak with almost perfect grammar. Combined with the long sentences, it comes across as pretentious, instead of educated, which is how people describe me IRL. Especially because IRL, you can&#039;t see all of my spelling mistakes

    When I am comfortable, I am very involved in what&#039;s going on and I want to be a part of things and share... but I think that comes across wrong online too. Combined with my writing style, I seem more like a know-it-all than someone who just wants to be a part of the conversation.

    The one thing that I do better online is let things roll. If I disagree with something IRL, I tend to speak up! Loudly. Here I am much more sedate about how I disagree with people, if I feel the need to at all. I am better at ignoring things altogether. The other day I was in SW chat and someone said something hideously uneducated, not to mention insulting – so I just logged off. If they had been standing in front of me, I would have told them where to stick it and reminded them just how uneducated they were in the process. I do like that I can find the distance to be a better person in some respects, and blow it off when someone draws stereotypical, inaccurate conclusions about me, instead of go for the jugular.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127858#msg127 858 date=1088148999

    I know if I went on this stripperfest, I&#039;d be such a lame-o loner. I&#039;d be all by myself not wanting to talk to anyone for more than 5 minutes. I can&#039;t stand small talk with strangers. Obviously, I put up with it for work, but it&#039;s not me outside of work or the internet.
    First off let me say if you have the time and can make it to S.f. then please try to come, we need more"lame-o loners"Especially of the good looking variety!
    Im also very sarcastic and I joke all the time. So dont take me too serious. Im never mean hearted in anything I say, so never take me personally if you think it sounds like that....im really just kidding. If I dont joke with you, I dont like you(if that makes sense)....i mean if i cant make fun of you and you cant make fun of me, we&#039;re probably not friends.
    Most of my friends and I are like this...
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    Wouldn&#039;t know how to begin to qualify myself, though my imminent arrival at StripperFest 04 should put any questions to rest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=1;threadid=10446;start=msg127858#msg127 858 date=1088148999
    I know if I went on this stripperfest, I&#039;d be such a lame-o loner. I&#039;d be all by myself not wanting to talk to anyone for more than 5 minutes. I can&#039;t stand small talk with strangers. Obviously, I put up with it for work, but it&#039;s not me outside of work or the internet.

    "First off let me say if you have the time and can make it to S.f. then please try to come, we need more"lame-o loners"


    I definitely agree with Blade here, Emily. I&#039;m certain that we&#039;re going to have quite an eclectic bunch here. I&#039;m a bit like you in the respect that I get a little weary around new people. Hell, I don&#039;t have a whole lot of friends offline, because I choose not to. I simply don&#039;t have the time for them. But the few I have, are very good ones. I really wish you could make it. It&#039;s going to be a blast, no doubt.


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    I&#039;ve thought about this often. I can only give you my point of view, so I don&#039;t know how accurate it will be.

    I&#039;m very laid back, generally. When I meet new people it may seem like I&#039;m withdrawn, but I&#039;m just getting a feel for everyone, and the situation.

    I can be very sarcastic, and dry, usually pertaining to my own situation; strangely this is helpful for me when things aren&#039;t going well. However in the forum, I feel it comes off as negativity, and me pitying myself, so I try to refrain as much as possible. I also appreciate a dark sense of humor.

    I feel that I&#039;m a compassionate, caring person IRL and hopefully online also. I wouldn&#039;t say that I&#039;m shy but I&#039;m sensitive. Which leaves me open to paranoia on occasion. And I think some people IRL think that my thought process is weird, or that could just be me. I&#039;ve alway tried to express myself honestly online. I think you get a little bit of a better feel for the person, in person.

    It would be interesting to find out how i compare online to real life. I&#039;m still alittle bummed i can&#039;t get to SF this year, and funds are low. But I wish all attendees
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    Default Re:What are you really like?

    Interesting Thread..

    For myself:
    I&#039;m typically fairly reserved and quiet around groups of people I don&#039;t know.

    Around my good friends and people I feel comfortable with, I am usually very outgoing and energetic.

    I&#039;m a selective perfectionist; that is, if its career, school, computer related, it has to be perfect... however if it has to do with the cleanliness of my room, I&#039;m far from it

    Similar to Alexis, I can be "very sarcastic and dry", and for some it can be insulting... apparently Take my jokes with a grain of salt

    I&#039;m 95% optimistic, 5% pessimistic, and like to be around people who are the same. I hate to dwell on the things that are wrong with the world. I despise the negative, rude, unfriendly types, and do everything to avoid them (unless you&#039;re being sarcastic of course!). I&#039;m always looking for something new to try, and new people to meet.. You only live once you know!!!


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    I think the main differences in me in real life is that I am much more sentimental and soft hearted than I come across online. Add to that much more silly/goofy.

    Otherwise I think I&#039;m pretty much the same. I am a fairly stubborn and opinionated person and overly loyal at times and an admited artsy-fartsy snob

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    I know in real life I am much more defensive and reserved about myself the less I know someone (or the group). You really have to get to know me to... you know...get to know me.

    I have been told by casual acquaintances I can be inscrutable. I am also told I should smile more (or smile period). It’s almost like you have to earn the "Real Me" (but of course, I don’t think I do any of this consciously).

    I grew up with 8 other siblings (I am the 4th of 9 - YES I am a borg ). Privacy was at a premium, and I desired my personal independence far more then the rest of my family. That translates into an almost superficial anti-social demeanor.

    Now - If anyone can&#039;t tell, I am very sarcastic. I am also an entirely complete goofball if I know you and you KNOW me. Dry humor, silly humor, heck.. any humor comes out if I am comfortable and let my hair down (so to speak). I think of goofy things that make me laugh and say them. Sometimes it makes others laugh too.

    Once you get that Me, you’re in LOL.

    Once thing I can guarantee is that I am myself. I generally like who I am, and really don’t want to change that (that doesn’t mean there aren’t things I would like to change, though. Just overall I am happy with who I am). I despise fakeness, insincerity, arrogance and selfishness in others. I work hard in keeping them out of my character as well. I’d like to think that sort of shows in who I am when people get to know me.

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