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    Default Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    About a month ago I stopped in a nice club that I had never visited before. It was mid-afternoon and the club was moderately busy. I sat at the bar, ordered a beer and settled in to watch. A half hour later a dancer walks up and asks if I'd like company, that apparantly being the way it works here. So we sat and talked, I bought her 2 drinks (she had a quota to sell). Turns out she's exactly the type of dancer that I look for - young, attractive, intelligent, funny, down to earth, a good conversationalist. I ask about private dances and we head off for a few. Before leaving I ask for her schedule and say I'll be back.

    Two weeks later I return, sit in the same place, order a drink and look around. And there she is sitting at a nearby table with another customer. So here are my questions - (1) how would you handle this if you were her, and (2) what should I do? I know this is a common situation but I'm never sure how to handle it.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    smile at her when you make eye contact

    she'll figure it out

    if it were me, I'd go try to sell a dance to the guy I was talking to, and if he didn't want it, go to the better opportunity

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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    FONDL-

    Assuming she is facing you so as you're in her direct line of visibility.

    Order a large coke, with ice and specify 2-straws from the waitress. When the coke arrives, remove the straws and cut them in half (a sharp key works well).

    Promptly insert two of the halves, one up each nostril, and the other two jam in your lip to give the appearance of long fangs. If you're able to flip your lip into an inverted form, this is good. Eyelids that can be flipped into position also works well. Extra points if you can do pornographic napkin origami (pterydactyl that pops a boner when you pull it's tail is a nice touch). Hand shadow puppetry, or ice cube juggling are also good bonuses.

    I have yet to meet a dancer that could endure this for more than a minute or two before dumping the cheap bastard that's wasting her time at the current moment and coming over.

    I know you asked for ladies input on this, but believe me- this works like a charm every time.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    at what Polecat said.

    On a more serious note, you could do what Emily said: smile and make eye contact and wait for her to come over. Or you could tell the bartender/cocktail waitress that you want to buy this dancer a drink. Usually the bartender/cocktail waitress will go over to the dancer and say "That gentleman sitting over there would like to buy you a drink when you have a chance."

    If the other customer is spending money on her, it might be a little while before she is able to come over. If this is the case, she should come up to you and say "I need to go do some dances, do you mind waiting for a few minutes?" If the customer is just wasting her time, then she should be over by you quickly.






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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=8;threadid=10689;start=msg132279#msg132 279 date=1088806475
    FONDL-

    I know you asked for ladies input on this, but believe me- this works like a charm every time.
    My sides are hurting from laughing so hard


    Seriously FONDL, if you are feeling the slightest pang of jealousy or uncomfortable in anyway whatsoever... take that drink your sipping and splash it in your face. Good, now that you are feeling right again... and you've reminded yourself you are at a SC and she is there doing her job...

    When she is free tell her you want a dance... in the mean time enjoy the other dancers.

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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Thanks all for the good ideas, I especially liked the origami, can you send me directions on how to do it?

    Seriously, I couldn't make eye contact because she was sitting almost directly behind me. I probably wouldn't do that anyway because it seems kind of rude. I'd also never ask a waitress to contact a girl who was sitting with someone else, I think that's really rude. I was hoping she would excuse herself and come over and say hello, but my guess is she didn't recognize me since I mostly had my back to her. And no I wasn't jealous, just looking for some fun.

    Anyway what actually happened was kind of funny but also a little disappointing. Another dancer joined me and it turned out that she was the first girl's older sister. And she was OK but I didn't really like her very much becuase whe was more aggressive with the phoney hustle crap. We tipped her sister when she was on the stage, then went for a few private dances, then I left. (Younger sister was still sitting with the same guy - I hope he tippedher well.) But now I'm probably screwed because every time I go in the older sister is going to join me since I was nice to her. This happened to me once before at another club where every time I went in a dancer who I knew but didn't especially care for would join me. I ultimately stopped going to that club. Guys and girls, how do I dump the older sister without pissing off the younger one? Or maybe it's time to try another club.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    just tell them! both of them will appreciate you for it.

    maybe you think it's rude, but I find it more rude for a guy to waste my time. Just be honest and do it in a polite way. If you are really concerned about breaking someone's heart, tell the younger sister that you'd like to spend more time with her and less with her sister. Trust me...we're used to this.

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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Thanks Emily, that's exactly what I plan to do if I ever get the opportunity. Actually I might not bother, it really isn't that imoprtant to me, but I was kind of curious to hear a dancer's point of view on this kind of situation, which is fairly common in my experience. That is, how to avoid the aggressive dancer when you'd prefer to be with someone a little less aggressive.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily link=board=8;threadid=10689;start=msg132166#msg132 166 date=1088792614
    smile at her when you make eye contact

    she'll figure it out

    if it were me, I'd go try to sell a dance to the guy I was talking to, and if he didn't want it, go to the better opportunity
    that's what I would say......Nice quote Emily!!!

