how about we don't. LOL no just joking, but yeah I like ninadaisy's reponse - I'd love to have a drink with you. Why don't we go have dance so I can get you reaaallly thirsty first."



how about we don't. LOL no just joking, but yeah I like ninadaisy's reponse - I'd love to have a drink with you. Why don't we go have dance so I can get you reaaallly thirsty first."
I say thanks - I would love a bottled water. No guy wants to pay $7 a pop for bunch of bottled water. I will spend one song or two talking to the water boy and then tell him that I need to find a customer if he's not interested.
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Honestly, i don't mind shooting the shit with a dancer but only if it's slow, and i'll usually buy dances anyway.
at my club, were not suppose to reject a drink. we can get water or juice, if you don't drink alcohol. all of our vip rooms have drink mins so it is har to drink water all night, but dumping the drink out or faking to drink is not hard.
one time i was sitting with a guy that likes to drink and hang out (you get paid for time). well sometimes i like to drink patron (tequilla). this night i told the waitress to bring water instead of patron, but just how i like it with salt and lime and water back. the guy doesn't like patron, so he won't try it and he gets drunk on his own drink. it worked and the guy never found out, plus i got $700 for my time!
Another Kahoots visit example: I was waiting for my friends, by myself, and was sitting next to, errrr, one of the "stages" I guess you could call it - ST/Mojo, you should know what I'm talking about.Originally Posted by StripperTips link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg132557#msg132 557 date=1088847950
I tipped two dancers, a couple of dollars each (one with a $2 bill), and immediately after the dance they were both sitting at my table. Now, I'm usually not one to decline a dance, however, I was by myself in a club I've never been to; So the ole phrase "how about we just have a drink" came across my lips... pretty bad huh. Difference is, I also tipped them both $20, and told them I wasn't looking for a dance at the moment. The conversation was much more relaxed and natural after that - no pressure to sell. I enjoyed the company while I waited for my friends to arrive
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Okay.. here's the thing.. I've been refusing the drink offer for the main reason that I can't use any lines like Nina and DancerWealth suggest.... the guys have to actually go to the bar to order any drinks. No waitress at your table type of service due to the bar-girl also doubling as the 'on the floor' waitress.... yes.. I told y'all club I'm in can be sloooooow.
So.. should I offer to get the drinks so I can ensure that my drink is non-alcoholic ?
I also ask because I'm never dancing long enough at this club to be "known" by the bar-girl so that I can develop a code-word.
On another note:
Another thing that I have found that has discouraged the drink offers is to have my non-alcoholic drinks served in a glass that is typically reserved for alcoholic drinks. This makes out that I already have one so they don't need to offer me one
I might alternate between having my normal ginger ale in a glass usually reserved for alcoholic drinks with getting the drinks myself.
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Accept the drink so you're not being rude and then after a song/lull in conversation say, "How about we finish this in the backroom? If you're good maybe afterwards I can buy you a drink?"
Or something like that. I'm not sure about the last part (obviously don't) but it implies that you're interested in him and would like to spend more time with him, but there's a price for that...
I don't know it might work.





I changed to drinking my ginger-ale in a 'balloon glass' that is usually reserved for alcoholic beverages. This has definately stopped people buying me drinks because I also tell them that it is my special drink "It keeps me alert but also makes me happy". I'm imply-ing that it is alcoholic but it isn't really. I do lie and say that it is a Red Bull with Vodka.
As for your suggestion voodoo... I will have to see if the dancer gets a discount on the drinks first. I don't want to sound ungrateful for the money the guy has given me but I get $85 out of a $100 dance.. and I don't want my "cut" being reduced further esp. when sometimes all I will get is one or two $100 dances a night (said it can be slooow..).
Otherwise, I have also found the perfect drink for me if I do need to order something alcoholic... Red Bull with Vodka. Why? I usually get the 'left overs' in the Red Bull can along with the drink... and hence eventually make it more Red Bull than Vodka.![]()
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I was just listening to a radio talk show host named Dr. Dean Adell who has a nationally syndicated program which is really good. He was just talking about Red Bull the other day and why it works. It was quite interesting actually. He said that these "power drinks" are all pretty much the same. There are some miscellaneous ingredients, but mostly the active ingredient is caffeine. He said that one Red Bull has as much caffeine as a large Starbucks coffee or two cans of soda. The reason it gives you such a buzz is because unlike the two cans of soda or cup of coffee, Red Bull is meant to be consumed quickly...like a large shot. As a result, you get the caffeine into your system faster and you get a quick "pick me up".
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Maybe I'm an exception, but for those of you who either decline such an offer and/or respond with the sort of comebacks that are described herein and then walk off, you've not only walked off from what would have likely become a fair-sized hit for you today, but also what could have easily become many more fair-sized hits for you on who knows how many days in the future when you do so with me.Originally Posted by NinaDaisy link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg130068#msg130 068 date=1088494414
I've never bought a dance from a dancer who couldn't spare ten minutes on talking to me with no promise of any money to be made for doing so. On the other hand, if I've offered to buy you a drink, I'm already interested - and whether you drink or not, if you spend ten minutes or so with me and don't make me feel like I owe you anything or that its an imposition, I'll not only buy dances and tip you too - I'll probably look for you next time I come back.
I don't know... two different business models, I suppose. But if some of ya'll would just slow down a bit and try to remember that you're selling yourself - as well as your beautiful face and body and the way you look when you dance - you might be surprised at the results.
Just my:kiss:
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How about we just have a drink FIRST to break the ice? Thats what I'm thinking of going the next time I go to a club alone. I'm always nervous as hell when I just get to the club (don't know why) and a drink would help break the ice!
Would this be better? I know not all guys keep their word but I do.
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I don't like lap dances. Just not my thing really.
However if I am out at a SC especially by myself. I am ususally there because I wanted a few drinks and no one else felt like going out. I won't offer every dancer a drink just the few i find really atteactive. So, if i offer a drink and she were to say to me, " I would love to have a drink but I need to see if anyone else is interested in getting a dance first." There is a good chance I would ask how much one cost. Then invite her for a few drinks and pay her for the time. If i am at a bar for a few drinks sometimes a little company isn't bad. I know they are there for money. You aren't paying for a lap dance you are paying for thier time. I guarantee I get more enjoyment out of a conversation with someone than most guys do out of a dance.