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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    FONDL... I think that you are wrong in perceiving that eye contact or sending a waitress is a rude approach. If you give the waitress $5 and ask her to discreetly let whats-her-name know that FONDL is here and would love to buy her a drink, there just isn't anything rude about that. If the other guys tips better than you, you are out of luck, but if not, she will make her excuses and come see you.
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    OK Brooke, let's assume that I do what you suggest. And then nothing happens but now I'm committed. Do I keep saying no to all the other dancers who come by to say hello, and if so for how long? In my experience if you say no to the first several, the rest will assume you're a cheapskate and won't bother coming around, so I have no choice but wait for as long as it takes, which can be a long time. I don't like waiting, it's boring, I go to have a good time, not to sit and twiddle my thumbs. I think I'm better off forgetting about a dancer who is with a customer and looking for someone new. The only time I'll wait is if I know and like the girl really well.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    FONDL... you are right. I have never worked in clubs with lapdances or table dances, so I forget that there are rules of the game there... so if you ask another girl for a dance, she can't come over or something like that. At my club, we just sit and talk, so one person sitting doesn't stop another from sitting. In clubs with dances being sold, I guess that would differ.

    I would say that you are not committed - you are still the customer and it is your money being spent to make you happy!! If she takes more than a few songs to show, get a dance from someone else.
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    if i'm with another customer and a regular walks in, i polite excuse myself from the conversation of the person i was with (i'd still say seated though) and holler, 'hey dud, wazzup?!' to the regular. then i'd go back to talking to the first guy. damn my ADHD...

    i don't mind if a reg walks in and says 'hi' while walking by or anything.
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    I think this problem just solved itself. I went to the club yesterday and neither sister was working, they'd taken a long weekend off. So I sat at the bar for awhile and had a beer and until another dancer joined me, I bought her a drink, we talked a bit, then she excused herself to go see a regular of hers. So I'm finishing my beer and about to leave when this drop-dead gorgeous blonde struts out on stage. No smile which I interpret to mean a major attitude problem, a not uncommon problem with drop-dead gorgeous blondes. So I watch her a little then get up to leave, getting out a dollar to tip her on the way out since I have to walk right by the stage. I walk up and say hi how are you or somethink equally inane, to which she gives a quick fleeting smile and says "I'm scared to death, this is my first day." Hmmm. So I sit and watch a little more, give her another dollar and ask if she wants to join me, to which she replies yes. As soon as her dance is over, she immediately comes over and sits next to me. She turns out to be a college girl and a major sweetie, and do we ever hit it off. Wow. A drink, some great conversation and we're off to try her first lap dance (actually she had given one previously to someone else but you get the picture.) She had no idea what she was doing but it was fun anyway. And she asked me to come back to see her again which I certainly plan to do. So next time I walk in I'll look for her or little sister, either of whom could easily move into #3 on my all time ATF list. If either is available I'll stay, otherwise I leave. (Blondie could probably even move up to #2. But Funny Girl will forever remain #1.)
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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Well, it sounds like you have it figured out. And much better than my approach.

    I usually sit at the table licking my eyebrows with my 7 inch tongue. After awhile, I pull out a $20 and use it as a napkin and then throw it in the ash tray..

    By the time I have 5 $20's in the ash tray, I have company...

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    LOL Sitri!






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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    i agree with the girls.. i dunno if polecat did that to me id probably i would probably end up snorting any drink i was drinking throught my nose from laughing...


    but yeah just smile make sure she sees you.. maybe a little wave.. when shes on stage tip her better then the other girls...

    like emily i would talk a bit with the guy i was sitting with then get a dance.. after goto see you... with most dancers its first come first serve..

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    Default Re:Ladies, how do you handle this? How should I?

    Getting a girl to join me isn't usually a problem. Getting rid of one who doesn't especially appeal to me is the part that gives me problems. When someone asks if I want company I usually say yes, because I've learned from experience that first impressions can often be very wrong. Once I even became a regular of a girl who I had first rejected. But after I buy a drink and talk a little and find I have no interest, how do I exit gracefully? I've tried buying a dance just to get rid of her. But then the next time I come in chances are she'll immediately join me again. I usually go during the day when places aren't very busy, so sometimes there are more dancers than customers. Which makes it hard to avoid the aggressive ones, who are usually my least favorite. Maybe I'm too polite but I try to be a gentleman.
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    FONDL, if you're waiting for a particular girl, just tell the dancer "I don't want to waste your time; I'm waiting for so-and-so." Even if you're not waiting for anyone in particular, just say "I don't want to hold you up from making money; I'm not planning on buying any dances right now." Most dancers will not be offended and they will appreciate your honesty.






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