If a guy asks you out to dinner. You could always take it as a compliment. After all there are many women out there who aren't getting asked out to dinner too often. There are also those who enjoy going out to night clubs. These girls get hit on all night long, have morons grabbing thier asses and I even know a girl who had a guy stick his hand right up her skirt.Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg130596#msg130 596 date=1088563756
Maybe you wouldn't want to puke if you though how nice it was that there are plenty of guys out there who think enough of you to ask if they could have a nice dinner with you. Im sure it would bother anyone if no one was asking them to go anywhere. Dancer or not.
Im not trying to say anything bad. Just if you look at things differently you wont let them affect you in the same way. How many women can walk in thier door everyday and say 10 guys asked them out that day.
Know I'm going to get torched for this, but... feeling enraged when a guy asks you to have a drink with him instead of dancing, getting pissy with him in response, wanting to "puke" when a guy asks you to dinner... the inability to just "slow down" a little bit and talk to the guy for a minute... for SOME of you, at least IN PART, these are all just different manifestations of the same underlying problem - when you work in the environment ya'll work in (SC's) for an extended period of time, it tends to make you jaded and "harden" some aspects of your personality.
"That's your answer Old Man? I guess you're a Hard Case too...."
- Luke
"Some men, you just can't reach...."
- Boss, re Luke
If there's one thing in my life these years have taught me,
it's that you can always see it coming, but you can never stop it.
-Cowboy Junkies
GnBeret,what is it, 1 minute or 10? Because I don't mind a conversation about a song length or two, maybe 5 minutes, but 10 is too long. And over an evening, equals bad profit, because not every customer is going to spend more money just because a dancer spent 10 minutes instead of 2 with him. He'll probably spend the same he did after only 2 minutes. Katrine phrased it better over the blue side, doing the 'wannadance' thing on a busy shift can be a lot more profitable than several long conversations in a row, only sprinkled with maaybe a few dances.
And, I disagree that being irritated at the drink thing is the same as being tired of being asked out to dinner. If you read it like many of us dancers do, ie, a nicetie instead of buying a service, it is a double bind because there may be a buying customer in there, there might not be, and we like to avoid non-buying customers as much as possible. The same way a commissioned salesperson doesn't want to deal with people "just looking - but very interested in talking your ear off" but kind of has to because that customer MAY come back and actually spend money. A good saleperson will approach everyone and probably be able to sell even the 'just looking' crowd.
Pazzo, wtf with the nightclub analogy? I like a few dance clubs, and yes have been felt up and asked out a lot there too. Difference is, at a nightclub I have the choice of expressing interest in no one, thereby no false impressions, whereas at my job I'm required to spend time with everyone [some club even fine girls for not 'socializing enough' with customers] and can only be irritated when people take it the wrong way.
Probably one of the largest problems inherent, the girls act interested in you like they would in a nightclub to get some money, but probably don't have any interest. Meanwhile, newbie guy takes it for its normal association - this girl is acting interested in me, therefore I should do the next thing I normally do when a girl is acting interested in me, ask her out.![]()
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I still have my face
I have not run away from home
Doesn't seem so long
If I now embrace
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If a guy asks you out to dinner. You could always take it as a compliment. After all there are many women out there who aren't getting asked out to dinner too often. There are also those who enjoy going out to night clubs. These girls get hit on all night long, have morons grabbing thier asses and I even know a girl who had a guy stick his hand right up her skirt.
Maybe you wouldn't want to puke if you though how nice it was that there are plenty of guys out there who think enough of you to ask if they could have a nice dinner with you. Im sure it would bother anyone if no one was asking them to go anywhere. Dancer or not.
Im not trying to say anything bad. Just if you look at things differently you wont let them affect you in the same way. How many women can walk in thier door everyday and say 10 guys asked them out that day.
I think the point is that they are, in fact, NOT at a nightclub. Most girls don't mind spending a few mins to talk to their customers, but it seems like this thread is directed more towards the customers who want to just hang out and chat for 20-30 mins. Girls working at a strip club aren't at a singles bar, they're at work. While being overly rude and greedy certainly won't get as much money as a little tact, dancers aren't looking to "mix it up" with the other sex in a social environment, they're trying to do their job.
LM - Good catch! Actually, there is no set number of minutes and I certainly don't sit there "clockwatching" in that regard... it's more a case of giving me a chance to decide whether, outside of the way you look, I'm going to enjoy being around you - and you me, 'cause whether you realize it or not, much can be discerned in that regard in a few minutes worth of talking to you... it bleeds through. On the other hand, I do "clockwatch" in the sense that I very much understand this is your business, and I'll either buy, cut you loose, or tell you what I'm doing in no more than 10 minutes.Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg170025#msg170 025 date=1094351226
And if it takes me ten minutes and ten minutes is too long for you, so be it, and no hard feelings. Like I said, two different business models - but this is your business, you know way more about it than I do, and you run it in the way that makes the most money for you. Other girls use the other model, and apparently it works best for them. You have your kinds of customers and they have their kinds of customers - I just happen to be their kind of customer.
"That's your answer Old Man? I guess you're a Hard Case too...."
- Luke
"Some men, you just can't reach...."
- Boss, re Luke
If there's one thing in my life these years have taught me,
it's that you can always see it coming, but you can never stop it.
-Cowboy Junkies
How about I just clock you over the head and take your wallet! lolThey just want to get you drunk so you loose track of how many dances you are doing and to take full advantage of you. Slick little Fuc*ers! How about I slip a mickey in your drink and take full advantage of you!
Sorry, just feeling a little silly today I guess....




Originally Posted by VADEN link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg170252#msg170 252 date=1094407502
at Vaden's response.
Personally, I never bother offering a drink unless I am planning to get a dance from the lady.
Oh BTW, a drink doesn't have to be alcoholic. If the lady only wants a Coke or water that's fine too.
Coke and a smile!If the lady only wants a Coke or water that's fine too.![]()
I've bought many drinks for dancers without getting dances...I'll tell them I'm waiting for so and so but if your not busy "how about a drink"? If their bored they sit and hang till my friend shows up.
Glod, if a guy tells me that and I know for a fact that he is another girls reg, then I might sit and chat for a few. But if a guy says that and I don't know that he is a reg, I will say ok, hun give me a min and I'll be right back.
I usually go and get the girl and tell then guy that I am sure that he would like her company better.
But that's just how I am. I always ask if the guy has been there before and if so is he there to see someone in particular? If yes, I go get the girl. If no, I stay and chat for a few, then ask for a dance.
But with the drinks, lately I have tried this. If a guy asks to buy me a drink then I tell them, yes but only coke or water or juice. If they still wanna, then I will sit and chat. If not, they I will come back later and see what's up.
I have been leaving the decision up to the guys. And it seems to be working, but it might just be that time of year when it starts to pick up too.
Kitana
I say how about you just give me the money for a drink? Some times drinks prices add up. Especially when I'm drinking $12 Martinis!



when someone asks you this question in response when you ask for a dance, take them up on the offer. sit and have friendly convo with them for the time it takes for you to finish your drink, then say something clever and reel them into the back room. it seems to have worked out for me a number of times at least.


Wow, I think that is very polite. I wish you'd come to tennessee and teach the men who come into my club how to be polite.Originally Posted by verfolgung link=board=9;threadid=10560;start=msg136906#msg136 906 date=1089723530
At my club we do have to buy our own drinks (at regular price) and we aren't allowed to turn them down. So I do appreciate being bought a drink every now and then when I'm thirsty.
But the thing I appreciate the most is someone who will politely tell me they don't want anymore or any dances. If you are nice to me about it then I can respect you and sometimes if you're a nice guy I'll sit with you just to chat a little and relax from all the other guys. But I hate when guys are rude to me.
The other day I was having a bad night and started feeling kind of dizzy once I got off stage. I was walking around the edge of the club and a customer who came to see a specific girl came over and politely asked me to sit down. He then said I looked upset and asked if I was okay... I told him I was feeling kinda dizzy and that along with feeling ill I was upset over having a bad night. He then asked if I needed something to drink and bought it for me and then just talked with me a little and let me sit and gain my composure. It was very nice and I can't say how much I appreciated it after hearing guys say to me... "What's wrong with you?" or "You know you should smile and have more fun."
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